somedude81 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I don't think the very rich guy necessarily feels "wanted" either, if he's aware that he's just being used as a commodity. Even if he's down for it. You got it. The lights off girl is nothing more than a vagina, and the rich dude is nothing more than $$$
PhoenixRysing Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 This is an interesting thread to me (for obvious reasons if you have read my other post) and it strikes me that we all seem to have perceptions that go based on the belief that since our love lives are so difficult then it must be easier for everyone else that is not like me (male/female, poor/rich, smart/cool, sexy/virgin). It seems to me that love and relationships are just quite difficult for most of us. The grass is simply not greener on either side of the fence. When I say men don't ask me out, I mean that - literally. I don't mean a bunch of losers ask me out and they don't count. OK - one minor exception - like one of the other female posters I have had a few drunken and cracked out homeless people tell me that I'm gorgeous. But even they don't offer dinner as a result. I think we are all just terrified of rejection and many of us don't approach or don't really know when we are being approached. Several folks asked me in my other thread if perhaps I wasn't ignoring men who were coming on to me. I suppose that is possible but it is because I am absolutely clueless just like most folks, not because I am uninterested. If a man literally said, "Can I take you to dinner?" or something equally easily understood, then I could say yes, I am ignoring them. However, that has not been my experience - ever. Men claim constantly that women are hard to understand - I think most women feel the same. I know I do. So I go on the assumption, if they are not clear that they are interested (directly asking to spend more time with me) then they aren't. Perhaps a faulty assumption, but it is my reality.
spooky48 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 How many men have you rejected who liked you in that period though? If I'm brutually honest, in the now 9 year time frame, I would have to say approximately 20.
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 If I'm brutually honest, in the now 9 year time frame, I would have to say approximately 20. Yea. That's not a lot but it's not nothing either.
Necris Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 It's the same with men. Most men who say they can't get chicks really mean: "I can't get the hot women that I lust after and drool over", yet they ignore the plain jane or some chubby chick. Nope, at least not for me, when I say I can't get a girl, I can't get a girl. Yes, even plain Jane. Like the girl who rejected me most recently she was a bit overweight with a huge nose. Guys have alot less options than girls on average so alot of guys complaining just can't get a girl period. 1
Imajerk17 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I don't know man. What percentage of single women my age whom would I be interested in dating? I'd say 10% at the most. I don't feel bad for that. I like what I like and I am meeting women like this. 1
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Nope, at least not for me, when I say I can't get a girl, I can't get a girl. Yes, even plain Jane. Like the girl who rejected me most recently she was a bit overweight with a huge nose. Guys have alot less options than girls on average so alot of guys complaining just can't get a girl period. Yep. Me too. Well, I have gotten women, a few, but I've had to work my arse off for every one. Nancy seems to be suggesting that guys who complain have a row of undesirable women lined up to date them. Not me. Not a one. 1
mesmerized Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 even somedude claims that he can't get a chick and then reveals that he CAN just not thin, at least 34B cup and under 30 I think both sexes mean "I can't get anyone I am attracted to". Hahaha no kidding.
somedude81 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 This is an interesting thread to me (for obvious reasons if you have read my other post) and it strikes me that we all seem to have perceptions that go based on the belief that since our love lives are so difficult then it must be easier for everyone else that is not like me (male/female, poor/rich, smart/cool, sexy/virgin). It seems to me that love and relationships are just quite difficult for most of us. The grass is simply not greener on either side of the fence. When I say men don't ask me out, I mean that - literally. I don't mean a bunch of losers ask me out and they don't count. OK - one minor exception - like one of the other female posters I have had a few drunken and cracked out homeless people tell me that I'm gorgeous. But even they don't offer dinner as a result. So you've never dated? Hahaha no kidding. Read my post in response to her.
somedude81 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Yea. That's not a lot but it's not nothing either. Not a lot?! I would be ecstatic if I had 20 women interested in me in the past 9 years. Sure I probably wouldn't want to date all of them, but at least three or four would be dateable.
Lonely Ronin Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Not a lot?! I would be ecstatic if I had 20 women interested in me in the past 9 years. Sure I probably wouldn't want to date all of them, but at least three or four would be dateable. Forget about the statistical probability for a moment and answer me this. If you where not attracted to any of them, would you really care if 2, 20 or 200 of them where attracted to you? 1
Imajerk17 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I'll say more about being interested in dating only 10% of women... Whenever I dated someone I wasn't excited to be with, I always felt both trapped and guilty. I realized that being single is A OK with me. That is when I realized that I am better off not settling and keeping my standards even though some of them might sound a bit shallow. Meanwhile, I do what I can to Deserve What I Want so that they aren't unrealistic. Guys, one advantage that we men have over women is Time. A woman in her late 30's who wants to have her own kids and raise a family with someone might have to make some tough decisions regarding her standards and her life plans. A man in his late 30's has plenty of time. I like what grkboy said earlier btw... 1
KungFuJoe Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Forget about the statistical probability for a moment and answer me this. If you where not attracted to any of them, would you really care if 2, 20 or 200 of them where attracted to you? Well, to answer this question alone....yes. I think anyone likes the fact that someone else thinks they are attractive. Not saying you're gonna do backflips all the way home but a compliment is a compliment. 2
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Not a lot?! I would be ecstatic if I had 20 women interested in me in the past 9 years. Sure I probably wouldn't want to date all of them, but at least three or four would be dateable. I meant not a lot for a WOMAN! I'd have been happy with 20 in my last 9 years too. I'm sure a few of them would have been dateable.
somedude81 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Forget about the statistical probability for a moment and answer me this. If you where not attracted to any of them, would you really care if 2, 20 or 200 of them where attracted to you? When you tell me to forget about the statistical probability, the question becomes ridiculous. I cannot answer such an illogical question.
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Well, to answer this question alone....yes. I think anyone likes the fact that someone else thinks they are attractive. Not saying you're gonna do backflips all the way home but a compliment is a compliment. Not only that, but if a person is gaga-mad-in-love with you and you reject them ... HELLO Mr. EGO! Nice to meet you.
ThaWholigan Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I'll say more about being interested in dating only 10% of women... Whenever I dated someone I wasn't excited to be with, I always felt both trapped and guilty. I realized that being single is A OK with me. That is when I realized that I am better off not settling and keeping my standards even though some of them might sound a bit shallow. Meanwhile, I do what I can to Deserve What I Want so that they aren't unrealistic. Guys, one advantage that we men have over women is Time. A woman in her late 30's who wants to have her own kids and raise a family with someone might have to make some tough decisions regarding her standards and her life plans. A man in his late 30's has plenty of time. I like what grkboy said earlier btw... Liked for the Scot McKay reference . And I agree mostly. 1
Necris Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Yep. Me too. Well, I have gotten women, a few, but I've had to work my arse off for every one. Nancy seems to be suggesting that guys who complain have a row of undesirable women lined up to date them. Not me. Not a one. Most of the girls I talk to are plain and generally girls that at least appear like they'd be somewhat receptive to my advances, but it doesn't help. Now I heard somewhere on this forum you should go after the hottest of girls since they most likely aren't being approached that often unlike average girls as their hotness maybe intimidating to most men but I'm not so certain about that logic and never observed this before. Any truth to this?
Lonely Ronin Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 When you tell me to forget about the statistical probability, the question becomes ridiculous. I cannot answer such an illogical question. Dating & relationships aren't logical, so you will need to learn to set that aside from time to time. Secondly statistical probabilistic fall flat on small same sets. If you Flip a coin 20 twenty times, the chances of you getting a 50/50 distribution are low for this very reason. Thus the question still stands if you found them all unattractive, would you really care if they liked you?
Lonely Ronin Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Now I heard somewhere on this forum you should go after the hottest of girls since they most likely aren't being approached that often unlike average girls as their hotness maybe intimidating to most men but I'm not so certain about that logic and never observed this before. Any truth to this? They do get approached less from what my attractive female friends say, but I don't think that means your chances are any better.
ThaWholigan Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Most of the girls I talk to are plain and generally girls that at least appear like they'd be somewhat receptive to my advances, but it doesn't help. Now I heard somewhere on this forum you should go after the hottest of girls since they most likely aren't being approached that often unlike average girls as their hotness maybe intimidating to most men but I'm not so certain about that logic and never observed this before. Any truth to this? You should go after who you are attracted to. Simple really. There is truth to it, some of the hottest girls I'd ever seen never got approached.
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Most of the girls I talk to are plain and generally girls that at least appear like they'd be somewhat receptive to my advances, but it doesn't help. Now I heard somewhere on this forum you should go after the hottest of girls since they most likely aren't being approached that often unlike average girls as their hotness maybe intimidating to most men but I'm not so certain about that logic and never observed this before. Any truth to this? Me too. I've only ever gone for women most guys would consider average. A few times when drunk I have hit on girls who would be considered HOT by most guys, but that's it. Don't believe what you read about hot girls not getting approached. They get approached a lot. There's many men who aren't afraid of hitting on any woman.
somedude81 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Dating & relationships aren't logical, so you will need to learn to set that aside from time to time. Secondly statistical probabilistic fall flat on small same sets. If you Flip a coin 20 twenty times, the chances of you getting a 50/50 distribution are low for this very reason. Thus the question still stands if you found them all unattractive, would you really care if they liked you? If you flip a coin 20 times. What are the odds that it will land on heads every single time?
Lonely Ronin Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Well, to answer this question alone....yes. I think anyone likes the fact that someone else thinks they are attractive. Not saying you're gonna do backflips all the way home but a compliment is a compliment. My social circle is a little different, I'd say guys and girls alike that I know kind of consider an option they don't want irrelevant.
Lonely Ronin Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 If you flip a coin 20 times. What are the odds that it will land on heads every single time? Feel free to keep dancing...
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