evondavis1 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 WTH! How much more can I handle!!!??? So I had a recent thread on here, from November. Long story short – I was with my ex for 7 years, owned a business, lived together, have a 3 year old son together, life, home, dogs, etc…etc… During those 7 years, I had kicked him out 5 different times. The first time was 7 months into the relationship because I was overwhelmed when he asked me to start a company with him. I had a full time job, and started this company from scratch, by myself. I remember sitting on the floor in my condo, crying my eyes out because it was too much. So I told him I can’t handle all this pressure. The relationship moving so fast (he had moved in) working full time, and now starting this company, all for him! This was temporary and only overnight. He came back the next day. Maybe I was too emotional, but I had way too much on my plate. The second and third times I really don’t remember, and as a matter a fact, I don’t remember them because they were during the time I was pregnant, or he has made them up in his head. Either way. I know for sure I made him leave 3 times. The second time was the summer of 2011. I had enough of how he was treating me, criticizing, blowing me off, totally unemotional, never wanted to do anything, etc. etc. He left for a few weeks and stayed at a friends. During that time, we talked and talked and he slowly came back. After a few days, he got distant and I found out that he was talking to an ex from 15 years ago. I asked if he had feelings for her and he said “I don’t know”.. So I kicked him out again. Am I wrong? Who would deal with that after 6 years, a business, a baby, a life???? Later he told me that he said that to piss me off. Well he sure did. We got back together a few weeks later. Everything was fine for another year, 2012. Until the end of August. He as mean, criticizing, and blowing me off again. So I went through his phone, and saw a few text messages from several girls. One was of the same girl from last summer, showing off her body in a picture because she lost weight. I had enough. I kicked him out again, made him leave. During all these years, I always told him how happy I would be if he would marry me. Now I know that he never truly cared. I did everything, and I was used. So anyways, August of 2012, we break up. 1 week later he finds a new girlfriend. Marries her 6 weeks later. So here is an update. My ex called me last weekend to “rehash” and “get closure” as he said. We went down memory lane and the demise of the relationship for 90 minutes. Still everything is my fault according to him, but I know my truth. I don’t have to defend myself, but I feel like I have to with him always! So towards the end of the conversation, he tell me his new wife is pregnant!!! WTF!!! Mind you, they met less than 4 months ago, 1 week after we broke up. Married her 6 weeks later, and now she is “accidentally” pregnant, and this is still my fault because I kicked him out. I told him he should have been a man and made me happy, but instead he took off on this downward spiral of a life. The wife is 24, 13 years younger than my ex. A Russian immigrant here in the US on a student VISA. Now the ex is broke, no job because we are dissolving the company we own together, lives with his sister, his wife lives in another state, 3 hours away. No car insurance, no health insurance, not a pot to piss in. Who makes these terrible choices? Yet, it is still my fault because I kicked him out.
Gunny376 Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 In regards to you ~ yourself? I'm having a hard time seeing the "down side" to all of this? You out what? A complete and total loser who illresponsible in just about any and every aspect and facet of life? A prepetucal victim in and of life. Isn't it time you got a real man in your life? I think you deserve no less! You've done more than your time in the trench of life and Hell! You've earned your "stripes" Now get out there and rub a little sunshine on your face and get busy making yourself happy! Life is just too damn short! 2
Author evondavis1 Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 (edited) Thank you, thank you, thank you. It's that kind of post that gives me strenght to get out of this hell hole, which is, I mean was my life. Amazing, I can spend 7 years with someone like this, and then he can turn it around on me to make me the bad guy.I guess he has nobody to blame, so he wants to make sure that I know everything about his miserable life. I have been limited contact with him for a few months, because of our son and dissolving business. The sad part, I handed him a great life, on a silver platter, and he chose this path. Oh well, it's not my problem anymore. Edited January 4, 2013 by evondavis1
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