NoClue2 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Hi all, So, thank you everyone for all the advice from my previous posts. I'm not sure if anyone remembers my posts from a month ago but it had to do with my now ex-boyfriend and whether he was going to leave me or not when he moved out. Well, he did. He gave me a sorry excuse about needing to be "himself" and space and time and that was that. Now, here is where I need advice. I met someone else through a friend literally the night we broke up for good. He is a really sweet, attractive, funny guy (complete opposite of my ex). I actually do think I could have real feelings for him and I don't think about my ex at all when I'm with him. However, the first night we met I went back to his house and we fooled around (no sex). The second night we met, he took me to a bar. This is where I got crazy. Everything was fine and the date was going well but the waitress was being kind of flirty with him. So when he went up to pay the tab, in my crazy, drunken, emotionally-scarred state, I stormed out of the bar because I thought he went up there to hit on her. Not the case, as I can see now. I apologized profusely when I realized what an idiot I'd been and he accepted. We had an ok rest of the night and didn't have sex. We had an awesome day the next day just laying in bed, cuddling, talking and watching movies. Things seemed to be looking better at that point. Fast forward to a couple days later on New Years Eve, again we have a great night and we end up sleeping together. I was fine (no crazy). He told me he was happy he had met me but he wanted to take it slow since I have alot of baggage (before we slept together). I agreed and told him I didn't want to jump right into a relationship with him. I stayed over the next day again, but I got drunk and I don't know if I acted like an idiot. I know I got mad at one point because he was on his phone a lot, but I got over it in a couple minutes. I just don't know what to do here. I feel like I really do have genuine feelings but I am really scared that I'm gonna scare him off. He's really sweet to me, always holding me, hugging me and kissing me. When I stay at his house we hold eachother all night. We've got great chemistry. Last night, he thought I was asleep but I could feel his heart racing, about to beat out of his chest. He hasn't contacted me yet today and it's really scaring me that maybe I'm taking things too fast here and I'm scaring him off. I see potential with him, beyond a rebound. How should I approach this? I know I need to not treat him as if he were the same person as my ex. He's a great guy; sweet, funny, affectionate. I'm really scared I've been too much for him. Is there any way to do damage control here before it's too late? I would like things to progress past a rebound. I think I was emotionally done with my ex for awhile (even though I still have some baggage). I think my feelings for this guy could turn into something real. Any advice? I'm kind of driving myself crazy here.
crashvector Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Hi all, So, thank you everyone for all the advice from my previous posts. I'm not sure if anyone remembers my posts from a month ago but it had to do with my now ex-boyfriend and whether he was going to leave me or not when he moved out. Well, he did. He gave me a sorry excuse about needing to be "himself" and space and time and that was that. Now, here is where I need advice. I met someone else through a friend literally the night we broke up for good. He is a really sweet, attractive, funny guy (complete opposite of my ex). I actually do think I could have real feelings for him and I don't think about my ex at all when I'm with him. However, the first night we met I went back to his house and we fooled around (no sex). The second night we met, he took me to a bar. This is where I got crazy. Everything was fine and the date was going well but the waitress was being kind of flirty with him. So when he went up to pay the tab, in my crazy, drunken, emotionally-scarred state, I stormed out of the bar because I thought he went up there to hit on her. Not the case, as I can see now. I apologized profusely when I realized what an idiot I'd been and he accepted. We had an ok rest of the night and didn't have sex. We had an awesome day the next day just laying in bed, cuddling, talking and watching movies. Things seemed to be looking better at that point. Fast forward to a couple days later on New Years Eve, again we have a great night and we end up sleeping together. I was fine (no crazy). He told me he was happy he had met me but he wanted to take it slow since I have alot of baggage (before we slept together). I agreed and told him I didn't want to jump right into a relationship with him. I stayed over the next day again, but I got drunk and I don't know if I acted like an idiot. I know I got mad at one point because he was on his phone a lot, but I got over it in a couple minutes. I just don't know what to do here. I feel like I really do have genuine feelings but I am really scared that I'm gonna scare him off. He's really sweet to me, always holding me, hugging me and kissing me. When I stay at his house we hold eachother all night. We've got great chemistry. Last night, he thought I was asleep but I could feel his heart racing, about to beat out of his chest. He hasn't contacted me yet today and it's really scaring me that maybe I'm taking things too fast here and I'm scaring him off. I see potential with him, beyond a rebound. How should I approach this? I know I need to not treat him as if he were the same person as my ex. He's a great guy; sweet, funny, affectionate. I'm really scared I've been too much for him. Is there any way to do damage control here before it's too late? I would like things to progress past a rebound. I think I was emotionally done with my ex for awhile (even though I still have some baggage). I think my feelings for this guy could turn into something real. Any advice? I'm kind of driving myself crazy here. go slowly.
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