soccerrprp Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Yeah, in the end, if the guy likes you, he'll contact you whether sex on first date (or too soon) or not. 2
DC4 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I have experience in sleeping with guys on the first date.. and i met them on a dating site. What I realize is, if a guy really likes your company, no matter how soon you guys have sex, he will put his effort to make the relationship happens. I once read an article about how guys think of sex on the first meeting, and one guy said "If I don't call her after, means I wasn't that attracted to her from the first place." and I think what he says is applied to most of men.. Guys that I slept on the first date, one guy we realized later that we're not really for eachother, but he would call me everyday and I could feel he cared about me. The second guy, he asked me to be exclusive at the dinner table only few hours after we met.. kinda crazy but that's what he did and he even tried to not have sex because he believes it's a curse lol, but we had it and he's been the sweetest among the guys I've dated. I'm saying, from my experience, how soon or late you have sex is not going to change the guys mind..(unless he isn't intended to have sex but you just take your clothes off..) if a guy liked you enough from the first place, he'd keep you and make effort. Although I learned from the first guy that I should wait little more to see how the relationship goes before have sex.. Because the guy I'm seeing, is good exception, but the other guy, later we both realized we're not for eachother and it kinda turned into booty call for a while. Next time, make sure the guy is making time for you, and you are def able to feel he cares and likes you alot. I had sex with those guys because I could feel how much they like me and care about me. I felt secure about the relationship. I've dated associate lawyers working crazy +80hrs in big firms and a guy travels alot for work also works long hours, and they all were able to make time to call me text me or whatever to reach me, and tried to see me asap. Funny thing is, if a guy doesn't have enough time to make the relationship happens, what's the point of him being on the site and dating people? If you want your guy to see you and call you more often, eventually those guys who are freaking busy are not for you. I dig everything about this post. Basically if a guy likes you, he likes you sex or not. I can't imagine sex is a litmus test-if sex, then leave. The only way that would happen is if his only goal was to sleep with you then it's going to happen anyway. Same about the busy part. I have dated men who were shockingly busy and they still made time to fire off a text to show they were thinking about me and certainly to answer me within an hour or two. If they have an hour or two to spare, they ask you for dinner or coffee, you know? I never buy the "too busy" line. Too busy means you're not worth taking the time. Move on!
edgygirl Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 What I realize is, if a guy really likes your company, no matter how soon you guys have sex, he will put his effort to make the relationship happens. Good luck with that. Let's talk in 10 years when you go through a few more a**holes. 2
edgygirl Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I dig everything about this post. Basically if a guy likes you, he likes you sex or not. I can't imagine sex is a litmus test-if sex, then leave. The only way that would happen is if his only goal was to sleep with you then it's going to happen anyway. It's oh so lovely being so naive.
edgygirl Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Funny thing is, if a guy doesn't have enough time to make the relationship happens, what's the point of him being on the site and dating people? err... getting laid? with girls who innocently believe they want a relationship. Wake up! 1
clia Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I have experience in sleeping with guys on the first date.. and i met them on a dating site. What I realize is, if a guy really likes your company, no matter how soon you guys have sex, he will put his effort to make the relationship happens. Like most things in dating, this is only true sometimes and for some men. It is absolutely not an across the board rule to follow. You can ruin what could have been a promising relationship by sleeping together too soon. Why? Because you don't even know each other. There is no emotional attachment, no emotional connection, no connection to each other at all. You are not a part of each other's lives yet. You are two people who knew each other for four or five hours and spent half that time naked. (for example). You are strangers. What impetus does a man have to get to know you further when you gave him the ultimate prize on the first date? He may think you are cool, and he may even continue to see you on rare occasions, but at the end of the day, it's generally too much too fast in the very precarious time that is the beginning of a relationship. And a lot of men will lose respect for you. Nearly all men will try for sex on the first date -- it is up to the women to say no and to pace the relationship. If you don't, it is usually at your own peril.
GLDheart Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 This sex is a prize crap is hilarious! Sex day 1 or day 100 is irrelevant IF THE GUY IS REAL. HOWEVER, this habit of holding out a little while was developed to weed out the players that have only a little bit of "material" to work with... Anyone can keep up a great act for a short while... THE KEY IS IN FINDING OUT IF IT'S AN ACT OR IF IT'S REAL... That's why girls have developed the habit of holding out the vajajay. Mr. "smooth" who says all the right things is probably just an insecure little prick that notches his bedpost as a way to increase his self worth to himself and to his other shallow buddies. Pricks like that make all women suspicious of us REAL men. My fun, my charming, my wit, my humor... that's real. CONSISTENCY is what proves it. Don't have sex with fake men unless you just want to get laid... then hey, use em and lose em (I'm sure they won't mind). It's the wise women on here that will tell you holding out for a real man is worth it.
soccerrprp Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 This sex is a prize crap is hilarious! Sex day 1 or day 100 is irrelevant IF THE GUY IS REAL. HOWEVER, this habit of holding out a little while was developed to weed out the players that have only a little bit of "material" to work with... Anyone can keep up a great act for a short while... THE KEY IS IN FINDING OUT IF IT'S AN ACT OR IF IT'S REAL... That's why girls have developed the habit of holding out the vajajay. Mr. "smooth" who says all the right things is probably just an insecure little prick that notches his bedpost as a way to increase his self worth to himself and to his other shallow buddies. Pricks like that make all women suspicious of us REAL men. My fun, my charming, my wit, my humor... that's real. CONSISTENCY is what proves it. Don't have sex with fake men unless you just want to get laid... then hey, use em and lose em (I'm sure they won't mind). It's the wise women on here that will tell you holding out for a real man is worth it. I've had sex on the first, second, 4th never with the ladies i've dated. MY intention is and never has been to conquer the vajajay and move on. BUT, i am also clear that I am open to having sex early on in the relationship. I let the ladies know that I am looking for a mature, adult relationship. The ladies are the ones who then determine when and if it's time. I guess, my point is, when and how do the ladies know for certain?
DC4 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 The men you have dated have washed your brain quite well. You people are so jaded.
Author Lani Posted January 7, 2013 Author Posted January 7, 2013 Thanks everyone for your advice and thoughts (aside from a 'like' on my Instagram photo, so lame) Still no word from the guy, and I've found out that he ended up taking a few extra days off work because he wasn't well. Being in town for longer than planned, and not getting in contact with me, has pretty much shut things down from my end. I don't need that crap in my life!
coffeebean201 Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 He's probably playing xbox. I'm sorry he hurt your feelings. re sex with new guy I like to see if my close friends like a guy.
Author Lani Posted January 7, 2013 Author Posted January 7, 2013 Probably playing xbox- so true. I mean, xbox is far more fun than sex right? I also just realized my other post today was a little confusing- I mean that he 'liked's a photo on Instagram, not someone giving my advice. I don't even know how that got in the wrong place.
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