Lyrellis Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 Hi I've never posted on here before but this time I desperately need some help. My friends just make jokes, none of them have ever been in relationships as long as mine. So I've just broken up with my boyfriend of three years, we were together when we were 17 for a year and broke up for awhile when he left me for someone else. We got back together when I was 20 and were together for three years. Throughout those three years he had a hard time with something and I stuck with him and put up with his moods and taking everything out on me, halfway through the relationship he moved to another city to go to another uni and it was hard but we managed the long distance. It was a stupidly serious relationship he told me I was the one and he wanted to marry me one day we just needed to wait until I graduated this year and I could move with him and we could get engaged. So about a month ago he rings me up and told me he was breaking up with me because we have nothing in common anymore, that he's studying a harder degree and I'm studying a stupid one so I'm just not intelligent enough to have an intellectual conversation with him he also recently 'found god' and says god was telling him not to be with me through song and I'm not religious enough to have a deep enough conversation. I was doing ok and then I found out he had been seeing another girl from church behind my back and he said he was in love with her. For a month he was sleeping with me and telling me he loves me and doing all the nice things we always did but he was doing them with her as well. When we broke up he said made me look him in the eyes and tell him I believed he wasn't over me and he wouldn't ever cheat now I feel sick thinking about how easily he lied considering he was with her when he said it. I don't understand two months ago he was telling me I was the one and now he's in love with someone else. No guy I've been with has ever been sad to lose me, I thought he would at least take some time to get over me. I feel worthless and irrelevant He said our relationship never meant anything and I should have seen it coming because I had always been beneath him and he was better than me. When we first broke up I was doing ok but now I feel broken, and defeated and empty. I can't stop crying I've always bounced back but it's like this has broken me. I know this is long I'm sorry It's an even longer story trust me. I just need to hear from someone whose been through it and found the other side.
WhatYouWantToHear Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 This is like taking a taxi to an airport, having the driver get lost and getting you to the terminal 10 minutes after your flight took off, seeing on TV that the plan crashed on landing and then complaing about that stupid taxi driver. You dodged a bullet here--don't be sad, be happy. He did you a favor. You want a lifetime of that nutbag? You got off easy with just a couple years. I know you would rather this have not happened at all, but its better that it happened now than 3 years from now when you are married and pregnant with your 2nd kid with him. Bullet dodged, be happy.
HaveFaithxx Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 My bf broke up with me a month and a half ago. It hurt like hell because he was absolutely wonderful until he broke up. That's why it hurt. But this guy? The things he said to you are downright disrespectful and mean. He doesnt deserve a tear. He did you a favor. It's hard, but you will get over it. You will find someone who would never say those hurtful things to you, and you will realize how pathetic he is. To get over my break up, I booked a last minute trip to Indonesia, I partied like mad, made out with some hotties, went on a three day motorbike trip around the island. Now I am home and ready to conquer the world. My ex bf really missed out on an amazing girl as I see it now and doesnt deserve a minute of my time. NC all the way. Good luck. Life is a great adventure, go out and have fun. If you dont feel like it, force yourself anyways.
Author Lyrellis Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 I think the hard thing is when things were good they were beyond amazing he was so lovely. I spent two months working in America and he used to travel to my parents house to have lunch and call me from there he said being with my family was like being with me. I can see now how crazy he is I can see that, totally deluded and egotistical. I know he's not better than me, my head knows all that, me head knows I dodged a bullet and I'm totally better off. I even know I had tiny doubts every time he talked about marriage and I couldn't deal with how deeply into the church he was getting. It's just that ever other part of me else feels so devastated regardless of how much my head says it was for the best...
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