StandOut Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I decided since is a new year, I just want to move on and feel better. Haven't contacted my ex in about 4 days. In those 4 days she text me because she was sick and in the hosipital. I didn't respond because i feel all she want is sympathy because she did the same thing 3 weeks ago, catered to her like we was still together and when she got better and I asked to go out some where she shut me down 3 times. The next day she textes me again to say thanks for not giving a sh*t that she was sick not carin the she was in the hospital all day. I felt bad but i still didn't respond. She knew I was out of town for the new years. At 3am New Years day she send me a text saying "I love you, happy new years". I didn't respond. The next night when I got back in town I went out to the pharmacy but forgot my car light on. She sends me a text saying that she dont want to talk to me but she just drove by my house on her way to her friends house and she just was letting me know that my lights were on. I went out again and see her in her car infront of her friends house, I drove by acted that I didn't see her. She didn't contact me yesterday. But this morning I woke up with the urge of contacting her. Really missing her today. I want her back but I'm tired of giving her my all to work things out and not seeing anything back. Should I contact her or just keep NC. I still kind of feel bad about not seeing how she was doing when she was sick.
first love Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Stay strong my man. If she wants you back let her fight for you. I've been NC for about 2 weeks now with her texting me the same sort of things as your ex. I'm not going to cave unless she tells me she wants to work things out and try again. Anything other then that is just "breadcrumbs" as they say on here. Stay strong man, it gets easier
Coping Vortex Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Sometimes people freak out and emotions get in the way. If deep down you love her and its only been 5 days. Yes contact her. Life is too short to stay mad. So many relationships break over people being upset temporarily and then its too late. Trust me I waited three weeks and she had already gone out with her friends and met a new guy. Unless you are sure you don't want a relationship with her then I say run to her. You will kick yourself latter, your life will change for the worse if you wait too long. Complacency is a bad thing trust me. You think she will always be there but she won't. How will you feel if she is in bed with another man. Picture that in your head. if you are OK with that then don't contact her however if that scene gives you shock to your system then go after her. A famous Psychologist said the number one killer of relationships is anger. Often its tempoary and does so much damage
Author StandOut Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 Yeah man I'm trying to hang in there. Those were my intentions. Only way ill cave if she contacts me to work it out. It's funny because she could've took a different route to her friends house but decided to go thru my street. And if she didn't want to talk to me like she said she wouldn't have text me because I left my lights on. I felt better when i was out of town with partying with family and meeting new people. Now she is back in my head again.
Author StandOut Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 Sometimes people freak out and emotions get in the way. If deep down you love her and its only been 5 days. Yes contact her. Life is too short to stay mad. So many relationships break over people being upset temporarily and then its too late. Trust me I waited three weeks and she had already gone out with her friends and met a new guy. Unless you are sure you don't want a relationship with her then I say run to her. You will kick yourself latter, your life will change for the worse if you wait too long. Complacency is a bad thing trust me. You think she will always be there but she won't. How will you feel if she is in bed with another man. Picture that in your head. if you are OK with that then don't contact her however if that scene gives you shock to your system then go after her. A famous Psychologist said the number one killer of relationships is anger. Often its tempoary and does so much damage The problem is I decided to take a break because there was a lot of tension and 2 months later when I try to talk to her again, she didn't want to. She said I hurt her with that break and that she needs time to heal. Not to mentions she was at my house a week before that asking me to lets work it out but I said we will talk later that week but she turn me down. It's been 2 months since the. And all she been giving me is sex and mix signals. Still saying that she is not ready. Till the point where I said don't contact me till you are ready cuz I can't be just friends. But she still contacts me. I begged and did to mucky already. I just want to feel better.
fixing Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I have to agree with coping vortex. If you love her, and she has told you she loves you, what are you doing? Dont turn it into a game, if you both love each-other than communication is going to be the only saving grace to your relationship. Im not saying be full on, as its always a winner to have her chase you. GL
flitzanu Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 The problem is I decided to take a break because there was a lot of tension and 2 months later when I try to talk to her again, she didn't want to. She said I hurt her with that break and that she needs time to heal. Not to mentions she was at my house a week before that asking me to lets work it out but I said we will talk later that week but she turn me down. It's been 2 months since the. And all she been giving me is sex and mix signals. Still saying that she is not ready. Till the point where I said don't contact me till you are ready cuz I can't be just friends. But she still contacts me. I begged and did to mucky already. I just want to feel better. then it sounds like you're good enough to bang and keep for company, but not to date.
Author StandOut Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 then it sounds like you're good enough to bang and keep for company, but not to date. I Feel you, but it's been 4 years we been together. If it was any fling I wouldn't be stressing it
flitzanu Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I Feel you, but it's been 4 years we been together. If it was any fling I wouldn't be stressing it no, i mean you said she doesn't want to get together with you and won't communicate or make a decision, but was giving you sex and mixed signals. all of that equals what i was stating.
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