venusianx13 Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 I hadn't been seeing her for very long (only about two months) but she was out of network, and it was taking a toll on me (financially). She was slow to print me out the forms I needed to submit for reimbursement through my insurance, too. Perhaps I would have stuck it out had I actually gotten some benefit from seeing her, but I didn't. She was very spiritual (as am I), and our sessions always ended up being long and drawn out spiritual discussions. I can appreciate that, yet it left much to be desired, as my initial reason for seeing her was for some issues with anxiety, the struggles of being a single mom, and being unhappy with my job, as well as dealing with head-strong and somewhat invasive and sometimes toxic parents as an adult. I never left a visit feeling like I had gained any insight or received any good guidance. I guess I'm just posting here to vent, as I feel slightly bad for never rescheduling with her. She has tried to call me a few times and I've been ignoring her calls. I don't know... I don't really have the heart to tell her that she wasn't helping me...
whichwayisup Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 (edited) You paid her for to be your therapist, not your friend - not your buddy and not someone to have spiritual conversations with. She was hired to help you with your anxiety issues and didn't focus on that and you. You did the right thing. Find someone else who will listen to you, help you cope and deal with your anxiety. Just tell her that it wasn't working for you and that you appreciate her time spent with you but it would be best if you didn't continue therapy with her. No need to get into details..she has no right to expect you to give her big explanations as to why you don't want her see her anymore. Been in your shoes, I suffered from anxiety and found a great therapist who specialized in cognitive behaviour therapy. It saved me. Try that type of counseling, it'll help you more than you'll ever know! Edited January 4, 2013 by whichwayisup
Art_Critic Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 Vent away... She is a professional and as such you don't owe her an explanation as to why you stopped seeing her. If she asks for one then give it to her straight.
Author venusianx13 Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 Thanks... I guess I feel bad because she really liked me (she thought I was special, lol) It was nice to connect with someone about spiritual things, but I needed a real kick in the butt about some stuff and I just wasn't getting it. My boyfriend, upon hearing of all of this, deemed her a scam artist, and I don't think that's quite true... however, I was emptying my pockets for this woman and not getting what I was paying for. I needed to skip an appointment one week due to financial constraints, and she had a hard time hearing this. I had to be really adamant about it and insist upon scheduling two weeks out, instead of one week. I think that's where I finally realized that things just weren't working out and did not call her to set up an appointment again. If she calls again, I will tell her it became financially constraining for me to be doing this weekly, and that I didn't feel I was getting what I was looking for, helpwise.
whichwayisup Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 Thanks... I guess I feel bad because she really liked me (she thought I was special, lol) It was nice to connect with someone about spiritual things, but I needed a real kick in the butt about some stuff and I just wasn't getting it. My boyfriend, upon hearing of all of this, deemed her a scam artist, and I don't think that's quite true... however, I was emptying my pockets for this woman and not getting what I was paying for. I needed to skip an appointment one week due to financial constraints, and she had a hard time hearing this. I had to be really adamant about it and insist upon scheduling two weeks out, instead of one week. I think that's where I finally realized that things just weren't working out and did not call her to set up an appointment again. If she calls again, I will tell her it became financially constraining for me to be doing this weekly, and that I didn't feel I was getting what I was looking for, helpwise. Yes - You are paying her for a service and you were not getting your money's worth. She is/was your T, not your 'friend'. Being friendly is one thing, but having chats that have nothing to do with the reason why you're in therapy is wrong. She took your money and didn't do her job.
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