Just smile Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I don't know why I even have hope to hear from him, but I do. I already plan to not take his call, but he usually ALWAYS caves and does the running back routine, it's part of his mo. This time, he is away on vacation in Florida with family, guessing totally preoccupied . I thought for sure would have gotten a call on New Years , but no. I'm so baffled after four years, spending every day together, talking, being best friends that we were, that he can just go cold turkey . I have not reached out and have blocked all numbers, but lets face it, if he wanted to call he would, he would find a way. The sadness is not getting any better. I have lost close to 7 lbs in two weeks. The only thing im doing is sleeping, too much.... The depression is horrible. I hate a ate New Year's Eve and it sucked and I literally wanted to bolt out the door on this poor guy.. All I keep thinking of is my ex and wondering if the reason he's not calling is because he In fact has moved on. Or is it because he is busy having a grand old time in Florida and when he returns to his ho him life will he miss me? I just want to move on and can't, it sucks. 1
newmoon Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 i feel your pain :-( i'm in the same situation, and my bf always does the caving first, so i come to expect it. but he hasn't yet and it's been quite a few days. i'm actually very good at NC. i've also lost about 5 pounds in a week, just no food at all and lots of sleeping. if it wasn't for my dogs needing to be walked i wouldn't even get out of bed. maybe this'll be the one time your bf doesn't come back so try to move forward in the event he doesn't come round this time. and take care of yourself, by eating here and there and keeping up strength. i have found that writing posts here and in my diary helps a lot, and so does focusing on the bad memories of our time together and hurtful things he said along the way. focus on negative stuff about him to move on. hugs :-)
OJ loved Nicole Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 He told me he loves 95% of me. He's limp d*ck commitment phobe (you said). Don't you want someone who loves you 100% for YOU, crazy about you, hard d*ck, 100% committed to you? 2
na49 Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 If you find yourself waiting for him to call, maybe blocking his number wouldn't be a bad idea?
Author Just smile Posted January 2, 2013 Author Posted January 2, 2013 I did block his numbers, I always do when we break up. As I said, I know I should want the ******* to call but I can't help thinking of him. I do think he is visiting with his old overweight ex girlfriend of his past, that he always insisted on jeopardizing our relationship over. In fact, I'm sure he is visiting with her. That in itself should make me cringe. I guess she can have his limp cock now. 1
LostOne1 Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I always do when we break up. That line there concerns me.. if you've broken up MANY times.. then this time shouldn't be a huge surprise. Breaking up a lot to me means the relationship had some major problems. I guess maybe it wasn't going to work out for you guys. In my relationship we never had a breakup though once a yr back my ex wanted it. But then decided it would be okay to work it out. Things were fine then until just a few months ago. But I think the difference is this BU she had another guy she could jump too. So BU was easier as it was essentially swapping me out and someone else in. And I think that's why it was easier for her to move on. She didn't fully feel the loss, because she had something that replicated what I did... where as for me I don't have anyone else, so I can't replicate those things I miss or lose. But I am better being single, I don't think I can handle a relationship at this point in time. So what ever happened.. well happened for the best.
Author Just smile Posted January 2, 2013 Author Posted January 2, 2013 Oh yes I've been involved with a narc commitment phobe for four solid years of this nonsense. Push pull, tug ,etc. he always came running back but always had an ex girl in his back pocketThis telling me he had family to see in Florida when I know the fat ex lives two hours from his destination. I've heard pictures are posted of the two of them etc. I guess my self esteem took a blow here, being the woman is ten years older than me. Over weight and looks like a transvesitie. And here i sit knowing he is u worthy of me, and I still miss him ! Why?????????? Yea the relationship was / is toxic. Idk what's wrong with me.
NoMoreJerks Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Oh yes I've been involved with a narc commitment phobe for four solid years of this nonsense. Push pull, tug ,etc. he always came running back but always had an ex girl in his back pocketThis telling me he had family to see in Florida when I know the fat ex lives two hours from his destination. I've heard pictures are posted of the two of them etc. I guess my self esteem took a blow here, being the woman is ten years older than me. Over weight and looks like a transvesitie. And here i sit knowing he is u worthy of me, and I still miss him ! Why?????????? Yea the relationship was / is toxic. Idk what's wrong with me. You should've dumped him. You shouldn't have given him the satisfaction of dumping you. I have learned this the hard way, dealing with a narc bf (now ex, thank god).. they can never tolerate being ignored/dumped. It hurts their ego too much. Then they start chasing you again, but do NOT give in and take them back, because they will dump you soon after that (how soon? i don't know, it varies -- mine took about 3 months to dump me again after I took him back; but NEVER AGAIN!).
flitzanu Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Oh yes I've been involved with a narc commitment phobe for four solid years of this nonsense. Push pull, tug ,etc. he always came running back but always had an ex girl in his back pocketThis telling me he had family to see in Florida when I know the fat ex lives two hours from his destination. I've heard pictures are posted of the two of them etc. I guess my self esteem took a blow here, being the woman is ten years older than me. Over weight and looks like a transvesitie. And here i sit knowing he is u worthy of me, and I still miss him ! Why?????????? Yea the relationship was / is toxic. Idk what's wrong with me. having an ex gf to bang when he's dating you doesn't make him a narcissist or a commitment phobe, it means you were allowing him to cheat on you when he obviously wasn't going to commit to you. if you allowed him to have no ties to the relationship, have a backup girlfriend, and have you always waiting around to take him back every single time, why would you expect him to settle down and treat you like a proper girlfriend?
Author Just smile Posted January 2, 2013 Author Posted January 2, 2013 Ps I did break it off this time. I had no choice he was pushing and pushing, then tossing on me a sudden trip. Thing is I never allowed him to cheat . I suspected he always denied and told me I was crazy insecure etc claims they were always friends and that's it! Of course I wanted to beleive him !! He is a narc go back read my threads from October
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