Author Coping Vortex Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 So we actually talked today. She contacted me because her ex husband was breaking into her bank account. Guess she needed my expert advice. We mostly talked about what she should do etc. the. She mentioned that she went to check my FB account. She said she couldn't get into it. But I told her I did not block her but they she unfriended me. She said she would re friend me. Strange so she now wants to add me back???? Why now? Not sure what the hell the deal is now. I busted on her by saying Awww you still love me. She didn't answer. Lol. Not sure what that means either but I had to get that dig in. Good I hope she does miss me. You had your chance
na49 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Yeah she might love you. Yeah she might miss you. Doesn't mean she wants to date you again though.
flitzanu Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 So we actually talked today. She contacted me because her ex husband was breaking into her bank account. Guess she needed my expert advice. We mostly talked about what she should do etc. the. She mentioned that she went to check my FB account. She said she couldn't get into it. But I told her I did not block her but they she unfriended me. She said she would re friend me. Strange so she now wants to add me back???? Why now? Not sure what the hell the deal is now. I busted on her by saying Awww you still love me. She didn't answer. Lol. Not sure what that means either but I had to get that dig in. Good I hope she does miss me. You had your chance welcome to the friend zone.
cavalier99 Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 So we actually talked today. She contacted me because her ex husband was breaking into her bank account. Guess she needed my expert advice. We mostly talked about what she should do etc. the. She mentioned that she went to check my FB account. She said she couldn't get into it. But I told her I did not block her but they she unfriended me. She said she would re friend me. Strange so she now wants to add me back???? Why now? Not sure what the hell the deal is now. I busted on her by saying Awww you still love me. She didn't answer. Lol. Not sure what that means either but I had to get that dig in. Good I hope she does miss me. You had your chance You are letting her use you and are a willing participant and are destroying you self esteem. She is f*king another guy and you are fixing her cable box and bringing them room service (metaphorically speaking). You have all the advise you need. You just need to listen and accept that it is OVER.
RebCal Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 This thread is making me think twice about sending flowers to my ex next week. My ex is currently dating someone else as well, and gut feeling tells me she is going to do the same to me. Your girl already moved on with someone else, and base on her actions. She wants to be left alone. If she still cares, she would at least said a thank you. Its difficult for all of us, but we must be strong. They already have a change of heart, and the more we show them something is still left, the more they'll distant themselves.
cavalier99 Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 This thread is making me think twice about sending flowers to my ex next week. My ex is currently dating someone else as well, and gut feeling tells me she is going to do the same to me. Your girl already moved on with someone else, and base on her actions. She wants to be left alone. If she still cares, she would at least said a thank you. Its difficult for all of us, but we must be strong. They already have a change of heart, and the more we show them something is still left, the more they'll distant themselves. Dude...Definitely don't send flowers. Don't sent anything please. If you send flower they will just use YOUR rose pedals to decorate the bed prior to having massive amounts of honeymoon sex!
Simon Phoenix Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 This thread is making me think twice about sending flowers to my ex next week. My ex is currently dating someone else as well, and gut feeling tells me she is going to do the same to me. Your girl already moved on with someone else, and base on her actions. She wants to be left alone. If she still cares, she would at least said a thank you. Its difficult for all of us, but we must be strong. They already have a change of heart, and the more we show them something is still left, the more they'll distant themselves. I sure as hell hope so. That is an absurd idea.
Author Coping Vortex Posted January 5, 2013 Author Posted January 5, 2013 Still doing the texting thing with her. Nothing of susbstance. When I make a reference to anything about missing or wanting us etc. she just doesn't answer. I appreciate all of the advice that I should just NC already but being in sales its against my nature not to fight to close the sale until the bitter end. I hear all of you and I know I am heading for a crash. I can tell through our texts that is no mention of getting together to talk or anything romantic. Its a weird place as all we did 6 weeks ago was talk romantic and sexy. But we have only been communicating for a few days. @flitzanu - had it right on the money. Friend zone. She added a friend (who happens to be an ex lover. Me!) to give her attention. She has no job now and is sitting around at home a lot. So I guess I fill in her day. It is such a weird state. This is not how I knew her. Our relationship was of substance declaring our love for each other talking about sex and longing etc. Now its about her hair color and what pics do I still have her. I do feel that deep down there is still a spark and maybe she is just trying to fight it a bit, maybe because she is seeing someone and fighting to be faithful, although she is talking to me. As I stated in another post I can tell that relationship is making her compare me to him as she already admitted I am a better lover and better conversationalist etc. I guess I am deluded thinking that maybe I can build on this crack of communication as well as the fact that the new relationship is disappointing her. Again I feel the salesman in me can get her to drop the wall she is trying to maintain. I know guys I hear you guys NC don't take her bread crumbs etc. But I have to play this out to the end. I will communicate with her for a little while more and then I will as what she is doing and what she really wants. In the mean time I will look at this as starting over to court her. If I knew she was in total bliss with her new man then I would go NC and move on. But with knowing what I know now I need to pursue her. She has meant too much to me for so long and I don't want to give up yet. I am taking it light. texting here and there and maybe a few conversations but I am still living my life. So we'll see. if I don't see anything progressing by next week I will move on and go full NC. My short time goal is to get her to meet me somewhere to have a real conversation. She can tell me that yes she does still care and want to give another go or no, she wants to give this new relationship a go and has no desire to have me in her life. But at least that will be the nail in the coffin. Being in sales if I gave up every time some prosepect said "no" I would never have been a successful salesman. I know the risks I am well aware. But I have nothing to lose other than some time. Who knows it could pay off even though I know the odds are against me.
Author Coping Vortex Posted January 6, 2013 Author Posted January 6, 2013 Well forget my last post it all went to **** today. She texted me she can't text this weekend as she will be out of town. Which means she is spending all weekend with her new guy. I'm crushed and I feel so stupid. Sorry folks I should have listed harder to go NC. I'm devastated again and nothing I can do about it. No more ****ing bread crumbs. Ok I'm now on NC officially. Wish me luck. P.S I need to get her out of mind once and for all. 1
CarrieT Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 P.S I need to get her out of mind once and for all. Block her email. Block her FB. Change your number. When she returns and texts you, you shouldn't know about it and THAT may make her want you again. Only NC works and it will only work with you if you don't see or hear what she is doing.
Author Coping Vortex Posted January 6, 2013 Author Posted January 6, 2013 I wonder after a weekend in bed with her new guy if she will even bother to text me at all when she goes sick home. At least she admitted I was better in bed than him. So have it honey live with the bad sex. Your loss.
Author Coping Vortex Posted January 8, 2013 Author Posted January 8, 2013 I wonder after a weekend in bed with her new guy if she will even bother to text me at all when she goes sick home. At least she admitted I was better in bed than him. So have it honey live with the bad sex. Your loss. As I suspected she didn't contact me anyway so she did me a favor. As I was going to ignore her texts anyway. No more bread crumbs. Oh yea and also don't call me when your ex husband stalks you again either. I'm finally waking up to the fact it was all about this new guy all along. She claimed she met him 2 weeks after she BU with me but that doesn't compute from where I stand. The timing doesn't add up. I caught her in other lies anyway so why believe anything she says now?
stevie_23 Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 It was my ex’s birthday 2 days ago. I didn’t say anything to him. I didn’t say anything to him on Christmas Day either. He doesn’t want to hear from me so why look pathetic?
LostOne1 Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 Well forget my last post it all went to **** today. She texted me she can't text this weekend as she will be out of town. Which means she is spending all weekend with her new guy. I'm crushed and I feel so stupid. Sorry folks I should have listed harder to go NC. I'm devastated again and nothing I can do about it. No more ****ing bread crumbs. Ok I'm now on NC officially. Wish me luck. P.S I need to get her out of mind once and for all. I posted kinda late, but I was in your spot man. Calling her and texting and had some form of communication. But I think it was a mix of friendzone and wanting to be with me. And it lead to a huge fight, which lead to us both going NC well mostly me. She got so mad that she just told me off and I decided finally to respect her decision. It's been tough going NC, but anytime I want to break it. I remind msyelf of what she said.. "I don't want to be with someone like you, I hate you, have some self respect and don't talk to me ever again" I play that in my head when I find some weakness and it gives me the strength to push onwards. It lets me remember that SHE wanted me out, when all I wanted was to find some way to civilly sit down and talk about what is going on. That's the ONLY way I have made it this far.. those words she said hurt me a lot back then. Now they are my strength and if there is anything that holds me from losing my self respect. It is her words of telling me not to lose my self respect.
LostOne1 Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 It was my ex’s birthday 2 days ago. I didn’t say anything to him. I didn’t say anything to him on Christmas Day either. He doesn’t want to hear from me so why look pathetic? True.. my ex's bday is in 2 weeks. I don't know what to do to be honest. Part of me wants to say Happy bday, but part of me has said well I let xmas and new yrs go.. why not let the birthday go too. What would be sad is if I ran into her at school on her bday. It's gonna be odd that day at home. It will be the first day I sit on the computer and DON'T stay up till midnight with her to be the 1st to wish her a happy bday. But It's sometime I guess I will need to get used too now. It will suck on my bday too, knowing she won't be there anymore. I hate to say it, but my last few bdays it's ALWAYS been her doing something nice for me. I'll miss that a lot, and I feel bad because I always wanted to do something nice for her bday. I got her stuff, but I never had the money or time to do something really special like a late night picnic or something romantic. I guess that's a lesson I learned too. That I need to really let the romantic guy in me out.. and find some way to make things happen even if money or time is a problem. There always is a way.....
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