iBerry Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 (edited) For the last few months I have experienced some life altering events which caused a strain on my relationship. I started crying easily and would get my feelings hurt easily. A recent argument has led to a break-up, and although we are on good terms with each other, I feel the breakup was the last straw and I've lost it. I am tempted to get on anti-depressants to get out of this funk I've been in. Has anyone tried antidepressants following a break-up? I'm trying to tell myself that my depression is situational, due to recent events and the end of my relationship, and that the feelings will pass but im having trouble. I keep busy during my days and for the most part I'm fine but then I break into tears towards the evening and I am obsessed with over-thinking things and how I could've done things differently. As well, I have been having feelings like something is wrong deep down, but not quite sure what it is exactly. Im frustrated with myself for letting things bad. I've gone through breakups before and never felt this crappy. I would appreciate any advice. Thank you. Edited January 2, 2013 by iBerry
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Try anti-depressents. It seems you are really down and they could help mellow you out.
Jasmine36 Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I have been on them for about 4 weeks now, my break up was 5 weeks ago and I don't really know if they help or not because I am still not coping and find it very hard to get out of bed each day give them a try they could work for you xx
Author iBerry Posted January 2, 2013 Author Posted January 2, 2013 Jasmine, which one are you on? I'm thinking of trying Wellbutrin because it does not cause weight gain like some of the other anti-depressants. We're you feeling bummed before the breakup too? I hope they start working for you soon.
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I have been on them for about 4 weeks now, my break up was 5 weeks ago and I don't really know if they help or not because I am still not coping and find it very hard to get out of bed each day give them a try they could work for you xx Poor Jasmine...I really hope you do heal up some day. Remember ladies we are here for you...hugs* 1
Coping Vortex Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I am going through a really bad break up. Its been 6 weeks mostly NC. Except for some breadcrumbs. I am taking this really hard and have been very depressed. To make matters worse she is already with a new guy. I thought I would bounce back after a few weeks but my depression has worsened. As a result I have resorted to going to the Dr's to get Anti Depressants. I am not a drug taker but I need something to get me past through this horrible time of mourning this loss. I consider myself a tough minded individual person but I have fallen apart over this BU. Looks like AD's are a mixed bag. I started taking Paxil on Xmas day and I was stoned for days after taking it. I was dizzy had a headache, dry mouth and kept falling asleep. I stopped them after a few days and felt better right away. However the Dr. told me that it takes weeks for the effects to kick in. And also the side effects of the headaches go away with time. The double edge sword is, if you are on them after a few weeks if you want to stop them you have to wean your self off them you cant just stop taking them. You will get bad withdraw symptoms. So you are in for a commitment. Plus you have to wait out the side effects. I just went back to the Dr. and she changed my RX to Lexipro. Supposedly less side effects. There are a lot of different types so you may have to keep going to find what works for you but its a long process. By the time it all kicks in you maybe over the loss. I am going to give it one more try with the Lexipro but I am not giving it hope. I heard they dull your senses along with alleviating the depression again a double edged sword. One major issue is a loss of libido so if you looking to meet someone new to get over the BU you might not be up for sex. A terrible irony.
Mcnulty Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Dead right re. it's a commitment to start taking AD's. Takes 3-4 weeks approx to feel the benefits and the side effects do wear off I gues, but also the weaning off ad's can be awful. My friend was on seroxat and had a terrible time coming off it, took weeks. I was on Citalopram and yes, it dullened me senses and yes, ironically it can knock your libido. It was difficult for me to "finish" if you know what i mean,ha. Ironically now, I've been off ad's for 3 months and yep, I'm totally single due to my health issues...c'est la vie.
Jasmine36 Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I have tried a couple but I am now on venlafaxine and diazepam for when I get really anxious, i was in a bad place before the break up as i have health problems and it put strain on our relationship and he met someone else after us being totally inlove for 4 years ... well on my part. it's just so hard I know it is suppose to get harder before it gets better but how much harder can it possibly get??
crashvector Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Dead right re. it's a commitment to start taking AD's. Takes 3-4 weeks approx to feel the benefits and the side effects do wear off I gues, but also the weaning off ad's can be awful. My friend was on seroxat and had a terrible time coming off it, took weeks. I was on Citalopram and yes, it dullened me senses and yes, ironically it can knock your libido. It was difficult for me to "finish" if you know what i mean,ha. Ironically now, I've been off ad's for 3 months and yep, I'm totally single due to my health issues...c'est la vie. I'm a nurse. Care for an explanation?
Coping Vortex Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 @jasmine36 - it gets harder in different ways you start to get used to the no day to day contact and the lack of communication. But the depression gets worse as the reality that everyday that goes by you are that much further away from having a bond with that person. After a few weeks you have to know that even if that person has gone NC there are everyday things that make them think of you. So you tell yourself you can take solace in that, but after so many days of NC you start to expect that person is thinking of their new person and you less. You are are losing them. The love bond is truly dying. That causes you to go into a more deeper but different depression. In the beginning for me it was the lack of communication, talking with her several times a day, texting me constantly sending her pics etc. When that stopped I went through withdraw. I dreaded picking up my phone from that point on. It used to be constantly blowing up with emails of our day, sex etc. Now its a constant reminder of what used to be. Every time I get a text on my phone I cringe. It can be so depressing. I want it to be her so bad. And once in awhile I get a bread crumb. That is worse though.
crashvector Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 @jasmine36 - it gets harder in different ways you start to get used to the no day to day contact and the lack of communication. But the depression gets worse as the reality that everyday that goes by you are that much further away from having a bond with that person. After a few weeks you have to know that even if that person has gone NC there are everyday things that make them think of you. So you tell yourself you can take solace in that, but after so many days of NC you start to expect that person is thinking of their new person and you less. You are are losing them. The love bond is truly dying. That causes you to go into a more deeper but different depression. In the beginning for me it was the lack of communication, talking with her several times a day, texting me constantly sending her pics etc. When that stopped I went through withdraw. I dreaded picking up my phone from that point on. It used to be constantly blowing up with emails of our day, sex etc. Now its a constant reminder of what used to be. Every time I get a text on my phone I cringe. It can be so depressing. I want it to be her so bad. And once in awhile I get a bread crumb. That is worse though. I have the same thing dude..trust me.
Divasu Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I haven't taken antidepressants for the end of a relationship, I was diagnosed with depression when I was 6 years old (it runs in my family). Not something I usually discuss openly, but I wanted to chime in. Just some things to consider: .Please make sure that you get a thorough medical examination and discuss all your options before being prescribed any type of psychotropic medication. .Suggest looking into seeing a counselor in conjunction with it. (I think 'prescribing' medications as a treatment in itself, is not effective. I think both are needed, so if you can get into therapy it would be more helpful) .Be careful with benzodiazepines such as Xanax (had a family member addicted to it at one point). These types of meds are highly addictive and withdrawls can be worse than heroine withdrawl. .There are many differences between each antidepressant and each person responds differently to each one. Good luck.
fixing Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I haven't taken antidepressants for the end of a relationship, I was diagnosed with depression when I was 6 years old (it runs in my family). Not something I usually discuss openly, but I wanted to chime in. Just some things to consider: .Please make sure that you get a thorough medical examination and discuss all your options before being prescribed any type of psychotropic medication. .Suggest looking into seeing a counselor in conjunction with it. (I think 'prescribing' medications as a treatment in itself, is not effective. I think both are needed, so if you can get into therapy it would be more helpful) .Be careful with benzodiazepines such as Xanax (had a family member addicted to it at one point). These types of meds are highly addictive and withdrawls can be worse than heroine withdrawl. .There are many differences between each antidepressant and each person responds differently to each one. Good luck. Very sound advice. I have been on AD's for 4 years now and all the above advice is something you should take on board. If you are feeling this low, then i think its fine to get prescribed a light AD, and also a good idea to get some counselling in conjunction. I found Lexipro to be a very good AD, i am on Efexor now, which is also very effective.
crashvector Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I haven't taken antidepressants for the end of a relationship, I was diagnosed with depression when I was 6 years old (it runs in my family). Not something I usually discuss openly, but I wanted to chime in. Just some things to consider: .Please make sure that you get a thorough medical examination and discuss all your options before being prescribed any type of psychotropic medication. .Suggest looking into seeing a counselor in conjunction with it. (I think 'prescribing' medications as a treatment in itself, is not effective. I think both are needed, so if you can get into therapy it would be more helpful) .Be careful with benzodiazepines such as Xanax (had a family member addicted to it at one point). These types of meds are highly addictive and withdrawls can be worse than heroine withdrawl. .There are many differences between each antidepressant and each person responds differently to each one. Good luck. Benzos are only meant to be used for a few days at most. Talk about HORRIBLE withdrawls....
Coping Vortex Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I was given Xanax to sleep. I haven't slept more than two hours a night for 5 weeks. I took one last night and I slept most of the night. Should i use them sparingly or could I take them for the next week of so every night to get my sleep patterns back? Should I try hard not start the Lexipro? I sort of see that as a short term fix until I get past this BU and then get off of it. So I thought why not. I just don't want it to be a life long thing. I'm not into drugs of any kind. but I'm desperate for now.
fixing Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I was given Xanax to sleep. I haven't slept more than two hours a night for 5 weeks. I took one last night and I slept most of the night. Should i use them sparingly or could I take them for the next week of so every night to get my sleep patterns back? Should I try hard not start the Lexipro? I sort of see that as a short term fix until I get past this BU and then get off of it. So I thought why not. I just don't want it to be a life long thing. I'm not into drugs of any kind. but I'm desperate for now. If your desperate than start on Lexipro imo. And regarding the Xanex, again, if your having great difficulty sleeping you should take them. I think you should be taking them on a routine basis. So once in the evenings presumably. (Never tried Xanex)
Divasu Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 (edited) I was given to sleep. I haven't slept more than two hours a night for 5 weeks. I took one last night and I slept most of the night. Should i use them sparingly or could I take them for the next week of so every night to get my sleep patterns back? Should I try hard not start the Lexipro? I sort of see that as a short term fix until I get past this BU and then get off of it. So I thought why not. I just don't want it to be a life long thing. I'm not into drugs of any kind. but I'm desperate for now. I'm not a medical professional. But, you do have to be very careful with Xanax (given you are 'using' it as a 'temporary' tranquilizer...). Lexapro is used to treat major depressive disorder and generalized anxiety disorder. It is good to have someone who can monitor your moods and emotional functions when taking these types of medications. A General Practitioner can oversee and a therapist to help treat the 'underlying'. I've been going to the same general practitioner for about 18 years now. He is someone I highly trust and rely on to oversee my medical care, not just with depression, but overall. Read this about Xanax: http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-505123_162-42849719/how-the-fda-is-sleeping-through-the-xanax-epidemic/ Edited January 2, 2013 by Divasu
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