369thegoosedrankwine Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 This is very simple I guess. My girlfriend is bisexual. She was bi before we met and while she had not had a relationship with a woman she had been with many. In our younger years (we have been together 18 years) we experimented with threesomes and I guess we just grew out if it because it has been many years since we have done this. The thing is that I know she is missing it. I see her look at other woman and I can see the way she flirts with them when she gets a little tipsy. I have encouraged her to explore this, to not hold back and told her I am comfortable with her doing this alone, there is no need for me to be involved. She has not taken me up on the offer except for one kiss with a friend of a friend of a friend type thing at a party not long ago. The trouble is she stopped it because she wanted me involved and invited this girl back to our place for a threesome. The girl wasn’t interested so nothing happened and my wife wouldn’t go any further with her alone. I know most guys will ridicule me for this but I am over threesomes. I would not like to see her with another man and would have thought she would have felt the same (me with another woman of course). My reasoning is that the woman can give her things that I cannot simply because she is a woman. I get everything I could want or need from my girl so I have no need for another woman. I am not bisexual but would hope that if I was she would let me explore that. I guess my question is that I am not weird for not wanting the threesomes am I? My girlfriend has been stirring the pot telling me to man up and things like that. I know it is just in jest but I think there may be just a little truth in it. And how do I convince her that I truly am ok with her exploring her bisexuality and I am not going to turn into some ranting jealous psycho? I am not trying to pressure he into this at all, I know she wants it, she admits she wants it (although with me involved) she is attractive and flirtatious and has no trouble attracting other women. Just looking for opinions or similar experiences so I can get in tune with what my girl is thinking on this issue.
Mrlonelyone Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 I am a bisexual so I can speak to what your SO is going through. Just one question about the hilited words. Is she your girlfriend or your wife? This is very simple I guess. My girlfriend is bisexual. She was bi before we met and while she had not had a relationship with a woman she had been with many. In our younger years (we have been together 18 years) we experimented with threesomes and I guess we just grew out if it because it has been many years since we have done this. The thing is that I know she is missing it. I see her look at other woman and I can see the way she flirts with them when she gets a little tipsy. I have encouraged her to explore this, to not hold back and told her I am comfortable with her doing this alone, there is no need for me to be involved. She has not taken me up on the offer except for one kiss with a friend of a friend of a friend type thing at a party not long ago. The trouble is she stopped it because she wanted me involved and invited this girl back to our place for a threesome. The girl wasn’t interested so nothing happened and my wife wouldn’t go any further with her alone. I know most guys will ridicule me for this but I am over threesomes. I would not like to see her with another man and would have thought she would have felt the same (me with another woman of course). Her actions at a party while tipsy do not signify that she wants to actually be with those women. Some people flirt a little and sexually tease a little as part of good fun. Then there is this. My reasoning is that the woman can give her things that I cannot simply because she is a woman. I get everything I could want or need from my girl so I have no need for another woman. I am not bisexual but would hope that if I was she would let me explore that. I guess my question is that I am not weird for not wanting the threesomes am I? My girlfriend has been stirring the pot telling me to man up and things like that. I know it is just in jest but I think there may be just a little truth in it. And how do I convince her that I truly am ok with her exploring her bisexuality and I am not going to turn into some ranting jealous psycho? I am not trying to pressure he into this at all, I know she wants it, she admits she wants it (although with me involved) she is attractive and flirtatious and has no trouble attracting other women. Just looking for opinions or similar experiences so I can get in tune with what my girl is thinking on this issue. Being a bisexual isn't about needing to have both penis and vagina at the same time. Being bisexual is about not caring weather your partner has a penis or vagina.* Being bisexual isn't about wanting to have threesomes. Being bisexual is about wanting to connect with someone attractive physically and mentally without regard for their sex organs. TL;DR Your girlfriend/wife is 100% ok with just being with you. Don't even worry that she must want to be with a woman or anything.
Author 369thegoosedrankwine Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 Just one question about the hilited words. Is she your girlfriend or your wife? Not married so I guess we are technically defacto married as we have been together for that long. TL;DR Your girlfriend/wife is 100% ok with just being with you. Don't even worry that she must want to be with a woman or anything. I understand all you have said but we have spoken and she has acknowledged that she would like to be with women again, that is not an issue, the issue is more that she wants to have me involved and I dont. I am just feeling it is something she wants to do but is wary of doing it because I am not going to be involved. Sort of like I am holding her back in a weird and twisted way. If you get what I mean.
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