inexplored78 Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 I need someone that can helpme find the answers and some light towards the marital issue I am going throughright now. Got married in April 2010 abroad. Came back to canada May2010. As soon as after my marriage my wife started talking about divorce. Ifreeked out and went back to see her in Dec 2010 and this time I decided tostay for 6 months to see how things are. Made a plan for our honeymoon(Malaysia + Thialand), made all the arrangements (Ticket and Hotels) and wewere about to leave in a week time when my wife started picking up fights andto the point that she called to her parents and left with them to theirresidence, and abandoned our honeymoon. I thought at the time that she isimmature and forgave her. During this time, she was pregnant for about 3months. I had to come back to Canada for job and apply for herimmigration. So Came back (30 May, 2011). She gave birth to beautiful baby boyin Sep 2011. I filled for her immigration and in the mean time, she just keptmaking problems to create fights and show to family and friends that I amtreated her very bad and not keeping her happy. Yet again after being tired ofall this, I decided to go back home to see my newly born and wife. She dideverything to stop me coming through fights and etc. Her parents having seenthe tears of their daughter and believed that I was doing something wrong. So Iflew again on Jan 2012. When I went there, she kept creating problems, herparents asked me to leave without her till the matter is resolved. I travelledto my residence (A different City) and stayed alone there till April 2012.After a very long fight, she decided to come back. I opened my arms wide and welcomedher and forgave her yet once again, And stayed with her till end of June 2012.When I came back, things stayed calmed till end of August 2012. Since late September 2012she started the same routine and started cutting off communication one afterthe other. I felt something is really wrong. I started doing some research andfound a facebook prifile under her name (without any personal info or pics).There were only four friends but I started viewing each one of their profilevery carefully. One of the guy kept leaving messages on his prifile for somegirl to return back to his life. The more his messages got intense, the moreshe started having more and more problems with me. Now since early December2012. She has cutt almost all communication and we barely talk. This guy in themean time leaving messages to agitate the situation more and more. I stronglybelieve after observing this profile for about 4-5 months that there isdefinitely something fishy here. But the problem is that when I brought thisissue with my immediate family, they felt that it can not be right. Since the past one month sheis sending me quotes or poetry in the context of leaving our relation. She doesn’tsay this openly but only in hidden text. She doesn’t want to talk as husband orwife should. If she is on the phone, she will barely say anything. There is no roomfor me to say anything and if I do, I do not get a straight answer. I am so faraway and not able to grab onto any solid evidence. The facebook profile of theparticular person, is leaving messages that indicates very clearly that thegirl he was pursuing has made up her mind to leave her marriage. And here I amgetting messages from my wife, pertaining the same way of language. The suspiciousfacebook profile has a big network of friends that regularly talk and give feedback and check the status of the issue. I feel that I am trapped in a greatdeal of a mind game, and a part of me thinks that most likely my wife is also apart of this all. My birthday just passed, and my wife acted very cold and nocaring at all. I want to save this marriagefor the sake of my kids and my wife. But at this point I am so confused that ifthis is even possible???? I am just way too muchconfused, depressed and lost. My family thinks that I am over reacting aboutthe facebook issue, but when I tell them that how she is acting with me, they donot understand as she is very serene and calm with all of them. I NEEED HELP,PLEASE SOMEONE THAT CAN LISTEN TO ME AND TELL ME WHERE MIGHT BE THINGS WRONG.PLEASE ASK QUESTIONS IF YOU HAVE ANY. THANKS
clia Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 This is the most bizarre story I've ever read. Have you ever lived in the same place as her? Are you living together now? How often are you seeing her / speaking to her? Why are you living apart? It appears you have spent the majority of your "marriage" apart. Why? How did you even meet and get married? From the way you tell it, this woman does not seem interested in you in the least, and never has been, so I'm a bit flummoxed as to how and why you married her. What you have does not even sound like a marriage. I get that you want to try to save things for your kid, but it sounds like a completely miserable situation to me. Have you asked your wife if she wants to remain married to you? Have you discussed any of your concerns with her over the past two years?
johnmarry123 Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 Says a lot about me. It must do. Over the last two years I have realised that people who I thought were good friends did not feel the same way
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