rockstarmusician Posted August 18, 2004 Posted August 18, 2004 My gran tonight told me something about my other grandma (my dad's mom). Well, let me start from the beginning...my parents were to go on a little vacation to Montana while my grandma (my dad's mom) doesn't drive and pretty much stays in her house. My other grandma (mom's mom) just broke her ankle a week ago today so I've been taking care of her. My grandma (mom's mom) told me tonight that my other grandma said something really mean about me. My other grandma (dad's mom) had phoned up my dad to find out if he could look after the house for a few days because some relatives were taking her out of town. He said that he couldn't because they were going away. When she asked who was taking care of the other grandma (mom's mom), he said, "Oh Jennifer is" and you know what my grandma (dad's mom) said??? "Well, how can she take care of her???" or something like that. I was pissed off when I heard that and I STILL am! I need something to punch...who wants to volunteer?
honey2005 Posted August 18, 2004 Posted August 18, 2004 "Well, how can she take care of her???" Maybe she didn't mean it to be as harsh as it sounds. She might have meant that you are too busy to care for an older woman with a broken ankle, since taking care of her would probably consume a bit of time. You didn't hear the tone she said it in, I don't think you should jump to conclusions and start disliking your grandma. If it bothers you alot, just ask her about it.
Author rockstarmusician Posted August 20, 2004 Author Posted August 20, 2004 No, trust me. My grandma is from Germany. She's extremely stubborn and very self-absorbed. I know for a fact that she's also called me spoiled in the past too.
honey2005 Posted August 20, 2004 Posted August 20, 2004 Talk to her about how you feel, or if you don't want to do that, maybe you can talk to your parents (the one that is her child) and they can give you some advice. Maybe she's like this with everyone.
soccorsilly Posted August 20, 2004 Posted August 20, 2004 My God Girl--you are hearing this from an elderly in-law. Are there any rough spots between the two? Unless she said it to you directly, let it roll off you back. It does not sound terribly harsh to me...and something may have been lost in the translation it could very well have been a simple question "Well how is she going to take care of her?" meaning that she was just curious, or possibly that was a jab to to mother of the kid who married her son. Ignore it move on take care of the sick grannie and go forward. No need for confrontation here I don't think
Author rockstarmusician Posted August 21, 2004 Author Posted August 21, 2004 No, if I confront her about it, she'll deny it. Imagine an 83 year old woman, german, and very stubborn! I don't know if I should tell my parents that I know what she said because my other grandma told me not to tell them that I know..
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