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Lessonns I learned from my divorce - if I can only make myself listen to MYSELF

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The answer is yes.

 

Here's my story (dont worry, I'll keep it short)

 

My ex WIFE and I were together for 12 years when i found out she had been cheating for the last 3.

 

I was crushed...devastated...broken. After 6 months, I actually checked myself into a facility because I was having suicidal thoughts.

 

Fast forward

 

 

7, almost 8 years later, I can actually crack JOKES about my ex wife's promiscuity and i feel NOTHING.

 

I could go to the plantation where we were married, stand in the EXACT spot where I stood with her hand in mine and said the words "i do" and feel NOTHING.

 

In the time we've been split, she's had at LEAST 15-20 "boyfriends" and probably slept with 3x that many.

 

Hell, I just found out TODAY that she's letting two guys bang her at once. Know what my reaction was? I LAUGHED. As in, I really actually LAUGHED.

 

My response was "yea..sounds like her alright."

 

One of my all-time favorite facebook status updates that i wrote said "Today, someone asked me if it bothered me to see my exwife with her boyfriend. Hell no it doesnt hurt, it makes me feel GREAT. My parents always taught me to give away my used toys to the less fortunate."

 

 

 

so yeah, it WILL happen. and eventually, you will even be able to make JOKES about it...because you honestly, truly, will NOT care anymore.

 

now...I just gotta make myself listen...to myself. lol

 

Last tip: the opposite of love is ***NOT*** hate. The opposite of love is indifference. If you are still angry, then by default, you still love this person. This works in both directions.

 

You do NOT try to get to place of anger for your ex. TRUE resolution is complete and total indifference to them at all.

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apparently, spelling was not one of them. lol

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Yep, the opposite of love is indeed indifference. The way I feel about all my exes. Shame the road to indifference is such a long one ;)

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Yep, the opposite of love is indeed indifference. The way I feel about all my exes. Shame the road to indifference is such a long one ;)

 

:( the most rough road to take and not by choice... Who wants an adventure to indifference

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