bitterruin Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 My ex has been texting and emailing me constantly since before christmas, I've been good and not responding but it started getting to me, and I tweeted some not so subtle things about ignoring his existence. Seems like one of our mutual friends told him about it and he sent me another email telling me to have a nice life and that he would give the things I left in his house to my friend. I'm trying to figure out if I should respond saying I'm glad he got the message. Truth is I'm still not over him and having him text me made me kind of happy knowin he's not as over me as he said he was a month ago. I also tweeted something saying that if Im tweeting about it it means that I still care, I guess that's the tweet I really didn't want him ti see since I didn't want him I know I still give a sh*t.
jags2bowl27 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 My ex has been texting and emailing me constantly since before christmas, I've been good and not responding but it started getting to me, and I tweeted some not so subtle things about ignoring his existence. Seems like one of our mutual friends told him about it and he sent me another email telling me to have a nice life and that he would give the things I left in his house to my friend. I'm trying to figure out if I should respond saying I'm glad he got the message. Truth is I'm still not over him and having him text me made me kind of happy knowin he's not as over me as he said he was a month ago. I also tweeted something saying that if Im tweeting about it it means that I still care, I guess that's the tweet I really didn't want him ti see since I didn't want him I know I still give a sh*t. immature:confused:
KatZee Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 If you don't want him to know these things, then stop posting them on public sites. No one needs to see the drama. Also, he could be annoyed that you're going through social media to call him out instead of being an adult and simply telling him to stop texting you because you're not over him. Instead he had to have some mutual friend tell him that you're writing crap on Twitter. "Have a nice life" isn't a particularly endearing term and he sounds kind of angry at your behavior to me.
TheFinalWord Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 My ex has been texting and emailing me constantly since before christmas, I've been good and not responding but it started getting to me, and I tweeted some not so subtle things about ignoring his existence. Seems like one of our mutual friends told him about it and he sent me another email telling me to have a nice life and that he would give the things I left in his house to my friend. I'm trying to figure out if I should respond saying I'm glad he got the message. Truth is I'm still not over him and having him text me made me kind of happy knowin he's not as over me as he said he was a month ago. I also tweeted something saying that if Im tweeting about it it means that I still care, I guess that's the tweet I really didn't want him ti see since I didn't want him I know I still give a sh*t. Block his number. Your phone service should provide that. You can block his e-mail too. If this guy is poisonous, there is no reason to break NC. Him sending you a message like that doesn't mean he's not over you. It just means he wants to get the last word, or mess with your head. Vengeful and spiteful people like to use their power to hurt others. It doesn't mean he cares about you one bit. He only cares if he has the power to still cause you pain. Especially during break up, jealousy abounds. The root emotion of revenge is jealousy. Jealousy is as powerful as love and can make people do the most irrational things. Only way to repel his jealousy is to not play into it. The only way to get it out of your own heart is to forgive him and move on.
Author bitterruin Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 I made a mistake. It was immature and I knew I was playing with fire when I tweeted that, especially since I knew I still have feelings for the guy. I've been ignoring his texts and emails for a week now and trying to avoid making our private business public. I slipped once and am now in pain because of it. I've been good with this business of no contact except for once when I checked his Facebook page a month ago and now. In a way tweeting about him was breaking nc since it was a message addressed to him which he saw and responded to it. Also, when i talked about being happy about his texts I meant the ones from yesterday and before, where he was telling me he was still in a lot of pain and that seeing my things brought back the memories and I should go pick them up to spare him the pain. I didn't respond to those because I felt like his pain is none of my buisness anymore. Maybe I care more than I think I do.
TheFinalWord Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I made a mistake. It was immature and I knew I was playing with fire when I tweeted that, especially since I knew I still have feelings for the guy. I've been ignoring his texts and emails for a week now and trying to avoid making our private business public. I slipped once and am now in pain because of it. I've been good with this business of no contact except for once when I checked his Facebook page a month ago and now. In a way tweeting about him was breaking nc since it was a message addressed to him which he saw and responded to it. Also, when i talked about being happy about his texts I meant the ones from yesterday and before, where he was telling me he was still in a lot of pain and that seeing my things brought back the memories and I should go pick them up to spare him the pain. I didn't respond to those because I felt like his pain is none of my buisness anymore. Maybe I care more than I think I do. It's okay if you made a mistake But now you know for sure that all breaking NC does is bring up negative emotions that will not change the situation. Yes you care, it takes time to get over a break up. That's why NC is helpful. It allows you to not continue resurrecting confusing, painful feelings so you can approach the situation with a clear mind.
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