emily613 Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 (edited) My ex and I were in a serious relationship for a year. He is a very ambitious man and moved to another continent for work. I am 31 and didn't want to wait around for him to sort out his life, and long distance was hard, so we broke up after a series of arguments. We decided to stay friends and keep in touch. Within weeks of our break up, he had a new gf. His new relationship moved very quickly. They met each other's parents within 2 months, and they were writing I love you on their Facebook walls and she tags pictures of them together regularly. 4 months into their relationship,we met up when he was in town and he cheated on her with me. I felt guilty about the situation and we agreed it would never happen again. He has not been in town since then to my knowledge. He has been with his gf for a year and a half now, so it doesn’t seem like rebound. We have stayed in touch as friends and do video chat about once a month. For a while our conversations were pretty neutral and we didn’t talk about his relationship or my dating life, but lately he has been complimenting me, joked about us getting married, said he might move back eventually. He emailed me on New Year's day to wish me happy new year and says he wants to chat. I thought he might have broken up with his gf recently, but I checked his Facebook profile and they are still together as she still posts constantly on his wall about how amazing he is and tags photos of them on dates and vacations. Based on Facebook, they look so in love. Question: 1) Do youthink his behaviour is inappropriate? 2) Does it sound like he wants to get back together, or is he trying to play me? 3) My excomes across as a really nice, innocent guy. His friends, family, and girlfriend all think he is a really good person, but I think his behaviour says otherwise. It annoys me that he is getting away with being a hypocrite. What should I do? I still have feelings for him, but I'm not sure what he wants, and I don't know if I could be in a relationship with him again given his character flaws. If he cheated on his gf with me, he could have cheated on me too. Edited January 4, 2013 by emily613
PogoStick Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 He's being a hypocrite? You're judging him for cheating in which you willingly (if not happily) participated. 1) Do youthink his behaviour is inappropriate? No more than yours, but it doesn't matter. 2) Does it sound like he wants to get back together, or is he trying to play me? No. You said he seems to be in love with another woman. How does that sound like he wants to be with you? 3) What should I do? I'm sorry that you have been hurt and have struggled to move on but it's time you do. He may in fact miss you, but that doesn't mean you should act upon it.
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