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Look, I know its not easy to find someone new, even AFTER you heal and recover. It's still no reason to settle for less.

 

In the nearly two weeks since my 5 year relationship/engagement ended, I've had all kinds of women from my hometown contacting me.

 

The problem is: and this is NOT meant to sound holier-than-thou, but they just aren't on my level in ANY way.

 

I'm a successful nurse, pursuing my master's degree. I also have a degree in culinary arts AND a degree in music composition. I'm a well-rounded, educated man with a sense of culture, and I'm "only" 36.

 

Most of the women my age in my hometown, and I mean like 90% of them are like...cashiers at a grocery store, or work in retail...they have never seen an opera or symphony, HATE classical music, and think a bottle of Jacob's Creek Moscato is "the good stuff" because it didn't come out of a box. Dressing up to them is putting on craploads of makeup and a slutty dress.

 

I'm not saying I'm BETTER in an imperical sense, but what I AM saying is that there is NO way I could live that kind of life.

 

I require a level of sophistication and elegance...and CULTURE in my partner.

 

If I already know I could never be happy with a girl, I dont even bother wasting my time.

 

Neither should you. Life is too short.

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yes.... I'm ashamed to say it was because she loved me and started talking about moving in.... I was an idiot...

 

I've worked very hard in getting her to talk to me, see me, and start spending time with me again... and (IMO) it was going great...

 

she already knows I really miss her, and things like that, as we have been texting somewhat... but I want to save the sorry and I want a future with her until we are face to face...

 

fingers crossed! lol

It sounds like you could work this out. Good luck!

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I have accepted this is out of my control. I don't know exactly what he is thinking or feeling. I don't know his "abilities". I don't know if he will come back or not. All I can do is maintain NC and do my best to get on with my life.

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I have accepted this is out of my control. I don't know exactly what he is thinking or feeling. I don't know his "abilities". I don't know if he will come back or not. All I can do is maintain NC and do my best to get on with my life.

 

That's the best any of us can do...

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You definitely made the right choice here. I also had to make a similar choice a few years ago and it was the right thing to do. As much as you may have loved him, he could take years to get his life together and then you would lose respect for yourself for waiting for him to get his act together.

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