Redbirdinabrightsky Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Thanks Loveshackers, you ladies and gents are a worthy bunch. October 26 2012, she dumps me. We had been dating for 9 months. Every other week though, or any time she is drunk, she wants sex. I'm the first guy she has ever slept with. We hooked up on New Year's Eve and spent New Years day together until this morning basically constantly having sex. A good time, maybe the best sex we've had was drunken New Year's, we just did not stop that night... also, and stupid, she is not on birth control now, part of me is thinking she could get pregnant from our holiday rendezvous. She would not get an abortion. Stupid of me perhaps, but it would keep her in my life long term, and I haven't wanted or loved anyone as much as her. I am confused, I know she doesn't want me back, she keeps saying she is mad at me, but she is still very affectionate and giving. She is jealous of me having other female friends who are super flirty and trying to get with me. I'm using those women to pull her back my way. I'm a bastard like that. My question for her is: "Why be jealous at all if you don't still want me back?" a question I haven't asked her. I know she is checking out my FB profile and my Google ID profile for tidbits about me, wanting to know how I am doing. She is leaving town for a vacation we'd planned to go on together at the end of January, I am leaving town and moving across country soon after... I am thinking of flying down to the beach where she'll be for vacation, I do want her back and I think a gesture that large would move her, if not then I would really know for certain, for certain if she was prego too. Nevertheless, I need somebody to boil it all down for me in a way that I will understand; kick my ass and let me know how 4uct up I am. Probably shouldn't come here when I've drank, in vino veritas:confused: 2
Svet74 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 shes just using you while she has no one else. once she meets someone new your history. good job for staying in her life and not even letting her miss you or see what she lost. jeez im a chick im telling you to grow some balls trust me it will hurt worse when she meets someone new and leaves you cold. So do it to her before she does it to you 1
coffeebean201 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Well seems there is unfinished business between you two. But I'm thinking flying down there is too big a move at this point. Congrats on the best New Years I've heard about so far....this year.
Author Redbirdinabrightsky Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 shes just using you while she has no one else. once she meets someone new your history. good job for staying in her life and not even letting her miss you or see what she lost. jeez im a chick im telling you to grow some balls trust me it will hurt worse when she meets someone new and leaves you cold. So do it to her before she does it to you I like what you have to say, though, I am not sure she is that shallow. We have am month to go till we are out of each-other's reach, so I think it is just a month long sexscapade, and I am totally okay with that. It is a great time. Once we are on opposite sides of the country, it'll be game over, and time to move on. Till then, I'm going to really ride it out. 1
Simon Phoenix Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 If you just want ass, it's fine. If you have feelings, this is a really dumb thing for you to do.
Author Redbirdinabrightsky Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 Well seems there is unfinished business between you two. But I'm thinking flying down there is too big a move at this point. Congrats on the best New Years I've heard about so far....this year. You right, it would be a big move, but I am thinking I can really stamp the mark on her for life that I am the romantic bad ass guy that she won't ever forget, and that no other 4ucker will ever measure up to. Till then, I'm sticking to making my mark. She's already said she doesn't want to be with anybody else for like 10 years, and I got admission from her unsolicited. I know she may have been petting my ego, but she is a wreck. Women that do not regret a break-up, jump out and rail every applicant and never look back to that ex they dumped. At the least, I'll be that guy nobody else can hold a candle to, and I'm cool with a call from her 10 years from now, 20. This woman could have 3 kids, 40 more pounds, be a burn victim, and lose a few limbs, I love her, can't help it. 1
Author Redbirdinabrightsky Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 If you just want ass, it's fine. If you have feelings, this is a really dumb thing for you to do. I'm okay with being 4ucking dumb then. I can heal after she is on the other side of the country.
crashvector Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 DONT...and I mean DONT do it anymore. You are being used...and am warning you (although I suspect its already true or you wouldn't be here in the first place) that you will end up REALLY hurt over it.
Simon Phoenix Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I'm okay with being 4ucking dumb then. I can heal after she is on the other side of the country. This sounds great in theory, rarely works that way though.
crashvector Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 This sounds great in theory, rarely works that way though. This. I have a feeling once she moves, you will be here singing a COMPLETELY different song.
Svet74 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 now your just trying to sound like some tough guy. if you got it all figured out then stop asking us for advice lol
Author Redbirdinabrightsky Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 DONT...and I mean DONT do it anymore. You are being used...and am warning you (although I suspect its already true or you wouldn't be here in the first place) that you will end up REALLY hurt over it. Oh well. I'm going to, and, no offense because I appreciate feedback, but at the end of the day if there is a chance for me to throw a Hail Mary of a snowball through hell with this woman, I will. The drunk New Years was the first time we had been drinking prior to our ex-sex hookups. If I stop now, there is no shot at that. Also, couples have made it out of **** like this, so if I can pull it off, I will try. Failure is a great teacher, and I think I am through the hurt, but I am going to ride this beat-to-szhit truck until the wheels fall off. My real question is why she is being so super emotional about all of this and being jealous too?
Svet74 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 shes acting jealous just to keep you around.. to make you think that she wants you. trust me my ex did the same thing but never asked me back.. so he had me but also had his freedom to do what he wanted as well
crashvector Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 now your just trying to sound like some tough guy. if you got it all figured out then stop asking us for advice lol Men do this...and I'm a man. We try to sound all tough and crap like "Yeah yeah...I just wanted some ass, right dude?" And then won't admit we got hurt because...wait for it...its not MANLY to admit you have a heart and actually have feelings. 1
crashvector Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Oh well. I'm going to, and, no offense because I appreciate feedback, but at the end of the day if there is a chance for me to throw a Hail Mary of a snowball through hell with this woman, I will. The drunk New Years was the first time we had been drinking prior to our ex-sex hookups. If I stop now, there is no shot at that. Also, couples have made it out of **** like this, so if I can pull it off, I will try. Failure is a great teacher, and I think I am through the hurt, but I am going to ride this beat-to-szhit truck until the wheels fall off. My real question is why she is being so super emotional about all of this and being jealous too? What I'm trying to tell you here dude...is that your snowball already melted. You're just the only one left who hasn't figured it out yet.
Simon Phoenix Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Oh well. I'm going to, and, no offense because I appreciate feedback, but at the end of the day if there is a chance for me to throw a Hail Mary of a snowball through hell with this woman, I will. The drunk New Years was the first time we had been drinking prior to our ex-sex hookups. If I stop now, there is no shot at that. Also, couples have made it out of **** like this, so if I can pull it off, I will try. Failure is a great teacher, and I think I am through the hurt, but I am going to ride this beat-to-szhit truck until the wheels fall off. My real question is why she is being so super emotional about all of this and being jealous too? I've never heard of a couple that's reconciled and actually stayed reconciled going with this approach. But if that's what you are going to do that's what you are going to do. Just don't be a fool and wrap your tool, unless you are going for the "get her pregnant" approach to reconcilation.
crashvector Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I've never heard of a couple that's reconciled and actually stayed reconciled going with this approach. But if that's what you are going to do that's what you are going to do. Just don't be a fool and wrap your tool, unless you are going for the "get her pregnant" approach to reconcilation. Which...would be just about the most dumbass thing I have EVER heard of, by the way.
KatZee Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Yeah, you're an idiot. Sorry. Calling it like I see it. This has to be one of the dumbest things I've seen on LS. Having consistent unprotected sex, essentially in hopes that she gets knocked up so that she'll be in your life "long term." That's awesome. Subject an innocent child to a dysfunctional relationship, a broken home. You ask for advice and for people to tell you if you're being stupid. Everyone does, and instead of taking that advice, you come back acting all hard and stubborn saying you're going to "ride it out." Ride what out? According to you she'll be going across the country. So what's the plan? This was never going to work out. Keep your s.hit in your pants and keep it moving. The last thing you need in this is a f.ucking child. Stop being selfish here. 2
Author Redbirdinabrightsky Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 Yeah, you're an idiot. Sorry. Calling it like I see it. This has to be one of the dumbest things I've seen on LS. Having consistent unprotected sex, essentially in hopes that she gets knocked up so that she'll be in your life "long term." That's awesome. Subject an innocent child to a dysfunctional relationship, a broken home. You ask for advice and for people to tell you if you're being stupid. Everyone does, and instead of taking that advice, you come back acting all hard and stubborn saying you're going to "ride it out." Ride what out? According to you she'll be going across the country. So what's the plan? This was never going to work out. Keep your s.hit in your pants and keep it moving. The last thing you need in this is a f.ucking child. Stop being selfish here. Strong reaction, glad you are being frank, and good advice for somebody actually hoping to knock a girl up in the hopes of keeping her. Not what I was attempting but awesome to get raked over the coals for something I wasn't at all trying to do, though it could seem that way from how I described it. The only question I was trying to answer wasn't. Have fun LS, I'm out. 1
RogerWallace111 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 you sound like a funny guy ! I hope you didn't actually straightup bust in her though You don't want her having your kid , you shouldn't fly to her vacation spot , she acts jealous because she still carries some sort of feelings for you, which is completely normal and doesn't mean she thinks the relationship will work.
soccerrprp Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Men do this...and I'm a man. We try to sound all tough and crap like "Yeah yeah...I just wanted some ass, right dude?" And then won't admit we got hurt because...wait for it...its not MANLY to admit you have a heart and actually have feelings. I respect you, crash! So true, so true!
kaylacole Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Thanks Loveshackers, you ladies and gents are a worthy bunch. October 26 2012, she dumps me. We had been dating for 9 months. Every other week though, or any time she is drunk, she wants sex. I'm the first guy she has ever slept with. We hooked up on New Year's Eve and spent New Years day together until this morning basically constantly having sex. A good time, maybe the best sex we've had was drunken New Year's, we just did not stop that night... also, and stupid, she is not on birth control now, part of me is thinking she could get pregnant from our holiday rendezvous. She would not get an abortion. Stupid of me perhaps, but it would keep her in my life long term, and I haven't wanted or loved anyone as much as her. I am confused, I know she doesn't want me back, she keeps saying she is mad at me, but she is still very affectionate and giving. She is jealous of me having other female friends who are super flirty and trying to get with me. I'm using those women to pull her back my way. I'm a bastard like that. My question for her is: "Why be jealous at all if you don't still want me back?" a question I haven't asked her. I know she is checking out my FB profile and my Google ID profile for tidbits about me, wanting to know how I am doing. She is leaving town for a vacation we'd planned to go on together at the end of January, I am leaving town and moving across country soon after... I am thinking of flying down to the beach where she'll be for vacation, I do want her back and I think a gesture that large would move her, if not then I would really know for certain, for certain if she was prego too. Nevertheless, I need somebody to boil it all down for me in a way that I will understand; kick my ass and let me know how 4uct up I am. Probably shouldn't come here when I've drank, in vino veritas:confused: She still has feelings for you so that explains her jealousy. We can also see that you are still into her. I say hang back and continue seeing her through the end of the month while letting her initiate contact. You want her to want you and it sounds like she does at least physically. Maybe when the finality of your two being apart by moving approaches she will reconsider. Just leave the door open for her and maybe some day she will have a chance to realize what she is losing? How or why did you two break up? Ive seen people put their relationships back together and Ive seen them fail at it. It takes two. Say nothing about wanting her back but show through your actions that you do when she contacts you. Make her wait for you. I think we are missing a lot of background on your relationship. Katzee, harsh, the rest of you, harsh. I say run with how you feel and never apologize for it. If it is love then fight for it. 1
crashvector Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I respect you, crash! So true, so true! I'm nothing if not honest. 1
OJ loved Nicole Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Do you think anything we say will make him stop? Save your keyboards from this thread....
crashvector Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 She still has feelings for you so that explains her jealousy. We can also see that you are still into her. I say hang back and continue seeing her through the end of the month while letting her initiate contact. You want her to want you and it sounds like she does at least physically. Maybe when the finality of your two being apart by moving approaches she will reconsider. Just leave the door open for her and maybe some day she will have a chance to realize what she is losing? How or why did you two break up? Ive seen people put their relationships back together and Ive seen them fail at it. It takes two. Say nothing about wanting her back but show through your actions that you do when she contacts you. Make her wait for you. I think we are missing a lot of background on your relationship. Katzee, harsh, the rest of you, harsh. I say run with how you feel and never apologize for it. If it is love then fight for it. Its not harsh to say that TRYING to have a kid with a woman just to keep her around is a PROFOUNDLY selfish and stupid thing to do. Probably the single dumbest thing I have EVER heard of. What's gonna happen to the kid for crying out loud?! 2
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