headsashed Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 So its going on 8 months since my ex did the dirty and broke my heart,for the 2nd time may i add lol. I have to say im now in a much better place now,im happier in everyway. Alot has changed for me in these 8 months which obviousley helped me heal,im not saying im 100% but i reckon im 99%, ive been on a few dates,sadly none has worked out but ive got 1 good friend from 1 of the dates,we have had our fun and realised were much better at friends and tbh im more than happy with that. My football team i joined are doing well,2nd in the league woohoo lol, so im happy with that and im also feeling so much fitter. Im now self employed and i love it,im debt free too. Ive literally no worries at all. The holidays did hit me a little bit,i suppose its because its been my 1st 1 alone,but i coped very easily,i went out with friends and loved every minute of it,i even won quite abit of money on a football bet lol,made my xmas even better. If anyone reading this is curious as to wether i heard from the ex then ill be honest with you,ive heard from her twice in 7 months,once on my birthday which she said happy birthday then went on to abuse me, and i heard from her on new years eve,she txt me at likke 3am,i was very very drunk btw,she just said happy new year,i dont hold grudges so i replied and said happy new year too,have a good 2013,she replied with something along the lines of "ive had a crap xmas,new year which im sure you will be happy about" i politely replied with "sorry to hear that and im going to bed now" ive not heard anything since. I never felt anything when she txt,so i know i must be just about healed. I remember where i was this time last year,a complete mess,ex was doing her best to keep me hanging and tbh i was just blind, but it goes to show that determination helps you heal,i was determined to get over her this time and not 1 thing has stopped me. Im happy now and i can only get happier. Hope everyone has a had a good xmas and new year and remember this,things do and will get better,that i promise 2
KatZee Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I'm 8 months out as well and I have to say I'm about where you are. 99% healed. I'll say 1% not healed b/c his name will sometimes cross my mind but nothing much more than that. I've made all new friends, reconnected with old ones, I've done so many things that I never would have had the opportunity to do if I was still with my ex. I wasn't phased at all on the holidays, when the ball dropped on NYE I didn't even think of him for one second (which is kind of surprising because I spent the past 3 NYE's with him.) The anger is gone, I'm so much happier without him in my life. He was holding me back, he was dragging me down. He made me into a person I hated. I was always negative, tired, struggling to make him happy. I wasn't thriving as a person, and for once, I AM! I know from here on out I'm only going to date and be with amazing people. Only positive people are allowed in my life. I've cut so much negativity out, so much drama so much hate. I'm finally blossoming into the person I am, and the person my ex tried to stiffle so many times. I am ME! And it's FABULOUS!!! Yes people, you can get here, you will get here, life will be amazing again. :D:D:D:D
geegirl Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Good for you H! Look forward to a better New Year. You're very much on your way.
Chi townD Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 DUDE! That's awesome!!! Self employed! Making a good living! Debt Free!! Joined a football league (getting out in the community and making new connections). But, I take it that it's soccer we're talking about and not REAL football! Dude, you have come a long way from the hard headed SOB that first came on here and would BARELY listen to anyones advice until you tried it and it actually worked for you! Hell, you don't sound bitter anymore and the interaction with your Ex definately made her know that you are completely over. You gave her nothing! No ego stroke and you went on with your life. Awesome, dude!!! I'm liking these positive stories on here today!!!
Author headsashed Posted January 2, 2013 Author Posted January 2, 2013 Thanx for the replies,kat im so glad your feeling much better,we healed at the same rate lol. Tbh my ex never crossed my mind at midnight,i was too busy with this pole dancer stickin her tongue down my throat haha. Thanx geegirl,you been an ispiriation to me over the past 12-18 month. Now now chitown,soccer is a real sport,not silly american football id rather watch paint dry than watch that lol,that reminds me,need to buy some paint. Jokin aside,ive come such a long way and im proud of myself. I did get some posotive news aswell,my friends relations came over from washington dc and was asking about my business and offered me some work,only thing i asked is if they had a beach near their house haha. You know something though chi,i get better looking everyday cant wait for tomorrow.
geegirl Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Thanx for the replies,kat im so glad your feeling much better,we healed at the same rate lol. Tbh my ex never crossed my mind at midnight,i was too busy with this pole dancer stickin her tongue down my throat haha. Thanx geegirl,you been an ispiriation to me over the past 12-18 month. Now now chitown,soccer is a real sport,not silly american football id rather watch paint dry than watch that lol,that reminds me,need to buy some paint. Jokin aside,ive come such a long way and im proud of myself. I did get some posotive news aswell,my friends relations came over from washington dc and was asking about my business and offered me some work,only thing i asked is if they had a beach near their house haha. You know something though chi,i get better looking everyday cant wait for tomorrow. I'm just glad to see you back on your feet again! Anything I could do to help. You had a rough time and your story is an inspiration to others on here that things do get better. I'm happy for you!
Author headsashed Posted January 2, 2013 Author Posted January 2, 2013 Thankyou,the only regret i have is not listening the 1st time around,but we all make mistakes, we just have to learn from them. I was proud i didnt give my ex anything when she contacted me,tbh i had no urge to,why she thinks ill be happy that she didnt have a good xmas/new year is beyond me,i wasnt interested. If she told me she was super happy then id be happy for her. Onwards and upwards for me,ive been flying these past few months.
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