MovingOn84 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 My ex-husband and I were married for 8 years. Two beautiful children. Daughter 5 and Son 8. In the last 3 years of our Marriage, he just gave up, quit trying, we never did anything or went anywhere. Work, Eat, Sleep.....Repeat. We had a large personality clash as it was........Him (introverted) me (extroverted) so it was difficult enough without adding extra issues. I tried and cried and begged so hard for us to reconnect intimately but nothing ever worked. After awhile, I just gave up. I stayed for another year, though I didn't love him nor even physically attracted to him any longer. I mourned the end of our marriage while we were still in it. So finally in FEB 2012 I ended it. The children live with me and spend Wed. nights and every other weekend with him. He is a good father...he could help out financially more but overall a good dad. I have gone to great lengths to make the transition easy on them as possible but he was horrible to me. He wouldn't split anything amicably he kept everything, I literally started completely over. This behavior from him was new to me. He never seemed the greedy type during our marriage and those actions furthur cemented my reason for leaving. A couple months later I met someone. He and I just clicked. I had never just clicked with someone on a real personality level before, it had always seemed forced in one way or another. In OCT 2012 the new guy and myself moved in together. He's really great. Here's my dilemma.........my ex-husband continuously sends long drawn out text message confessing his love and devotion. I however, do not respond. He says things like "no-one will ever love you like me" and "he can't take care of you like I can" and "I will never stop I will always love you" I understand that all that seems sweet and oh so romantic but here's the kicker. My ex husband is a master at manipulation. The new guy doesn't make as much money as my ex-husband does (not by much tho) my ex plays on that. During the Christmas season, the new guy and myself did go a lil overboard and spent way to much money at Christmas and we had quite a few spats about money during this time in which my children must've overheard and relayed the message to my ex-husband, because my ex has sent long drawn out text now saying in a nutshell "now yall are arguing about money" "it's only gonna get worse" "he can't take care of you like I can etc etc etc" I am feeling insecure in my current relationship because the new guy and myself have been having these riffs lately. Those text from my ex-husband are really playing tricks on me because Yes....I know there is more financial security with him. I'm not going back. I just want to hear it from you guys that this is the right decision and my ex is being manipulative or what have you. Just verification I guess........
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