chloe1408 Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 A quick run down, last year i found out the love of my life had got another girl pregnant and was moving in with her and starting a new life together. we'd been together 2 years. This was in July. In September I was lucky enough to meet someone new. We really clicked and I first I admit I was abit hesitant due to what had happened previously but about a month a half in we had a talk and I said I will leave that all behind and really put effort into our relationship. I really opened up with him and I felt so close to him. He played in a band so I went to see him play a few times and tried to take an interest in all of his hobbies. 30th November I invited him to my work Christmas Meal and on the way home he told me he loved me and had for a while. Since then I told him multiple times that he meant the world to me and he said that I completed him. We had a few minor spats but they were always sorted. I spent Christmas day with him and his family and for the first time in a long time I felt like I had a happy relationship and that this was it. The next day he said to me out of the blue that he loved me but I wasnt the one. That if we stayed together we would tear ech other apart. He also claimed that he wasnt happy with me and only in parts. If that was the case I wish he had said instead of inviting me over for Christmas and buying me gorgeous presents. Anyway I recieved a text Saturday to say he missed me, I said if he missed me why didnt we sit down and sort this out like adults? He then said that I never let him get close to me (Which i feel is an excuse, he was so dear to my heart and he knew it too ) and that he didnt fall for me as hard as he has with others in the past. He basically wasnt that in love with me and what we had didnt compare. I text him this morning to say I have a few bits of his, he said keep them, I said i had no use for them and i could always post them if he didnt want to meet. He then said "post it" I also found him on a dating site looking for " a lovely lady to share some romantic times with" I basically dont understand and i'm finding it very hard to move on not understanding what happened. He was either a very good actor throughout our time together or he can very easily switch his emotions off. I feel like I was just another girl that didnt mean alot when to me he meant the world. How do i get over my confusion and start to move on? It hasnt even been a week yet
crashvector Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 STOP looking for him on the internet. unfortunately, you are going to have to once again find the strength to move on. Perhaps give yourself a little more time this time? Both of us are kinda in the same shoes...but that's the case with most of the people here. The ones left behind ALWAYS feel like we mean nothing or that the other person is having it so easy. Its just the way it goes...the person who does the leaving always has the easiest time.
Author chloe1408 Posted January 2, 2013 Author Posted January 2, 2013 My friend signed me up for Internet dating as a laugh I had a little look around, he has viewed my profile. It was just one of those odd occurences that seem to happen! Deleted the profile right away. Guess I just need to move on. It hurts hearing him say I was nothing compared to the others. After my last heartbreak I really put my heart and soul in. Guess it weren't enough!
crashvector Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 My friend signed me up for Internet dating as a laugh I had a little look around, he has viewed my profile. It was just one of those odd occurences that seem to happen! Deleted the profile right away. Guess I just need to move on. It hurts hearing him say I was nothing compared to the others. After my last heartbreak I really put my heart and soul in. Guess it weren't enough! Nah...its not like that. He said that because well...some people are just REAL jerks. I'll NEVER understand why people can't just end a relationship with some dignity...instead of trying to grind the other person's self-esteem into dust....taking cheap shots and throwing around insults, etc. It makes NO sense to do that to someone. I just wish people could be KIND to each other...even if they don't want to be in a relationship with the other person, it doesnt mean they have to be cruel about it. It was definitely NOT that you weren't good enough. He was just being a jerk. After a break up, you suddenly find yourself with lots of free time on your hands. Hell...I even went so far as to set up an eHarmony profile for when I'm ready. I didnt ACTIVATE it yet... half the reason I did it was to force myself into realizing that the reality of my situation is that she's gone, and I'll have to find someone else eventually. I wouldnt worry about him seeing your profile....he's already moved on anyhow. Look at it this way: if anything, it might just make him realize he screwed up, and put the shoe on the OTHER foot. But honestly, do you WANT to be with someone like that? Do you WANT to be with someone who could look you in the eye and tell you that you're nothing to him? Do you WANT to be with a man that can treat you like you don't matter to him? Didnt think so.
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