jrice94 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 A little back story for you: We met at a movie and have been inseparable ever since. She was so cool just chill not high maintenance like the girls at my school . Her idea of a good time was sitting on my couch watching a movie or driving out to the boonies and looking at the stars.I wanted to give her everything she wanted, and i did. At one point we flew to Maui and Paris ( for a family vacation but still). And slowly but surely she became a little more self centered and bratty. This all climaxed when i bought her a 350 dollar piece of jewelry for no reason at all after Thanksgiving. She knows how to get me to buy her things. She'll see it, ask me to buy it, start hugging me, flash those big brown puppy dog eyes, throw in a pouty lip, and say please 1,000 times, and if that doesn't work she kisses me on the cheek until my heart melts enough and i'm a sucker for that so i give in. So today she wakes up at 8 am and asks if we can go to the city ( Chicago). I like chicago, i like to just look at the people and sky scrapers, and i hope to school there. We end up on michigan avenue in Nordstrom and within about 30 seconds she finds a necklace. Her: You know who would really look good in that? Me: Kate Upton? ( can't outsmart a smart aleck) Her: No, me * starts hugging me * flashes eyes and lips Her: Babe, will you buy it for me please i want it please please it's so pretty you know you want to * starts kissing me Me: but sweetie it's like $500 i just bought you stuff for Christmas ( about 1,000 dollars worth) * puppy dog eyes* Her: Please baby do it for me Her: but think about how pretty i'd be in it Me: I think you're pretty at 3am in your pajamas Her: So are you going to buy me the thing or not Me: I'm not Her: You're such an ***hole Me: And you're a spoiled brat now i'm leaving going to the car and driving home, you can either come with me or you can be stranded here with no money for a cab Her: i hate you She got all teary eyed and was crying in the car we get back to our place and she runs into the bedroom and starts crying on the bed. She throws a pillow at me and slams the door. Her: You're not sleeping in here until you apologize Me: lemme know when you decide to stop being spoiled and get a job to start buying your own stuff. Should i just buy it for her? i mean i hate seeing her upset but on the other hand i want to prove to her that i'm not a doormat. I hate conflict. I just want her to be happy but i want the old her back?
Maneater Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 going by only what you just posted. yes this girl is a huge brat! you need to lay down the law. You can still show her your love with compliments and affection but if she keeps insisting on expensive gifts and trips...she may only be interested in certain things. 1
todreaminblue Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 No do not buy it,it doesnt prove you love her by buying baubles and trinkets being there after she chucks a hissy fit does.....lol play her this being through the good and the bad, the ugly and the glorious...thats love.....not a necklace it is stars at midnight....50 cent ice creams and love is in the dreams you plan together one day....and when you look up together and smile at those stars, thats the glorious....the ugly is expecting someone to do everything you want and chucking tantrums when you dont git it...smilin.."life is like a box of chocolates..."""piss off foresssssssst gump".get outta my head.......damn this song rocks.....you cant get what you want but sometimes you get what you need................roll on stones................deb
veggirl Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 No dont buy it for her! wtf dude! time for a real talk with her about how she is using you and is an entitled brat...which btw much of to blame is on you for giving in all the time. what did she buy you for xmas? 2
christine07 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 (edited) Woah.... Are you kidding me??? Do not buy it for her. Its sorta sad in a way. You have spoiled her and now she just assumes you will buy her stuff when she asks. You stated you wanted to give her everything she ever wanted and you did. You sound like an amazing BF! She is now using that against you, instead of it being a sign of affection and appreciation she has turned it into some sorta power trip and is using it against you. I think you need to get back to you roots with her. Take her out to look at the stars, talk about fun memories, etc.. Edited January 3, 2013 by christine07 2
Lani Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I think what you really need to decide is whether or not you can deal with this kind of behaviour for the foreseeable future? Chances are, this is just what she's like. If you stop buying things for her now, she's always going to remember that you did in the beginning of your relationship, and likely throw it back in your face. If you want to be with her, and have the money to buy her these things, then keep doing it. Otherwise, it may be time to tell her she's acting like a baby, and if she can't sort it out and grow up, then things will need to end. Unfortunately, some girls are just programmed to be the way she is, and there isn't much to be done about it.
Author jrice94 Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 (edited) Air Jordans and Kanye tickets and Bulls/ Heat tickets is what she gave me on xmas Edited January 3, 2013 by jrice94
Phoe Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 do not buy it. there is absolutely NO need for a $500 necklace. If you want to stay with her, put your foot down and make her realize that she can't pitch a fit and be bought pointless things for it. If she refuses to realize that then perhaps it's best to move on.
NoMoreJerks Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 (edited) OMG... the nerve she has to ask you for gifts.... Some people are just raised to be rude,by their parents... or something! Of course do NOT buy it, what kinda question is that??! And I thought *I* was high maintenance , for wanting to talk to my bf (now ex) on the phone more than once every 2 weeks...! Also, how shallow can some women be?? She reminds me of Beth Tinker in Coronation Street (if anyone watches it lol) Edited January 3, 2013 by NoMoreJerks 1
Keenly Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Man stand your ground. She is milking you hard. But I know what you mean, when a girl kisses me on the cheek my heart does melt too, and I would do whatever she wanted. But she is a spoiled brat, probably daddy's fault.
xxoo Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Air Jordans and Kanye tickets and Bulls/ Heat tickets is what she gave me on xmas Those are some pricey gifts, too! I can't believe you got in a fight (with tears!) over a $500 necklace. When my 3 year old was going through a bratty stage like that, we avoided stores. Problem solved. 4
coffeebean201 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I wouldn't talk about it too much with her. Just say - no. Christmas is over. But Valentines Day is coming up. She is an exuberant person and you don't want to extinguish that.
veggirl Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Air Jordans and Kanye tickets and Bulls/ Heat tickets is what she gave me on xmas okay, and do you have anything to say about any of the other responses?
zebracolors Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 ... Her: No, me * starts hugging me * flashes eyes and lips Her: Babe, will you buy it for me please i want it please please it's so pretty you know you want to * starts kissing me Me: but sweetie it's like $500 i just bought you stuff for Christmas ( about 1,000 dollars worth) * puppy dog eyes* Her: Please baby do it for me Her: but think about how pretty i'd be in it Me: I think you're pretty at 3am in your pajamas Her: So are you going to buy me the thing or not Me: I'm not Her: You're such an ***hole Me: And you're a spoiled brat now i'm leaving going to the car and driving home, you can either come with me or you can be stranded here with no money for a cab Her: i hate you She got all teary eyed and was crying in the car we get back to our place and she runs into the bedroom and starts crying on the bed. She throws a pillow at me and slams the door. Her: You're not sleeping in here until you apologize Me: lemme know when you decide to stop being spoiled and get a job to start buying your own stuff. Should i just buy it for her? i mean i hate seeing her upset but on the other hand i want to prove to her that i'm not a doormat. I hate conflict. I just want her to be happy but i want the old her back? Im sorry but wow i can't wrap my head around that kind of selfishness.. Others here have said it pretty well already. You handled that pretty well, and I don't know you, but Im glad you didn't cave in and buy it for her. But for heaven's sake don't second guess your decision. The problem is since you have caved in before, she's likely going to be testing you more to see what she can get from you. Sound like Im talking about a child? Well, xxoo had a good point on that. If you really love her, then just decide if its really worth putting up with. But I really don't know if she'll ever be the way she was when you first met. 1
NoMoreJerks Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 OP, out of curiosity, how long have you two been together for???
Divasu Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Kanye, is this you complaining about Kim again? 1
Woggle Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Kanye, is this you complaining about Kim again? I wonder if hanging out with Bruce Jenner is like looking into the future for him. 1
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