NC with Kids

[movingforward2013]

My ex and I have a child together. And he has contacted me daily since the break up, usually using his son as a reason. My ex is very close with his family and speaks to his mother and sister at least once a day so I expected no different with his 2 years old.... But I did not expect us not to be together. Of course, if we were together he would have daily contact with both me and our son but now I am trying to move on, I find this difficult that he is acting no different. Even he said we should limit our contact then contacted me the very next morning asking me if I hated him and that he is sick to his stomach what he did to me for a fling.

 

Daily, he will send a text asking how did his son sleep or how is his son doing (this is normal, he did this while we were in relationship) then follow it up with a text that he is sorry, trying to think of a way to fix this, thinks time apart will be good, he didn't mean to hurt me etc. That usually gets us talking about our feelings and what happened but he has yet to say he wants his family back and willing to work this out. He feels once he is back together mentally, we should talk face to face about us (he is in another state right now) and make decisions from there.

 

But I want to move on, not be stuck in limbo. I am talking to another guy which helps quell the pain of all of what has happened, but I feel if I don't start moving forward in my dating life, I will lose the control I have in the situation and be that "dumper" begging. I would be lying if I say I don't want to be with my ex... He is father of my son, we were engaged, and I was suppose to relocate to his new area. All of our dreams are shattered because he got lonely and met another girl. I think he realizes how much he messed up his family for a fling but each day that passes and he does nothing to rectify the situation, I lose hope and want to move on.

 

So how do you do NC with an ex who has always contacted daily in regards to his kid? Or better question, since he is always contacting me in regards to his child, maybe that will help him fix this as he claims he is trying to do. He said he was very confused but I don't know how he confused 5 years, our family, joint accounts, wedding and etc to two weeks with her. I get he is lonely but I was lonely too and didn't start seeing someone else within weeks of about to be married.