jrice94 Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 I'm not a real big guy, to put in nicely i'm husky ( 5'11 185-190). A lot of times i work late, so on my way home, i just figure it's late, so i grab Taco Bell, when i get home she gets annoyed and goes off about weight gain and cholesterol etc. Another example, it was Christmas dinner, so i finish my first plate and as i'm going back up for round 2 she looks at me "Babe, do you think you really need seconds?" I didn't get a 2nd plate. And finally, it was New Years Day, i'm settling down to watch football all day and i've brought all the good stuff, wings, Oreos, popcorn, Mountain Dew,nachos etc she came home from Target after returning a dress. She goes off on me " Its all junk, how can you eat that? it's so bad for you, you'll end up obese". I'm 18 as is she, i run at least 4 miles a day, my metabolism is fine. She's big health nut( eats on organic and turkey burgers are horrible). I want her to stop nagging me, i love her and i appreciate that she's looking out for my health but i think at 18 i can make my own decisions on what i eat. Suggestions on how to talk to her??
soccerrprp Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 jrice, when you're in a relationship, man, it's not all about you. if you feel that she is sincerely concerned about your health, why not make a compromise? talk to her about cutting out much of that junk food and perhaps ask her to run with you. encourage her to make more appetizing meals that are healthier and tastier for you. if she's a big health nut, this is not going to go away. you both need to compromise... 1
Author jrice94 Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 thanks for the advice i appreciate it
Author jrice94 Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 i'm not treated like crap, i'm nagged, big difference
Author jrice94 Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 you do have a point, there does seem to be a double standard between men and women
xxoo Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 You need to eat what you are going to eat without comment. She needs to realize that she can't control what you eat, and she shouldn't want to. Of course, there is plenty of room for you to improve your diet But that conversation should not be happening at Christmas dinner! Just brush it off, good naturedly. When she starts in with "Babe...", just flash a smile and say, "Babe, I'm gonna eat." And eat. At a different time, open a conversation about the topic. Ask what her concerns are about your diet. Tell her your concerns about feeling micromanaged, and mothered (shudder...that should give her pause...). 1
40 Fonzarelli Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 Definitely a double standard. Even the mention of exercising together and a woman might say "are you saying im fat????" OP its clear you guys have conflicting lifestyles. I doubt she is going to change so you just have to figure out if she is worth eating more healthy for. Or find a girl who likes to eat like yourself. 2
orionboxing Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 I'm not a real big guy, to put in nicely i'm husky ( 5'11 185-190). A lot of times i work late, so on my way home, i just figure it's late, so i grab Taco Bell, when i get home she gets annoyed and goes off about weight gain and cholesterol etc. Another example, it was Christmas dinner, so i finish my first plate and as i'm going back up for round 2 she looks at me "Babe, do you think you really need seconds?" I didn't get a 2nd plate. And finally, it was New Years Day, i'm settling down to watch football all day and i've brought all the good stuff, wings, Oreos, popcorn, Mountain Dew,nachos etc she came home from Target after returning a dress. She goes off on me " Its all junk, how can you eat that? it's so bad for you, you'll end up obese". I'm 18 as is she, i run at least 4 miles a day, my metabolism is fine. She's big health nut( eats on organic and turkey burgers are horrible). I want her to stop nagging me, i love her and i appreciate that she's looking out for my health but i think at 18 i can make my own decisions on what i eat. Suggestions on how to talk to her?? LOL. You should meet my ex-wife. She nagged me for having six-pack abs, 7% body fat, being too skinny and running 70 miles per week. I am 6-2, 155 lbs, and she wanted me to be your weight. My suggestion is maybe eat a little better to make her happy, but don't neglect Taco Bell. You need to Live Mas. Have her go to a routine DR. check-up to prove that you are clean bill of health...and put your foot down and respect yourself. Don't let the lady push you around like that, my friend. This will only lead to more problems.
nessaaa Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 I love how the tables have turned.. Usually its the men complaining about their womans weight.
edgygirl Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 I love how the tables have turned.. Usually its the men complaining about their womans weight. Me too. But the difference is women usually complain because they care about the guy's health, whereas men who complain are usually thinking about the girl's figure. 4
christine07 Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 I do this sometime to my BF. I nag him about his weight, hes about the same as you. These are my reasons if this helps you at all: I feel like I take really good care of myself ie: eat well, exercise, and make and effort to make a healthy choice even when I have a 'cheat' day. When I see my BF just pigging out and going all out on junk food it makes me mad. Here I am trying to look awesome for him, and he isn't even trying to/making an effort to do the same for me. This makes me less attracted to him physically. Shallow? Maybe, but I want my man to look good. That's why I nag him about what hes shoving in his face. Yes he exercises as well, but still.. it just maintains the weight.. thats what makes me nag. 3
Author jrice94 Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 closest i've ever gotten to a 6 pack is drinking half a 12 pack
Keenly Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 jrice, when you're in a relationship, man, it's not all about you. if you feel that she is sincerely concerned about your health, why not make a compromise? talk to her about cutting out much of that junk food and perhaps ask her to run with you. encourage her to make more appetizing meals that are healthier and tastier for you. if she's a big health nut, this is not going to go away. you both need to compromise... I'm going to have to wave the bull**** flag. Compromise? Are you serious? What exactly is she giving up here? Nothing. Your version of compromise is "Just do what she says" Just tell her straight up. "Look, I think it's awesome that you care about my health so much, but I am going to make my own decisions when it comes to what I eat and how much of it I eat." This is a slippery slope my friend. Do NOT establish the precedent that you do not have a spine, and will cave to any desire she has when she turns the pressure on. Stand... Your... Ground. 1
CptObvious Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 I hope she ain't buyin organic food with your money. It's the biggest scam in north america. Free range is an even bigger joke. As for your weight problems just try intermittent fasting.
GirlontheLam Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 Sounds to me like you have incompatible food philosophies.
Eddie Edirol Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 Be ready to stand your ground if you dont want to change what you eat. But also realize that if she is a health food and exercise nut she will lose attraction for you quickly. Especially if the both of you arent even 0 yet. She probably can easily find an year old guy that eats like she does, which would be more attractive to someone whos mindset is eating healthy. Think about that. It will be one of the main factors that is chipping away at her attraction to you, all you'll need a few more reasons and she'll kick you to the curb. Not to mention that you are at the age where girls her age jump ship on their relationships and become single to go party and make out with random guys to explore their sexuality..
Author jrice94 Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 (edited) I posted the thread from my iphone, I just got home, and brought KFC with me:laugh: now she can only look at me with dirty looks and one of her " we need to talk" facial expressions. I'm screwed Edited January 4, 2013 by jrice94 1
IndianBabu Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 That's because the majority of men today have low standards and are so desperate for sex that they will tolerate anything. They live for the approval of women. Generalize much? I need a link for a source before I can take that statement seriously. 2
RachR Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 You're gf is the same one you started a thread about who throws tantrums and hissy fits when you don't buy her something she wants. In this context, your gf is a straight up brat and controlling. You should dump her. 6
CptSaveAho Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 I posted the thread from my iphone, I just got home, and brought KFC with me:laugh: now she can only look at me with dirty looks and one of her " we need to talk" facial expressions. I'm screwed Sounds to me like you are poking the bear...
Author jrice94 Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 i'm just not giving in, i'm standing my ground
Star Gazer Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 You're a pretty big guy at that height/weight at only 18 years old. It would actually take you less time to make a turkey sandwich in the kitchen than to roll through Taco Bell, not to mention how horrifically unhealthy TB is. A healthy appetite doesn't require a second Christmas dinner place. AND... "good stuff" doesn't include all that junk you bought to watch football. You can make so many healthier YUMMY choices that are quick and easy and will get and keep you lean, and more attractive to your girlfriend. Just something to consider. 4
Author jrice94 Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 i don't know what's gotten into her recently any thoughts?
Author jrice94 Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 You're a pretty big guy at that height/weight at only 18 years old. It would actually take you less time to make a turkey sandwich in the kitchen than to roll through Taco Bell, not to mention how horrifically unhealthy TB is. A healthy appetite doesn't require a second Christmas dinner place. AND... "good stuff" doesn't include all that junk you bought to watch football. You can make so many healthier YUMMY choices that are quick and easy and will get and keep you lean, and more attractive to your girlfriend. Just something to consider. I appreciate the help
CptSaveAho Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 If she's nagging, there's a problem in the relationship Most likely a big one... When I say you are poking the bear, that's not a compliment... you purposely buying KFC after her nagging is childish. Her nagging probably has nothing to do with what you're eating or your weight. Women wont tell you what the problem is, its your job to figure it out. Essentially you aren't "listening" to her and she's trying to get your attention. So instead of listening to her, you go out and buy KFC (poke the bear...stir the pot...whatever you want to call it) you've made it 10xs worse to figure out. Instead of posting on a "DATING" forum, lets try a novel concept... sit her down and talk to her... 1
Recommended Posts