blue_jay_bird Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I guess iv had my up's and downs. But i have to say this month was the worst. My father has come up to me asking my im so quiet and moody. And then he start talking about the hard year iv had. And of course i get teary eyed. I don't think i haven't gotten emotional without someone bring it up. AND i even know they are going to bring it up. It's been 7 months. Out of a 7 year relationship. Is this getting out of hand?
na49 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 7 years is a long time. It's not out of hand as long as you are trying to heal. I was just reading your other thread until I saw this one. You haven't unblocked him right? You obviously aren't ready for that. Take as much time as you need to heal. 1
fixing Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I agree with Na49. 7 years is no joke, it will take as long as it takes basically. You just try and stay positive honey x This too shall pass 1
sadbunnyy Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I was with my ex for 3 years, its been 3 months since official break up and some days I feel fine and some days I feel anxious/sad. I know how you feel....certain things can trigger a memory and it just ruins me. The hardest part of NC is having thoughts of him, wondering whats going on with him. I just wish I never cared anymore. I wish I didn't care what he does in his life or who his with...maybe in time I wont..but the days are so long...
Author blue_jay_bird Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 no, i haven't unblocked him.
OJ loved Nicole Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I call it the "butterfly effect". You're going to meet very few people that you think are special, your ex made you feel this way (he had to of, you were together for 7 years). Now your body wants to feel that again, and your ex was the last person to make you feel that way. It happens when you connect on several different levels e.g. looks, personality, interests, sex, etc. Also, you don't need to be "looking" to find it, when you feel it, there is no stopping it. How many people have said "I wasn't even looking for a relationship, but then he walked into my life"? The problem... maybe 1 out of 1000 people you meet will give you that feeling, and 1 out of 100 "butterfly" people you meet MIGHT have the butterfly effect for you. BJB, he's out there, he's not going to be easy to find, but when you do... He'll make you think "wow, what did I EVER see in my ex?"
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