Heartonastick Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I met my ex after suffering through a terrible nasty break up that screwed my head completely. I was on antidepressants.My gut feeling though was telling me not to get in a relationship because I was obviously not very happy in myself, so rejected his offer. I had an accident and couldnt work and on New Years he finally convinced me to give it a go. Everything was bliss .He convinced me to come off my antidepressants. It was his best interest at heart to try and show me i dont need drugs to be happy so i stopped. This is when the arguments set in. My depression was back but perhaps worse and I was constantly sobbing everyday. Alot happened in the year, death of a loved one, fractured wrist, 2 car crashes, breaks cut out while driving etc. I got him a job at my work and he's still there to this day. Anyway, He finally decided to end it round august. We've been off and on ever since really (off now of course) Im back on the antidepressants. Have had therapy over the past 4 months.I feel like he saw me when I wasnt myself and probably assumes that is who I am. I see him perhaps upto 4 times a week at work. He isnt the jerk of an ex you want but dont want. He waits for me after tours, remembers EVERYTHING i mention even if it was a year ago he knows me inside out really. He collects my favourite chocolates on the chocolate tour and gives them to me when I see him. He always wants to hang out and worries about me. We obviously have slept together a few times but i said that this isnt right. A guy on my tour asked me out while I was with my ex. An hour into having a drink with this guy i got a message on this dating website app im on FROM MY EX. DUN DUN DUUUUNNN. I knew he had a profile on there but could never find me since his age bracket looking for girls was a year older than I am so would never fit his criteria (yes I did have a sneaky look at it before) he said glad to see ive finally joined.It kind of weirded me out a bit.He lied and said he changed the year of the search age bracket because the dating website apparently match us up several times together, but itd been the same before I even joined! Do not know how he found me. He mentioned a girl a friend he was going to panto with couple days after. I said "enjoy your date" in a jokey way. He got defensive and said shes just a friend and lied but I caught him out on it later next day about it and we fell out a bit. it isnt my business to know everything there was just no need to bring it up in the first place he didnt need to tell me or even lie about it he said she way too fat not his type (i presume they met up and he wasnt very fond of her) but wanted to protect me from where he originally met her. New years just gone was our anniversary. I got emotional over the phone to him. I have very mixed feelings about it all I just want whats best really he is my best friend and I think its the same for him we cant seem to let each other go by the sounds of things.
fixing Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 He obviously still has some feelings for you. Why dont you sit him down and communicate your feelings towards him?
Treasa Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I want to punch him in the face. Anti-depressants have changed my life in a huge, positive way, and it irritates me that anyone who isn't a licensed psychiatrist or at least a doctor would tell someone else what meds to take or not take. Between that and his weirdness in finding you, and then his defensiveness, I say be nice and give him ten seconds to start running before you kick him square in the nuts. Also, don't ever let anyone except your doctor sway you in any way regarding something as serious as anti-depressants. Withdrawing off them incorrectly, or at all, can have VERY adverse side effects.
fixing Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Good point Treasa. I completely missed that very important part in the OP. I am on Anti 'Ds, for four years.... Your mental health is very important obv. 100% agree with Treasa's post
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