somedude81 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Concurring with this. Life sucks for men but it's not because we can't get laid. It's because so many women want to entrap us in marriage and hold the legal power to ruin our lives. Ha ha ha! Yup, everyday I turn down half a dozen marriage proposals.
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Being rejected literally everytime does wear on a person, for me just getting a date is a major accomplishment and even then the only girls who decide to go on a date with me aren't interested in me in the slightest in the first place but they do get free meals and movies. Its best for me to try to stop caring so much, honestly not every one is supposed to find someone anyway. Yea. It's hard. That's what I think some people fail to understand. Getting rejected is not the same as a woman not being active and getting no dates. Rejection sucks. It eats at you. You're supposed to go about, take your rejections like a man, and keep ticking, and the all meanwhile shut up about it because nobody wants to hear about your whining. Tall order. But you're up to it buddy.
spooky48 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 After she rejected 25 average guys in row. The only men that count are the top 20% looks wise. Rest doesn't exist. Hypergamy at its finest. Women have endless options. Lowest of the low women can get attention online. The average male is the equal to 4'10, retarded, one legged, fish faced, wheelchaird unemployed woman. I'd like to find the actual research that supports these claims, no offense to you. As a woman who's been online dating now since 2004, I should be studied. Seriously. I have been on now 20 sites. I've paid for both Match & Eharmony both 3 times now & the times I was a member of 55 meetup.com groups. I even hired 2 life coaches to find out if my body language, facial features & if even my personality characteristics & traits were flaws & failures. Obviously, they are. At 39 not to have children & be unmarried & not a very "sexually active" person is very, very weird in the world nowadays. However, I take it all as a huge sign. Think about it. Everybody in my daily life all tells me I should write a book but, would it sell? lol I could tell you about many points & clues of the dating sites I've been on. Like, what are worth it & what's not. Hey though, I wish everyone well in finding the person they've been waiting for. I know for myself I am officially not meant for love, children & marriage but, I always try to be positive & praise others in their quest for what & who they seek. Cheers.
Negative Nancy Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 It's the same with men. Most men who say they can't get chicks really mean: "I can't get the hot women that I lust after and drool over", yet they ignore the plain jane or some chubby chick. 3
Eternal Sunshine Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 It's the same with men. Most men who say they can't get chicks really mean: "I can't get the hot women that I lust after and drool over", yet they ignore the plain jane or some chubby chick. even somedude claims that he can't get a chick and then reveals that he CAN just not thin, at least 34B cup and under 30 I think both sexes mean "I can't get anyone I am attracted to". 2
Author Necromancer Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 It's the same with men. Most men who say they can't get chicks really mean: "I can't get the hot women that I lust after and drool over", yet they ignore the plain jane or some chubby chick. Fat women should stick to fat men if not. Hypergamy!
Author Necromancer Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 even somedude claims that he can't get a chick and then reveals that he CAN just not thin, at least 34B cup and under 30 I think both sexes mean "I can't get anyone I am attracted to". I think the problem is that fit women hold much more value than fit men. Any girl who has good body will have men after her. 1
carhill Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 The average male is the equal to 4'10, retarded, one legged, fish faced, wheelchaird unemployed woman. You'll want to work on topping this. I lolz I especially have enjoyed the women who have had the 'balls' to complain to me about nobody wanting them after I've asked them out and they've rejected me. Wonders never cease. Glad that era is long over. I hope it works out for them. It's nice to be wanted, I think.
GoodOnPaper Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 It's the same with men. Most men who say they can't get chicks really mean: "I can't get the hot women that I lust after and drool over", yet they ignore the plain jane or some chubby chick. So if a guy struggles with dating, it's bad for him to want someone he's really attracted to but it's also bad for him to settle, as shown in other threads. It's a conundrum with no way out . . . 1
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I'd like to find the actual research that supports these claims, no offense to you. As a woman who's been online dating now since 2004, I should be studied. Seriously. I have been on now 20 sites. I've paid for both Match & Eharmony both 3 times now & the times I was a member of 55 meetup.com groups. I even hired 2 life coaches to find out if my body language, facial features & if even my personality characteristics & traits were flaws & failures. Obviously, they are. At 39 not to have children & be unmarried & not a very "sexually active" person is very, very weird in the world nowadays. However, I take it all as a huge sign. Think about it. Everybody in my daily life all tells me I should write a book but, would it sell? lol I could tell you about many points & clues of the dating sites I've been on. Like, what are worth it & what's not. Hey though, I wish everyone well in finding the person they've been waiting for. I know for myself I am officially not meant for love, children & marriage but, I always try to be positive & praise others in their quest for what & who they seek. Cheers. How many men have you rejected who liked you in that period though?
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I especially have enjoyed the women who have had the 'balls' to complain to me about nobody wanting them after I've asked them out and they've rejected me. Wonders never cease. Glad that era is long over. I hope it works out for them. It's nice to be wanted, I think. I've had that happen too. That really says it all.
SteveC80 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I love how womens idea of having different tastes in men and not only lusting atfer hot guys is Ed Norton and Adrien Brody:laugh: like these guys are quasimotos While they might not be 10's theyre certainly not ugly and imo above average looking I do think women will settle for less then hot guys to be the father of their children and a emotional tmapon ive seen it with my freinds and then they secretly hit on guys like me because their husbands dont turn them on that much
Casablanca Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I do OLD and have done it the last few years when single and have found it to be as successful (if not more as I haven't had dates with people who had deal breakers) than offline and there are still women, attractive women I see on the same site every time. So either their relationship pattern follows mine or they have had no success. I send them a message every time, they are attractive, but aren't out of my league and I've dated just as attractive before, I figured they wont remember me if I sent them a message a year ago, never had heard anything. Looking at their profile, we have similar interests, but never hear anything back. Either they do this for attention of have unrealistic standards My favorite though, is one of my friends, she is 27 and gorgeous. But she has no self confidence, she got a boob job, she didnt need one and she wants a nose job, and doesnt need one either. Yet she only dates ass holes, she complains their are no good men, but the only places she goes to meet guys are at clubs. No guy there sees her as relationship material as she is still a 21 year old college party girl at heart, but wants a guy she can settle down with...yeah figure that one out
somedude81 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 even somedude claims that he can't get a chick and then reveals that he CAN just not thin, at least 34B cup and under 30 I think both sexes mean "I can't get anyone I am attracted to". Excuse me. I don't have small breasted women over 30 hitting on me. Do you really think a woman would be easier to attract if she has small breasts? That's asinine. The only female interest I've gotten, and I'm just guessing it was interest, was from women who were about 50lbs heavier than me. A 5'4, 200lb woman isn't a little chubby. It's the same with men. Most men who say they can't get chicks really mean: "I can't get the hot women that I lust after and drool over", yet they ignore the plain jane or some chubby chick. I have pursued plain Jane and a few chubby girls. They weren't interested.
Lonely Ronin Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I have pursued plain Jane and a few chubby girls. They weren't interested. You know NN is going to come back, and say, no you didn't you pursued above average Abby who is a 7.
somedude81 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 You know NN is going to come back, and say, no you didn't you pursued above average Abby who is a 7. Heh, I actually have photo evidence of me with a plain Jane girl and everybody on this board knows she rejected me a while ago. Though she wasn't actually ugly or obese so maybe that automatically made her above average.
Mme. Chaucer Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Some of you guys don't understand that "I would f*** her with all the lights off and if I were dead drunk" doesn't qualify as being "wanted" by any woman I've ever met. In GENERAL, male sexuality is different than female sexuality. That is why horrendous looking diseased and potentially dangerous crackhead streetwalkers are still able to get money for doing sexual acts with "normal" guys who pick them up. All the time. Do you think those women were "wanted"? Or feel "wanted"? Plenty of guys who are horny enough might not need to feel any attraction at all to use a woman's body as a "cum dumpster," as we've learned often enough around here. In GENERAL, women just don't operate like that. I have theories about why but they're probably not pertinent to this thread. What is pertinent: If you don't feel wanted, it's about the same as not BEING wanted. All this talk about being "wanted" by a fat girl doesn't count, but being "wanted" by a slightly chubby girl does count is bogus. 3
grkBoy Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 After she rejected 25 average guys in row. The only men that count are the top 20% looks wise. Rest doesn't exist. Hypergamy at its finest. Women have endless options. Lowest of the low women can get attention online. The average male is the equal to 4'10, retarded, one legged, fish faced, wheelchaird unemployed woman. Look at it this way... How are her selection standards working out for her? You notice she's single, alone, and aging. Same deal with men who hold the bar high. I know for me (when I was single and "went my own way"), obesity and/or "messed up life" were the two things I would not tolerate. If it meant I would die alone, then I would have happily accepted it. Only difference between myself and the woman you described is I would not complain about my singledom. Let her complain...she is the reason why she is single and alone.
SteveC80 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Some of you guys don't understand that "I would f*** her with all the lights off and if I were dead drunk" doesn't qualify as being "wanted" by any woman I've ever met. In GENERAL, male sexuality is different than female sexuality. That is why horrendous looking diseased and potentially dangerous crackhead streetwalkers are still able to get money for doing sexual acts with "normal" guys who pick them up. All the time. Do you think those women were "wanted"? Or feel "wanted"? Plenty of guys who are horny enough might not need to feel any attraction at all to use a woman's body as a "cum dumpster," as we've learned often enough around here. In GENERAL, women just don't operate like that. I have theories about why but they're probably not pertinent to this thread. What is pertinent: If you don't feel wanted, it's about the same as not BEING wanted. All this talk about being "wanted" by a fat girl doesn't count, but being "wanted" by a slightly chubby girl does count is bogus. Some women actually enjoy nsa sex though and like the idea they can acquire it easily and from a man above their league if they want where an average dude has to work extremely har for nsa sex and usually has to lower his standards draamtically
Lonely Ronin Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Let her complain...she is the reason why she is single and alone. She is hypothetical, so he has something to bitc* and moan about, because he is bitter about his options. 1
Mme. Chaucer Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Some women actually enjoy nsa sex though and like the idea they can acquire it easily and from a man above their league if they want where an average dude has to work extremely har for nsa sex and usually has to lower his standards draamtically I don't care. Woman being more easily able to have sex if they want to does not equate to them feeling "wanted" in the same way it would to a man being able to have sex whenever he wants to without paying. IN GENERAL. If you're a woman, finding someone "willing" to screw you does not have a great deal of value, whether you're fat or whatever. 2
somedude81 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Some of you guys don't understand that "I would f*** her with all the lights off and if I were dead drunk" doesn't qualify as being "wanted" by any woman I've ever met. That's the same thing as, "I'd only date him if he was very rich."
TouchedByViolet Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 If you're a woman, finding someone "willing" to screw you does not have a great deal of value, whether you're fat or whatever. I disagree. Many women go through phases of wanting casual sex and no commitment. Women are more often than not able to achieve this desire while a man wanting casual sexual relations may find this much harder to obtain. I can see the argument for finding a loving relationship but not everyone wants that all the time. 1
Mme. Chaucer Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 (edited) I disagree. Many women go through phases of wanting casual sex and no commitment. Women are more often than not able to achieve this desire while a man wanting casual sexual relations may find this much harder to obtain. I can see the argument for finding a loving relationship but not everyone wants that all the time. I agree with you; I'm just saying that being able to get sex easily, even if that's what you're looking for, does not necessarily make a woman feel wanted. Almost all of us grew up knowing that there were lots of men who wanted to do sexual stuff with us, even when we were still girls and not women … even if we were butt ugly - sometimes even children. It does not mean that much. Any more than a guy with money who is able to get a woman to go Chez Panisse with him, his expense, is necessarily going to feel wanted. And, sometimes, he was just looking for a pretty and talkative dinner companion. Edited January 3, 2013 by Mme. Chaucer 1
Mme. Chaucer Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Quote: Originally Posted by Mme. Chaucer Some of you guys don't understand that "I would f*** her with all the lights off and if I were dead drunk" doesn't qualify as being "wanted" by any woman I've ever met. That's the same thing as, "I'd only date him if he was very rich." How do you figure? "I'd only date a rich dude" = "I'd f*** an ugly girl if I were desperate"? One has parameters, the other has zero. I don't think the very rich guy necessarily feels "wanted" either, if he's aware that he's just being used as a commodity. Even if he's down for it.
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