naviis Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 Wouldn't that be a too obvious way of telling him you're jealous? Especially when it's not a couple dating. Well depends how you say it. I never got jealous of that and people I do that with know me well, so they usually just laugh when I say it. But it's in my nature to jokingly embarrass people or self-deprecate. Sounds like you worry too much what people think
runningfar Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 Looking doesn't mean he's not interested but it may be telling he is doing it obviously enough for you to notice -- which could mean he isn't interested, or that he doesn't think he has a chance with you. My ex husband used to be able to look without me ever noticing. I only know because a few times a woman would be so gorgeous, that I would be like, "Wow, there's a lady over..." and he would interrupt, "Yeah. I saw." and make a joke. I guess because I notice, I don't think there's anything wrong with appreciating beauty for either gender.
Ross MwcFan Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 I'm not going out with this guy. We just enjoy each other's company and hang out. I've noticed that he has a roving eye. He checks out girls on the streets all the time. I know guys have no peripheral vision but he seems to do that a lot. Is that normal? I like this guy but his behaviour is telling me he doesn't care about me beyond a good buddy. Would this assumption be true? Even if he does fancy you, why would he only look at you/focus on you? If there are other hot women about he's going to look at them too.
Keenly Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 This has always been a pet peeve of mine. I believe in freedom, and this includes freedom of thought , and the freedom to look at whatever I want. When a woman starts barking up the thought crime tree, I see this as a red flag of being both insecure and controlling. One time with my first girlfriend we went to the pretty large "rich area" mall, and I glanced at a girl at a table in the food court. She proceeded to interrogate me... "why were you looking at her ? Do you think she is pretty ? Is she prettier than me ? " she was just insane... I told her that I looked because I liked her hair and she stormed away and said "go be with your other girlfriend.". ...... Okay ill just look at the ground like a spineless coward and grunt in response to conversation is that better? The point is , ill look allllll day, but ill never pursue. 1
Ruby Slippers Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 You mean 80% of guys you dated knew how to hid it. There's a big difference between glancing at the people around you, and staring/ogling. When I say checking out, I mean staring, not just glancing. In my experience, most guys don't stare at/check out other women while out with me. Those that do are repellent.
Author sayitasitis Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 Even if he does fancy you, why would he only look at you/focus on you? If there are other hot women about he's going to look at them too. I guess what I'm trying to say is that at least he'll be discreet. That is if he likes me that way and wants to try pursuing me.
Author sayitasitis Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 This has always been a pet peeve of mine. I believe in freedom, and this includes freedom of thought , and the freedom to look at whatever I want. When a woman starts barking up the thought crime tree, I see this as a red flag of being both insecure and controlling. One time with my first girlfriend we went to the pretty large "rich area" mall, and I glanced at a girl at a table in the food court. She proceeded to interrogate me... "why were you looking at her ? Do you think she is pretty ? Is she prettier than me ? " she was just insane... I told her that I looked because I liked her hair and she stormed away and said "go be with your other girlfriend.". ...... Okay ill just look at the ground like a spineless coward and grunt in response to conversation is that better? The point is , ill look allllll day, but ill never pursue. No, it's not about me being insecure or controlling. Even the hottest girl in the room may have a story to tell about having been cheated on. What I've been saying is that him looking at other girls may mean he's not interested in having any more than a friendship with me.
Author sayitasitis Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 There's a big difference between glancing at the people around you, and staring/ogling. When I say checking out, I mean staring, not just glancing. In my experience, most guys don't stare at/check out other women while out with me. Those that do are repellent. I should clarify then. He doesn't stare or ogle. He only looks or glances.
xxoo Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 I guess what I'm trying to say is that at least he'll be discreet. That is if he likes me that way and wants to try pursuing me. Does he have any idea that you are interested? He might not think you are interested, so is putting his attention elsewhere. When I'm hanging out with a single guy friend, I expect him to be checking out other women. In fact, I help them! "Hey, what about that one?"
Author sayitasitis Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 Does he have any idea that you are interested? He might not think you are interested, so is putting his attention elsewhere. When I'm hanging out with a single guy friend, I expect him to be checking out other women. In fact, I help them! "Hey, what about that one?" He may not know I'm interested. But if someone's interested in you and you haven't shot them down, I expect them to at least be discreet. No?
KungFuJoe Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 He's not interested in you, in my opinion. He checks out other girls when he's with you...and you said he's picked up other girls (when you're not around). Sounds like he's not exactly shy. If he was interested in you he would have made a move.
Casablanca Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 There's a big difference between glancing at the people around you, and staring/ogling. When I say checking out, I mean staring, not just glancing. In my experience, most guys don't stare at/check out other women while out with me. Those that do are repellent. Ah yeah, okay I see what you meant
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