trevjim Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Ok so if anyone wants to look at my other post for more details, this is the same question but asked from a differant angle.... I dumped my girlfriend of 2 and a half years, probably rashly after an argument (we had alot of arguments in the past although none for quite a while before the final one) she was devastated and so was i but we both agreed it was a good decision. even after i moved home she was saying she loves me and it sucks we arnt togeather etc as was i (at this point she had started seeing an ex and i knew about it, I would come round to see her to talk whilst he was in the next room) we had sex twice in that week, then boom, im no longer needed, she hates me, hasnt loved me for weeks etc (so she says) made me delete her number, lies to her parents about the reasons we split up, made me out that i just wanted to party and that. i dont believe this is because she realised she has a chance with the ex, she has known she could get him in a click of the fingers if she wanted. i just dont know what changed?
mammasita Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 If you don't want her back and you know she's trouble - why waste your energy trying to figure out why she did what she did and/or what changed? One of your mistakes was continuing to speak and sleep with her after the break up. I know, I know - it's an ego thing. You have to try to accept the fact that she changed and you may never know why. **** like that happens. Take it as a lesson learned and grow from it.
Author trevjim Posted January 2, 2013 Author Posted January 2, 2013 If you don't want her back and you know she's trouble - why waste your energy trying to figure out why she did what she did and/or what changed? One of your mistakes was continuing to speak and sleep with her after the break up. I know, I know - it's an ego thing. You have to try to accept the fact that she changed and you may never know why. **** like that happens. Take it as a lesson learned and grow from it. Because i feel i need closure, and i dont feel i can get that without the answers
flitzanu Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Because i feel i need closure, and i dont feel i can get that without the answers you're never ever ever ever ever going to get answers or "closure". that's something you need to create for yourself. she is acting cold and hateful because she is wanting to show you that she is TRULY over you and wants absolutely nothing to do with you. none of it means it is true, but that's what she is doing. also called blameshifting. if she makes you out to be the bad guy, she can convince herself not to feel guilty. 1
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