I'm15 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I'm 15 and the guy I love is 19 and my mom likes him she just don't believe in us dating becaus I'm so young and I want to be with him and he wants to be with me but my mom don't like that fact and I want us to be together for ever so we could like when I'm 17 start living together and stuff my whole family don't like him because he's black but I love him and I don't want my family to be mad at me how do I keep him and my family happy??
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Lol please tell me this isn't serious -_- 1
KatZee Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Sweetie, you're 15. You have no clue what true love is. I'm not saying this because you're young, or because you're dumb... I'm saying this because PHYSICALLY you can't understand and comprehend true love and "forever." The part of your brain responsible for really grasping cause and effect, consequence and "forever" is located in the frontal lobe of your brain. At your age, it hasn't developed yet. And it won't be developed until you're in your mid-20s. You got a ways to go. At 19 years old, that boy should be engaging with people in his age range... the one's in college. You're still in high school and a baby. Technically if he were to have sex with you he could be charged and thrown in jail for statutory rape; regardless if you consent or not. You're a minor. Your mom is very smart to prevent you from seeing this guy because at 19... he's not looking to love you, or respect you, or treat you right. He's looking to get his dick wet. The second he's bored of you you'll be thrown out like yesterday's garbage. Boys are fickle. They are immature. They have no clue what they want. Even as adults they are idiots. The guy isn't looking at you like a person, he's looking at you like an object he needs to conquer. I get that you're angry at your mom and you want to move in together, but that would honestly be the biggest mistake of your life. Do you really want to be a knocked up teenager with a dead beat ex and a loser of a father? Because I guarantee he won't stick around for that mess if/when it happens. He will say all the right things to sweet talk himself into your pants... be smart here. Go play with your friends. You don't need to be worrying about some 19 year old dude trying to prey on you. Believe me, when you're older you'll understand and you'll do the same thing for your children. 3
Author I'm15 Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 He's not like every other guy... He's been here for me 2-3years now he use to live in the apprtment next to me and he's never done anything to hurt me and his dad did not raise him like that his dad raised him to Stan up for what you love and take responsibility for his action and in fact he has
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 He's not like every other guy... He's been here for me 2-3years now he use to live in the apprtment next to me and he's never done anything to hurt me and his dad did not raise him like that his dad raised him to Stan up for what you love and take responsibility for his action and in fact he has You're naive. Guys put on masks...meaning they tell you exactly this stuff to get one thing. Do you know how many girls out there say this: "He's not like the rest".. no he is. You just don't and can't see it. Doesn't matter how he was raised. People usually turn out differently then how they were raised.
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 He doesn't go after girls his age, cause he knows you're easier to manipulate.
pteromom Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Even if he's a nice guy with good intentions who really really likes you, he's 19. He's in a different place in his life than you are. You still have a few years of high school left, and he's hopefully in college or working. He's gonna be 21, and will be interested in drinking and partying, and you'll still be in high school. I am going to give you some advice that you will hopefully take to heart. The sooner in life you learn this lesson, the better off you will be. Do NOT make relationship choices based only on how you feel about someone. Use your head too. Does his lifestyle align with yours? Do his values align with yours? Does he accept and respect you for who you are without trying to change you? Do his goals align with yours? In this case, your lifestyles do not align due to your age difference. One of you is an adult, and one of you is still a child. Please do yourself a favor and walk away from him. At least for now. If you guys are still single 5 years from now, it will be different. 2
KatZee Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Yeah, and I learned that lesson at 28!! That guys will say and be anything you want them to be as long as they're getting something from you. My current ex was most certainly not raised to treat people the way he treated me. His father goes on and on about respect, and doing the right thing, and treating people correctly. What did he do to me? The complete opposite. He kept his true self hidden very well and I didn't find out the whole extent of his lies and deceit until we were together over 2 years. He was a constant liar, a cheater, used me to get whatever he wanted and then tossed me out like I was a used tissue with absolutely zero regard for me, my feelings, or anything. People are people. At the base level, most are completely predictable and act the same as anyone else. If he can get something, he will take advantage. There are no saints on this planet. I agree with Ptero. He's at a completely different life stage then you. That's another problem in itself. Even if he IS as amazing as you say he is... even though the amount of years between you don't appear to be that much, right now they are. Only because you're so young and you have many years to go until you're able to do what he's doing, and going to be doing. 3
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Exactly as these older than you girls have said. You would be surprised at what even the most caring guy would do for "thing between your legs." They will buy you flowers; tell you how cute you are. Listen as you complain about how dumb and strick your parents are. They will give you advice; and do romantic things for you... They seemingly care, but, they don't. It is a trick. You are not able to tell the difference yet, but he sure can. But if you want to be a teen-mom, go for it. Plenty of them out there struggling to take care of a life. Sorry, but no 19 year old, is looking to just "date" and watch that pony show. Years you've known him, do not even matter in this. He doesn't love you. You don't love him. You think you do, but your form of love, is immature. An infatuation. Nothing more. Like I said, you are easier to manipulate than someone his age(though all age groups of both men and women can be manipulated), you are at the age that is easiest to manipulate. But I see you stopped replying sooo......
othersideofthepillow Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 seriously? i bet you are a very sweet and caring girl but seriously don't even let yourself get caught up in these types of situations. you are still very young and have your whole life ahead of you. find a boy your age and enjoy time together! you also said 2-3 years youve know each other? so you would have been 12 while he was 16? a boy should not be looking at a 12 year old girl like that if he is also not 12 or 13. 1
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