manolo Posted August 18, 2004 Posted August 18, 2004 Hello everyone. O.K. here is the thing. Me and my ex broke up seven months ago but we have been keeping in touch. During those seven months we both have been dating other people but, we both admited to each other that I still think about her alot and that she also thinks about me. Anyway, to get to the point, she moved out of state two weeks ago to work and go to school. By the way she is 22 years old if that makes a difference and I'm 25. The week before she left we had a great time and even got us a hotel room and you know what went on from there. When she left she hasn't call me in a week. Well of coarse she had a lot of moving around to do so, I thought nothing of it. Well anyway, she calls me a week later and tells me how much she misses me and wants me to go fly out there soon. I said yes but I am having second thoughts about it. I asked her if she is talking to anyone or if she has giving her phone number out to any guy because I know she has been going out alot. I don't wanna visit my ex girlfriend if she is talking to someone or even has interest in someone. I know that she has met alot of people and people asked her out on dates. It's a new city for her she started parting with her cousin which I don't trust. Her cousin is 20 years old and wild. Well, when I asked her about her giving her phone away is said no. What she does not know is that I know her code to check her messages on her cell phone. I found out that she lied to me so, now I don't know how to tell her that I snooped around and check your messages and that I don't wanna go see her. Ladies, I have a question. Is habbit stronger than love? Because if it is, this is a perfect example. I am not the kind of person that snoops around on their ex's. I just needed to know because I was suspicous and didn't wanna wast my money, fly to another state and find a surprise that can cause a scene or a miserable time. I'm just protecting myself. Please give some advise on this matter. Thanks.
honey2005 Posted August 18, 2004 Posted August 18, 2004 I snooped on my ex after our break up, too:(. I know it was wrong, but I needed to know what was going on. I wasn't given any explaination of any kind and I had to find out. Well, I did find out, and what I found out wasn't very good. I guess I deserved it though for snooping. Anyway, I think you just need to be honest with her. If there is any hope of you two getting back together, you need to tell her the truth. Just tell her that you know that she has been giving out her number to guys, that it hurt your feelings and that you don't think you want to come visit her. See what her response to that is and go from there. Hope I helped.
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