Minadee Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 For those who have been following my story, J told Harriet about the pregnancy on my birthday. I checked his twitter this morning and there were two tweets consisting of; Hope I don't lose you.I'm such an idiot for making this mistake.Now i've accepted that these are obviously not about me, and are aimed at winning Harriet back. But it's the fact that seeing me and sleeping with me for the past three months is a "mistake." I'm not dealing with that very well. How he can value this girl he has known for less than a year over his pregnant ex girlfriend. Someone he once asked to marry. Any help is appreciated. I feel very, very low right now.
movingon12 Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Firstly, stay the hell away from his twitter. You don't need to know what's he's thinking (or rather, what he wants people to think he's thinking). Secondly, what do you expect him to say? He's trying to salvage his relationship with her. He'll say anything to make her feel better. I'm sure he said much worse things about you during their conversation about it. And I'm sure he does consider getting you pregnant 'a mistake'. In terms of what you do now, you have GOT to start to detach from this guy, knowing what he's saying/thinking/doing is just making you more and more miserable. You broke up. It's over. You need to start to move on. And I can only imagine how hard that must be when you are forced to remember him every time you look at your stomach. However, for your own sanity, get some friends/family round to start talking about something else. Do things you won't be able to do when you're big and fat and waddling all over the place. Start making plans for the baby. Do something that doesn't involve thinking about him.
TaraMaiden Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I think he's referring to the pregnancy as being a 'mistake' not you... Even so, if he hadn't been such a complete dick, then this wouldn't have happened. Make sure you get a legal process in place to ensure his commitment when the child is born. He has a duty to support his 'mistake'. He made it, now he will have to deal with it.... 2
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 This is not a man; as such, I will not refer to him as one. If he were a man, he wouldn't say such a thing about the life, he helped create. He would willingly support that life. He was not talking about you, but this pregnancy. Do as the above posters have said; avoid twitter. Avoid this chump, and try to not be in his life anymore than you have too. Social media seems to cause more chaos then good...a true force of modern destruction. Who cares if this chump considers it a mistake(he is the real mistake...a mistake in your life.) Consider yourself blessed. You are. I know it doesn't seem like this. But you are. Now is the day...the hour, that you see your own self-worth. That you are worth more then this Guy; more then the tears you shed for him; the anger you have for him. You are worth more then giving him the time to look him up. You are worth more. You will find more; it will be extremely rough, no lie. Yet, if you are willing you can make it past this chump(aside from him being there due to the baby.) Be confident...in yourself and move on as much as possible to better angels then this demon. I wish you well. I really do. 1
geegirl Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Posters have been telling you time and time again to avoid this man and to stay on strict NC. I don't believe we can help you unless you choose to help yourself. The situation is not changing. You're trying every possible way to get this man to love you and want you. Even now, after everything has gone to hell with him, he still wants this woman. The "mistake" was not you but the pregnancy because Harriet would have accepted him back if you were the issue. The issue is the pregnancy and that is what has sent her running the other way. You had a relationship. There are no guarantees that relationships last forever. People divorce are years of togetherness, after bearing children, after building fondations together. Nothing remains the same. The relationship ended. Yes, you are pregnant and he once asked you to marry him but feelings and needs and wants have changed. It happened. It is time to accept that. Again, no relationship guarantees you "forever". Please start focusing on your pregancy and planning ahead for this baby. 4
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