geegirl Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 and ill say this too. she never dealt with the breakup properly. just ran away with it, suppressed her emotions. she will have to confront them at some point, one way or the other. You're in another world. She didn't want the relationship. She wanted her freedom. She wanted sex. The only one having a hard time with emotions is you. STOP projecting your love fantasies on her. 2
Author frederickkk Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 when we had that coffee in october she was getting all emotional. i know her enough to know that is the case. she did enough things to live with guilt for the rest of her life. she smacked me in the face when i tried to sort it out.
geegirl Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 when we had that coffee in october she was getting all emotional. i know her enough to know that is the case. she did enough things to live with guilt for the rest of her life. she smacked me in the face when i tried to sort it out. It's time to stop focusing on what she is thinking and feeling and start fixing you.
KatZee Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 id rather dump it on her doorstep. Why? So you can see her one last time and prove to her that you're still alive in the world? Cut the s.hit already. You're prolonging your torture with each obsessive thing you do. THROW. IT. OUT. She clearly doesn't give a crap about anything you have, she doesn't care enough about it to come get it from you. You know having it makes you break down so why the hell do you do this for yourself? Why are you so sick and twisted that you feel the need to do this to yourself?
KatZee Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 when we had that coffee in october she was getting all emotional. Awesome. It's now January. Three months later. The only thing she's getting hot and bothered about these days is when she's sandwiched between her sexy French man and the mattress. 90 days. 90 days of what? Wishing she'd come running? Get it through your head that it is YOU who ruined everything. YOU sabatoged any lingering chance you had left. YOU became the stalker. YOU became the delusional paranoid needy clingy psycho. YOU YOU YOU. My ex wasn't NEARLY as bad as you. He was obsessive with calls and texts for like a week but even THAT is enough to drive someone away. You didn't just drive her away, you shoved her into the arms of other people. You made her view you as a joke. As something to pity. As something to try to erase. Sorry to break it to ya. She ain't coming back for ya. Never, never, never. 1
KatZee Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 and ill say this too. she never dealt with the breakup properly. just ran away with it, suppressed her emotions. she will have to confront them at some point, one way or the other. Maybe she didn't deal with it properly, but after your behavior and actions... i'm sorry no one really needs to process much at that point. To her... it's dead and gone. Nothing left to process. You're crazy. That's about it. The only emotions are most likely annoyance, regret, fear... and those will fade as soon as you stop stalking her.
mammasita Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Intense is NOT the word for you. I got it -> you are obsessed!
geegirl Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 im not crazy, just intense If I have one word to describe you, obsessive.
KatZee Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 im not crazy, just intense You're about 18 thousand miles past intense. You're not intense at all.
Author frederickkk Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 if she is having 3somes with these people, why do i feel like i need to know to help me move on?
Author frederickkk Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 maybe its just my paranoid delusional head. im not obsessed. im in love, and ive tried everything the past 3 months to stop all contact. keep myself busy i stop working out in the gym, i stop producing its well and truly ****ed me up.
geegirl Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 maybe its just my paranoid delusional head. im not obsessed. im in love, and ive tried everything the past 3 months to stop all contact. keep myself busy i stop working out in the gym, i stop producing its well and truly ****ed me up. Sending email after email for the past five months is obsessive. At some point a person in love gets the point when their love is not reciprocated. They accept and move on. Only an obsessive mans keeps persisting even when there is zero return.
winstonsdreams Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Wow all i am going to say in regards to this thread is that LS is full of awesome compassionate people willing to give there time and effort to help others. I really hope you guys don't let Freddy here discourage you from offering your advice to others in the future. I have been on this website for 6 months and this dude is an isolated case. I am not going to offer this dude any help or advice because he has been given more than he deserves, i just hope the poor girl he dated is safe and ok. 1
Author frederickkk Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 im tempted to go round there tomorrow .
CarrieT Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 im tempted to go round there tomorrow . Why tempt a restraining order? 'Cuz if I were your Ex, I would file for one immediately....
Author frederickkk Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 Why tempt a restraining order? 'Cuz if I were your Ex, I would file for one immediately.... This whole situation is just bizarre. How can she fall out of love with me so quickly?
Author frederickkk Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 ive emailed her 16 times today. if she hasn't got a filter on, then she will still read them.
geegirl Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 ive emailed her 16 times today. if she hasn't got a filter on, then she will still read them. I have a funny feeling you're having a good laugh yanking our chains with this funny little thread. 1
Author frederickkk Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 I have a funny feeling you're having a good laugh yanking our chains with this funny little thread. i would take a screenshot but as a mac user, no ms paint to crop s.hit.
KatZee Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 i would take a screenshot but as a mac user, no ms paint to crop s.hit. I'm done giving advice here. And I think everyone should just take note and stop. Fred lives on another planet, he most certainly isn't in the land of reality with the rest of us and he's doing nothing but wasting all of our time. You can only give person advice for so long and it is their decision to take it or not. Clearly, Fred doesn't care what we say, he only cares about what he wants to do. He will continue thinking his ex is some how different than every single other female on the planet who is disgusted and revolted by pathetic, desperate, needy, clingy and obsessive behavior. There is no need to update us on how many texts or e-mails you send her. Frankly, I don't care much anymore. Continue sending them, it doesn't hurt any of us, and I'm certain your ex doesn't give a s.hit either. Maybe you'll wake up one day at 45 and realize how much of your life you've wasted living in an alternate reality.
geegirl Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 I'm done too. I don't think LS can help you. You need professional help. All these threads and people trying to support you and you come back with emailing her 16 times today. Futile. Go to her house. Don't go. Call her mother. Call her father. Don't call. Send her flowers. Don't send. Do whatever you want. You've exhausted people here. And I am sure, your ex feels the same way. She really dodged a bullet. Good luck to you.
KatZee Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 This whole situation is just bizarre. How can she fall out of love with me so quickly? With what you've done over a period of 5 months, I WONDER how anyone could fall out of love.
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