ben.rome Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 (edited) So I am pretty confused and need some advice... I'm 26 and work with this girl (25) who I recently began dating. I know you aren't supposed to date people from work but we work at separate offices and hardly run into each other or contact each other during work, plus I just had to ask her out! So in full disclosure I tried to ignore my feelings because of the whole work thing, that lasted about 6 months before I had to ask her out. Good news is she said yes. I took her out to a nice dinner and we had a great first date. Second date we had a quick dinner and actually ran into a few of my friends, followed that up with mini golf. I tried to kiss her that night and failed, but she did agree on a third date. We went holiday shopping a week later and grabbed some dinner. I backed off this time and we had yet another great date of laughing and getting to know each other without a single awkward moment. There has been 2 times I have asked her out where she couldn't go but they seemed like reasonable excuses. On New Years I asked her to dinner and she said yes, we had a great time and then she came with me to a friends house for a small party. She got along with my friends, we shared a short new years kiss, and a kiss again later. We didn't want to drive home so we stayed on the couch and she slept in my arms. So the problem is, she never calls me or texts me. All of the dates were initiated by me. She does not ever call me to just talk or to meet up again. However, when I call her (or she seems to answer better to texting) she may take a while to get back to me but keeps agreeing to go out. I've asked her to come up with something fun that she would like to do together and let me know, she says she has an idea but I asked her to do that weeks ago and I am still the one initiating everything. So the main question is... is she that into me? Or is she stringing me along for one reason or another? Every other girl I've ever dated would be calling me way more often, and would seem like they can't wait to hang out again. When I'm with this girl it seems like "wow this is great we both are really into each other" but once we are separate it seems like she may care less to ever go out again. I leave each date thinking I'm in, and then time goes by and I have to ask her out again, I don't want to chase her much longer. Edited January 4, 2013 by ben.rome
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