Mimsicles Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I have fallen head over heels in love with a FWB. I am saying we are FWB as we've never been anything more although a conversation about what was actually happening never came about. I go there about once a week, sometimes its for sex and other times we will just cuddle and watch a film. I never in a million years thought I could ever fall for him, but the more I see him the more I want to be with him. Last night I asked what he was doing for his upcoming birthday and he replied that he doesnt celebrate his birthday as he has 'nobody to share it with'. I nearly blurted out all of my feeling there and then but i'm terrified of doing so. He even said that he doesnt just invite me round for sex, that he likes me?! I am confused, do I tell him how I feel and risk losing him, or carry on in the hope he may develop feelings for me. Any help would be appreciated
sweetkiwi Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 IME you should tell him. Then give him space to translate it in his brain. You will lose him no matter what if you dont voice your feelings. The risk is worth it. I wouldn't say Im in love with you. I would say i have developed unexpected feelings. Dont expect an answer or response. Let him be. If he calls soon the outcome looks good. If not, lick your wounds and move on.
pteromom Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 He said he likes you... So just ask him "What do you think about taking our relationship to a different level?" See what he says. If he says "No, I am happy with the way things are", then you know he doesn't want a real relationship with you and you can decide whether you want to continue seeing him as FWB or not.
Kelemvor Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 (edited) Look, unless the sex is equally great for you and you are happy with the arrangement, he's got it made. I mean, do you have any friends that you could set me up with? Think about it. He's got free sex with no strings attached and no responsibility or worries about the requisite maintenance of a relationship or girlfriend. Do you want to be his F buddy forever? For God's sake don't say "take the relationship to the next level" and definitely don't say "I love you" or you will freak him out and scare him off. Tell him that the sex has made it difficult for you to just remain friends and you find yourself starting to have feelings about him but don't want to ruin the friendship if nothing can happen from it, so you think it's best to stop having sex. Then ask him how he feels about that? If he has feelings too, then he'll tell you. If not, then he'll tell you that. If he gets angry and throws a tantrum because you won't have sex with him, then you were just being used. Either way, you've got better things to do with your time. Find a guy that is interested in something more than just inviting you over for free sex with no hope of it ever amounting to anything. What a colossal waste of your time in the grand scheme of things. If all women were like you, then none of us would ever have any desire to get married. Talk about having your cake and eating it too. Edited January 4, 2013 by Kelemvor
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