keagan Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Been serious for a year and half and usually fighting at least once a week.. stuck in a lease together for the next 8 months.. i am 22 and she is 28. arguments include house chores, facebook, general insecurity from both sides, traveling without the other, my sleeping schedule (i work nights), how i spend my days off (i have bands), her animal, and eatting each others food my proposal was we take time off from each other and act like roommates to restore our respect for one another and to get a better idea of our basic relationship- no kissing, no sex, no cuddling, no dates, no seeing each other naked, no mandatory time spent with one another, you know like roomates... she goes into a hysteric fit when i suggest this i hope it would last intill we decide we can find better partners or we get another spark is this realistic? its a one bedroom so we would be sharing a queen size has anyone done such a thing?
WhatYouWantToHear Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 my proposal was we take time off from each other and act like roommates...is this realistic? its a one bedroom so we would be sharing a queen size Your naivete amuses me. A little more explicity: No, its not realistic. 1
movingon12 Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 This plan has exactly a 0% chance of working. You're going to have to find a way to break the lease or someone will have to move out. Or accept 8 months of hell.
livy07 Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 i hope it would last intill we decide we can find better partners As a woman I can wholeheartedly say that this would be extremely painful to hear/suspect. She is 28... she's probably ready for something more serious than you are. Your lack of commitment to her (your readiness to move on, if the opportunity arises) is only going to continue to bring her pain -- and she will react emotionally. Do yourself and her a favor and start making other living arrangements, ASAP, unless you really want to work things out with her (and even then, moving out might still be a good idea)
flitzanu Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 i'm confused. you said "arguments" but you didn't mention anything breakup worthy, and then you suddenly pull out "lets take a break and stop being intimate". that sounds incredibly like you wanting to dump her.
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