sayitasitis Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I'm not going out with this guy. We just enjoy each other's company and hang out. I've noticed that he has a roving eye. He checks out girls on the streets all the time. I know guys have no peripheral vision but he seems to do that a lot. Is that normal? I like this guy but his behaviour is telling me he doesn't care about me beyond a good buddy. Would this assumption be true?
bobsmith76 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I'm not going out with this guy. We just enjoy each other's company and hang out. I've noticed that he has a roving eye. He checks out girls on the streets all the time. I know guys have no peripheral vision but he seems to do that a lot. Is that normal? I like this guy but his behaviour is telling me he doesn't care about me beyond a good buddy. Would this assumption be true? Since he's not in a relationship with you, he has every right to have a roving eye. There is no reason why he should not have a roving eye. The only reason why he should not have a roving eye would be if he made a promise to someone to be faithful and he hasn't done that so he's being perfectly normal. It's quite obvious that you care about him and desire him and think about him, otherwise you wouldn't be wasting your time discussing him on the internet with strangers. My advice to you is to make a move on him and tell him that you like him. You have everything to gain and nothing to lose. You can't catch any fish if you don't go fishing.
pteromom Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I like this guy but his behaviour is telling me he doesn't care about me beyond a good buddy. Would this assumption be true? I would assume that as well. If he was attracted to you and trying to be with you, he'd be focusing on you and wouldn't want to be caught looking at other women.
sweetkiwi Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Even WITHIN an actual relationship a wandering eye is normal. They are curious creatures as am I. In fact sometimes I point out sexy women. No reason we cant all enjoy. 4
Author sayitasitis Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 Since he's not in a relationship with you, he has every right to have a roving eye. There is no reason why he should not have a roving eye. The only reason why he should not have a roving eye would be if he made a promise to someone to be faithful and he hasn't done that so he's being perfectly normal. It's quite obvious that you care about him and desire him and think about him, otherwise you wouldn't be wasting your time discussing him on the internet with strangers. My advice to you is to make a move on him and tell him that you like him. You have everything to gain and nothing to lose. You can't catch any fish if you don't go fishing. Even WITHIN an actual relationship a wandering eye is normal. They are curious creatures as am I. In fact sometimes I point out sexy women. No reason we cant all enjoy. But do you think he doesn't see me the same way? And that is why he doesn't care that I can see that he's checking other girls out? I would assume that as well. If he was attracted to you and trying to be with you, he'd be focusing on you and wouldn't want to be caught looking at other women.
pteromom Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Rather than speculating about what he feels, why not ask him? I know it is scary, but you would have your answer and wouldn't have to sit here analyzing his actions. I agree that it is normal to look at attractive people, but typically when you are trying to get with someone, you are focused on them. 1
sweetkiwi Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I would assume that as well. If he was attracted to you and trying to be with you, he'd be focusing on you and wouldn't want to be caught looking at other women. This is only true If the man kn question is completely enamoured with you. And in that case you're the only woman on earth that even matters. While this is wonderful it happens .5% of the time. IF YOURE LUCKY. Take a page from my book and don't give a FHUCK. It doesn't matter up to the point they leave you at a restaurant/bar/friends house to pick up the other woman. If I could encourage looking to lessen the likelihood they would CHEAT I would. And do. I look too. In Italy men are veeeeeeeeery sexy. From afar.
Author sayitasitis Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 I do understand that some people check out the opposite sex with no intention of acting on their lust. But it does hurt. Well, a little. It sometimes makes me feel just that bit less adequate.
Author sayitasitis Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 This is only true If the man kn question is completely enamoured with you. And in that case you're the only woman on earth that even matters. While this is wonderful it happens .5% of the time. IF YOURE LUCKY. Take a page from my book and don't give a FHUCK. It doesn't matter up to the point they leave you at a restaurant/bar/friends house to pick up the other woman. If I could encourage looking to lessen the likelihood they would CHEAT I would. And do. I look too. In Italy men are veeeeeeeeery sexy. From afar. It's difficult to not give a ***** even if he doesn't leave me to pick up other women. Though he does pick up other women at other times. I guess this may be different if we're in a committed relationship and can discuss the cute chick/bloke across the street. I know it doesn't make sense but it kind of makes sense too.
Casablanca Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 How old is he? Every guy does this no matter how happy and satisfied they are. But you think he would be discrete about it or wouldn't' do it this early on
Author sayitasitis Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 How old is he? Every guy does this no matter how happy and satisfied they are. But you think he would be discrete about it or wouldn't' do it this early on He's 32. I'm not sure "early on" is the right term because we aren't dating. But I do wish he wouldn't. So it shows he's not interested in me at all, right?
DC4 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I have zero issue with a guy I'm with admiring a woman. I may give pause if he walks over and gives her his number, though.
Author sayitasitis Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 I have zero issue with a guy I'm with admiring a woman. I may give pause if he walks over and gives her his number, though. Wow, I need some of your confidence. Doesn't it make you think he may not like you that way?
Casablanca Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 He's 32. I'm not sure "early on" is the right term because we aren't dating. But I do wish he wouldn't. So it shows he's not interested in me at all, right? Oh I misread, I thought you were going on dates but weren't anything exclusive...if you're just hanging out, then I see no issue in it. Do you like him? Do you want it to be more than friends? Has the been more than friends interactions like kissing and holding hands?
Author sayitasitis Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 Oh I misread, I thought you were going on dates but weren't anything exclusive...if you're just hanging out, then I see no issue in it. Do you like him? Do you want it to be more than friends? Has the been more than friends interactions like kissing and holding hands? I like him and want to be more than friends but we've done nothing more than talk and hang out. How does that fit into the equation now?
DC4 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Wow, I need some of your confidence. Doesn't it make you think he may not like you that way? Not at all. Let's be honest-there are going to be attractive people wherever you go. Watching a cute girl go by is a lot different than if I couldn't keep his attention for more than five minutes because he was scoping out every woman in the room. That would annoy me regardless of the reason. Admiring a good looking person-no worries. That doesn't even turn my radar on.
Author sayitasitis Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 Not at all. Let's be honest-there are going to be attractive people wherever you go. Watching a cute girl go by is a lot different than if I couldn't keep his attention for more than five minutes because he was scoping out every woman in the room. That would annoy me regardless of the reason. Admiring a good looking person-no worries. That doesn't even turn my radar on. IDK. Sometimes it feels like he's even gawking. Like he's more into watching the girls walk by than talking to me. It's so frustrating. And he probably doesn't even realize it!
DC4 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 If he's ignoring you for any reason, that's NOT good. I had an ex that would tinker with his phone while we were out to dinner. I swear I would rather watch him gawk at women than to know he found his twitter feed more interesting than me. 1
todreaminblue Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 roving eyes while you are talking/dating to a guy is deal breaker for me .......it doesnt show interest and it does show disinterest 1
Author sayitasitis Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 If he's ignoring you for any reason, that's NOT good. I had an ex that would tinker with his phone while we were out to dinner. I swear I would rather watch him gawk at women than to know he found his twitter feed more interesting than me. He's not ignoring me but he looks at people that walk by in between our conversations. That's not just rude. Is it unrealistic to expect a guy to focus on you? I guess it might be if he doesn't like you that way.
DC4 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 He's not ignoring me but he looks at people that walk by in between our conversations. That's not just rude. Is it unrealistic to expect a guy to focus on you? I guess it might be if he doesn't like you that way. All women are different. I just don't care if my guy watches porn or strokes it to the VS catalog or any of those things. I know many women would not appreciate that AT ALL and I can't blame them. I love to people watch. You see some really interesting things when people think you aren't looking.
Casablanca Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I like him and want to be more than friends but we've done nothing more than talk and hang out. How does that fit into the equation now? Make a move, ask him out, let him know you are interested in more than just friends, perhaps he doesn't know this and thinks it just you two be friends?
Author sayitasitis Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 All women are different. I just don't care if my guy watches porn or strokes it to the VS catalog or any of those things. I know many women would not appreciate that AT ALL and I can't blame them. I love to people watch. You see some really interesting things when people think you aren't looking. Funny you should liken it to porn. I actually wouldn't have a problem with him watching porn. Hell, I would even watch it with him because I enjoy it too. But I would have an issue with him watching porn, without including me, when I'm in the room. I like to people watch too. But his people watching just seems to exclude me. Like I don't exist or am not good enough.
Author sayitasitis Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 Maybe he is into you, until you're dating he'd be a complete pansy to stop eyeing other women. He should still be doing it while you're dating, but especially so if you're just friends. I get that people do look at other beautiful people. I just think it shows he's not interested in me.
Author sayitasitis Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 Make a move, ask him out, let him know you are interested in more than just friends, perhaps he doesn't know this and thinks it just you two be friends? Let's step aside and do this. Imagine you're into a girl you're just hanging out with. Would you still be eyeing every other girl that walks by? Or would you try to focus on her because you're trying to get her attention? I just want to know guys' opinions on this before I find enough reasons to ask him out.
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