gomea Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 (edited) I've been talking to this guy for about 4 months now. We do live about an hour away from each other and he works every other weekend so we dont see each other much. It took about 2 months before our first date however, we did video chat before our first date and after. The texting is constant, maybe a day or two break from time to time but we are in constant contact. Due to work schedule we cant really talk on the phone that much either. Its been a while since I felt secured about how a guy feels for me and his intentions (i have insecurity and paranoia issues). Even though we were far away, there was something about him that made me feel secured. Anyway, we would always spend the weekends together (atleast when hes off) and the spark and chemistry are undeniable. Things really are going great with us. The last time we saw each other, we had a misunderstanding. I wouldnt call it a fight, I just got upset about something small and got all silent for a few minutes but apologized soon after and everything was great after that. It was actually my birthday weekend where he planned all these surprises for me. Things went downhill after that though. Not only was i initiating ALL the contact the week after, but he kept stopping the conversations. He's done that before every once in a while but not every single time. I could just feel sometime was wrong. I asked but he didnt give much detail and i thought it was about work or family that he didnt want to talk about. Finally, around xmas time i asked him again and i finally got it out of him. Turns out he got a call from his ex (i wish i asked which one but im guessing the most recent one) and said he thought he was over her but not completely. He said it's not fair to me. I'm just so confused as to what our status is now. He reassured me that he's not getting back with her and he's only talked to her once. I believe theyve been broken up for almost a year or maybe its been a year. But I know its not VERY recent. He kept saying that he wants to be with me but needs to get over her first. I asked him what it means for us and he said he wants to go out with me just not yet. So is it over? What do i do? We havent talked for a week now. Im so confused! Edited January 3, 2013 by gomea
crashvector Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 NEVER wait for someone who isn't waiting for YOU. You cannot love someone enough for the both of you. Trust me. 1
KatZee Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Never wait for anyone. You have no idea when or if he'll ever be over that ex. Move on, and go on with your life. Don't turn down other guys who are interested and don't close any doors or turn down any opportunities to meet new people. If one day he comes back around and is single and over his ex, by all means, go for it. But right now, he's emotionally unavailable and it's a death sentence waiting around for that mess.
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