Trisb4u Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 (edited) Ok so my girlfriend finished me just over three months ago after 6 and a half years together. She ended things because we werent intimate anymore (i understand how important it is so no need to have a go about this). Hindsight hey. No conversation, discussion about things just an end. First i knew there was problem. She said she had been crying herself to sleep at night but never showed any problems when we were together during the day. I can see now looking back it was a difficult relationship as she had two kids from a two different dads which made spending time alone very difficult as they were always with us and i would go home at 10.00 as up at 6.30am and they wouldnt go bed till 11.00. We also had one argument that got her upset. It was because i had a lie in at my house and woke up to valet my car and my friend came round. She text me having a go at me saying we could have done something today. I got annoyed because nothing was planned. I tried to voice my side of the story as i felt it was unfair because she constantly needed me up at her house. I work all day, she didnt. I never seemed to be able to do what i wanted to do which i told her. She made me feel like i always had to go straight to hers after work which i didnt mind but sometimes i just wanted an hour to myself. This was one of the very few times i had ever stuck up for myself She could never come to me as she didnt drive + had the kids who really could of been left on there own at 13 and 15 but she never wanted to leave them alone. A bit one sided but i put up with it. She took it all wrong and thought that i didnt want to see her. Well anyway back to my story. We had a mutual friend of ours who had recently been dumped by his girlfriend for being violent, angry and physically abusive to her. He was going round my ex's for support. So was his ex on different occasions obviously. I went her house one night and he was there. My ex greated me by saying what are you doing here??? I trusted her whole heartedly. I went round every night apart from thursday night so she knew i would be coming to see her at some point. When anyway after she finished me i found out two week later after our six years together she was dating him and had already slept with him. Major blow to my heart. Every scenario i come across ends with her just being cruel to me. She either fell out of love with me a long time ago and was stringing me along till someone better came along or it only took her a maximum of three weeks to stop loving me. She also said we dont do anything together anymore which she admitted was her fault to but three before the end she had her birthday party at her's everything seemed fine and i spent a load of money on presents, a week before that we went ice skating as a family again fine, a couple of weeks before that we went to our friend birthday party so it's not like we never did anything. Also a week before the end she was at my house while my parents were away again fine. She also said she knew i never wanted to be in the relationship which was complete bull as she was the one to end it. And she felt like we are just friends. I am just pissed off, pissed with myself for not being intimate, pissed off for not seeing the signs, pissed off for feeling i had been used, pissed off because she moved on in two weeks, pissed off because she is sleeping with my suposide friend and pissed off because she never communicated anything was wrong AHHHHHHHHH God there is so much more to say. We had never had any other problems in the relationship. It's like things got bad and she bailed after 6 years. Edited January 4, 2013 by Trisb4u
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