fray5 Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 (edited) I've been dating this new girl for about a month and a half now. I met her through my dad, and she is honestly the perfect girl- absolutely beautiful and down to earth sweet, my ideal girl. We started off slow and now I have met her family and spent time with them over the holidays and it has all went great and they like me. However, for some reason the whole thing makes me nervous in a way; I have so much respect for her and like her a whole lot that I feel like it's making me think too much. Almost like I'm afraid of messing up or how do I deserve such a great girl. Especially since my last relationship that ended months ago was pretty awful. Anyways, when we are being intimate I get aroused and then nervous and it's a back and forth thing. She's the traditional girl and I don't want to mess things up by moving too fast. I guess also deep down I'm a little scared of making sexual things too important especially since my past relationships have been that way and they have all failed. I kind of feel that maybe my problem is I need to just chill and quit thinking so much and allow myself to "feel" more. I think about her nonstop and it's more about how much I want to be with her and not so much sexual thoughts. I'm definitely attracted to her, but I just can't figure out what exactly is going on. I hope I'm making some sense here. Has anyone ever had similar problems and what can I do about it? Thanks for any help! Edited January 2, 2013 by fray5
Samilia Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 You say she's traditional, does part of you thinks, or knows, it's too early to have intercourse? Also, there's nothing wrong with a lot of foreplay before getting to the real thing.
Author fray5 Posted January 2, 2013 Author Posted January 2, 2013 You say she's traditional, does part of you thinks, or knows, it's too early to have intercourse? Also, there's nothing wrong with a lot of foreplay before getting to the real thing. It's weird bc I know she's traditional, but the other night she opened up a bit more- taking her top off and some rubbing. I asked her if she was ok and told her I didn't want to move too fast for her but she said she was fine. Then I started to move my hand down her pants and she gently stopped me. It's like I'm having a hard time relaxing or something too.
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