awesomesauce Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 Alright im kinda in a bind the past week to put it lightly, i just don't get an erection like i used to. I have been single now for the past 4 months and even after my break up, i was fine. I unfortunately started watching porn again with my break up, even after almost a year and half of not watching it since my ex gf was satisfying me, no sex but it was never had a problem with me being turned on. Like it used to happen randomly throughout the day, and well i honestly cant remember the last time i was extremely turned on, even porn doesn't affect me now; maybe i have been watching to much of it. I don't know, i haven't really changed my diet, im actually been eating healthy by trying to eat more protein food since im trying to gain muscle, and im working out more regularly. I will say, im not sleeping well these past couple of weeks, i just cant seem to fall asleep at night, like im literally laying in bed at 4 am wide awake. I'm definitely over my ex, even though i did talk to her just the other day and found out shes changed completely, going out drinking, hanging out with ppl that's not her, and messing up in school. That makes me feel great, and i feel more attractive than ever since i started working out, so i dont know what it is. Im cutting off the porn to see if that helps, or maybe i just need to find me a lady friend. Im just wondering has anybody had this happen to them, im almost 21 and wouldn't think this would be happening at this age, so im a little concerned. Any advice would be appreciated.
crashvector Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 Alright im kinda in a bind the past week to put it lightly, i just don't get an erection like i used to. I have been single now for the past 4 months and even after my break up, i was fine. I unfortunately started watching porn again with my break up, even after almost a year and half of not watching it since my ex gf was satisfying me, no sex but it was never had a problem with me being turned on. Like it used to happen randomly throughout the day, and well i honestly cant remember the last time i was extremely turned on, even porn doesn't affect me now; maybe i have been watching to much of it. I don't know, i haven't really changed my diet, im actually been eating healthy by trying to eat more protein food since im trying to gain muscle, and im working out more regularly. I will say, im not sleeping well these past couple of weeks, i just cant seem to fall asleep at night, like im literally laying in bed at 4 am wide awake. I'm definitely over my ex, even though i did talk to her just the other day and found out shes changed completely, going out drinking, hanging out with ppl that's not her, and messing up in school. That makes me feel great, and i feel more attractive than ever since i started working out, so i dont know what it is. Im cutting off the porn to see if that helps, or maybe i just need to find me a lady friend. Im just wondering has anybody had this happen to them, im almost 21 and wouldn't think this would be happening at this age, so im a little concerned. Any advice would be appreciated. Honestly, it happens to literally EVERY man at some point, or at various points. 90% of the time, the cause is emotional.
christine07 Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 My EX 'Claims' this happened to him too after we broke up for four months.. even though he was dating someone a day after we broke up...I'm not saying your denying it or anything! (sorry if i sounded so negative) but my ex was a liar and I think he said it in a weird way to make me feel some remorse for him.. now I sorta believe it was true.. Anyways... I do believe i can be emotional. He was/has always had a problem with his emotions and attachment issues. I'm not saying you do...but he had these problems the transferred over from his past relationship. He also told me he saw a shrink very recently after we broke up for it... I believe it can stem from your relationship/breakup yet I have no other contact with him about how he got over it or why it happened. I do believe it can be caused from emotional/stress/ distress.
crashvector Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 My EX 'Claims' this happened to him too after we broke up for four months.. even though he was dating someone a day after we broke up...I'm not saying your denying it or anything! (sorry if i sounded so negative) but my ex was a liar and I think he said it in a weird way to make me feel some remorse for him.. now I sorta believe it was true.. Anyways... I do believe i can be emotional. He was/has always had a problem with his emotions and attachment issues. I'm not saying you do...but he had these problems the transferred over from his past relationship. He also told me he saw a shrink very recently after we broke up for it... I believe it can stem from your relationship/breakup yet I have no other contact with him about how he got over it or why it happened. I do believe it can be caused from emotional/stress/ distress. When my ex wife and I divorced 7 years ago, i went 3 YEARS without caring about sex at all. Trust me...its emotionally-based like 90% of the time at least lol I was just too hurt to even think about sex.
Feelin Frisky Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 You're too young and it's been too short a time for this to be a crisis. Be careful what you tell yourself, you might just believe it. (In other words relax and don't give yourself some kind of performance anxiety.) If you don't return to normality with a month or two, see a urologist.
christine07 Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 When my ex wife and I divorced 7 years ago, i went 3 YEARS without caring about sex at all. Trust me...its emotionally-based like 90% of the time at least lol I was just too hurt to even think about sex. Wow I find that interesting cuz the first thing I did when I was single was go out and get busy. Maybe not 'healthy' but I still craved sex as strong as before
crashvector Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 Wow I find that interesting cuz the first thing I did when I was single was go out and get busy. Maybe not 'healthy' but I still craved sex as strong as before SSRI antidepressants also are known to kill libido....or in the worse case, they dont cut your libido, but prevent you from having an orgasm. Hell...im having "withdrawls" already from my exfiance, if you know what I mean. at least I know this time, I wont be single/going without sex for three YEARS this time.
Mr.White Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 I was not horny for about two-three weeks in December because of my 'break' and then break up. Then I met this lady friend and my pecker was fine ever since then (nothing happened, but it showed me that I could be attracted to other girls physically and emotionally) Ever since then I am normal on all levels and have hit the gym more ferociously then ever. You need to get your confidence back I believe. I know my confidence took a huge blow from the break up. Building it back slowly but surely, and higher then ever!
crashvector Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 I just noticed...you practically NEVER see women in forums like this saying "Yeah...after my ex dumped me or I dumped him, I used to look at porn and masturbate all the time" Seems to be a male thing lol 2
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