Shim_kattty Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 With doing NC, I've kinda noticed that after I cried it out yesterday & what not, I have began to not think about my ex & it kind of scared me. I see that it's working, but did anyone become fearful when their ex was just not on their mind anymore? I like it, but it just seems like I'm about to let him go completely (which is the point I guess).
Frank13 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Yes the same thing happened to me recently. I found it puzzling that the place I wanted to be made me feel sad. Like you, I felt like I was completely letting her go out of existence. Like she was no longer in this world. I called it the death of love. 1
Author Shim_kattty Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 Yes the same thing happened to me recently. I found it puzzling that the place I wanted to be made me feel sad. Like you, I felt like I was completely letting her go out of existence. Like she was no longer in this world. I called it the death of love. Exactly. I'm holding on to something for God knows what reason because he did some really crappy things to me. I love him because he was my best friend even before we dated, but it's like not only the death of the relationship, but of the friendship as well. Like all I invested is being let go in a matter of weeks. Funny how the human mind copes. I haven't had to get over someone in 4 years so I completely forgot what to expect.
Frank13 Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 With me we were best friends first also so I too suffered the loss of the friendship. We ended badly and were NC for 11 months and it always bothered me, like there was no closure. Then I heard of a death in her family and I reached out to her. Told her if she needed anything to let me know. Turns out she didn't, neither practically nor emotionally. After a few texts we are back to NC She has moved on. Next time I won't bother. The good thing is I feel I got closure and that although we are no strangers, we aren't two people that hate each other.
ScienceGal Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 Totally understand; in fact sometimes I think I cry a little more because I know one day he will be completely gone from me. So sad
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