rie39 Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 My first boyfriend (of 9 months) and I just recently broke up. He was a great boyfriend but I had been confused about my feelings for him and our compatibility, I realised he never really stimulated me and I felt he loved me more than I loved him, therefore it wasn't working out. So we both mutually agreed to try to just be friends (him because he felt I "wasn't trying anymore in the relationship" and me because I knew my feelings for him weren't strong enough). It wasn't a bad breakup, he suggested we stay best friends and be open to the possibility of a future relationship again. Ever since the break up, he's been posting more statuses on facebook than ever; most are about getting wasted at the club. He's been clubbing and getting drunk every night since the break up. And it seems he's trying to put on a face/an act on facebook that he's having such a great time, because I know he struggles socially and doesn't have many friends, he just tags along with the people he goes out with. Others, are about me. He seems to be trying to point out my flaws I had in our relationship. For example, he posted a status once that if you don't try hard towards something it will be s*** and the grass will not be greener on the other side, and I know this was directed at me and how I didn't try hard enough in the relationship therefore it didn't work out. Why is he trying to make me feel bad like that when we broke up on good terms? Why is he documenting every partying social activity he has been doing since the break up on facebook? Is he trying to move on or is he drinking away his problems?
WhatYouWantToHear Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 First, it wasn't mutual, you essentially did the breaking up. Second, he regrets it and naturally that means hard feeling toward you. Third, going out and doing something, anything (drinking, playing basketball, working) takes his mind off of the break up. He doesn't hate you, or even want to hurt you (ok he wants to hurt you just a little so you realize you were wrong) this is just how he is coping with it. He still wants to be with you.
Author rie39 Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 Thanks for your reply. Why do you say he still wants to be with me?
Eddie Edirol Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Thanks for your reply. Why do you say he still wants to be with me? Because you broke up with him, and he has it in his mind that you two would work if you were as into him as he is into you. BTW, if he IS doing the status updates to throw his coping in your face to bug you, its working because youre letting it bother you. Let him heal his way.
Author rie39 Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 Ok, that makes sense. Hmm, I've noticed that since the break up he has been liking and attending the sort of events and pages on facebook that I like but that he never used to be into...like house music clubbing events (I love house music, but I swear he never used to like it himself), and lord of the rings pictures (I love the LOTR trilogy but he always said he hated the movies). Is he trying to make me like him more or something? :/
Eddie Edirol Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 Ok, that makes sense. Hmm, I've noticed that since the break up he has been liking and attending the sort of events and pages on facebook that I like but that he never used to be into...like house music clubbing events (I love house music, but I swear he never used to like it himself), and lord of the rings pictures (I love the LOTR trilogy but he always said he hated the movies). Is he trying to make me like him more or something? :/ You broke up with him. Unless youre considering getting back with him, dont worry about it.
christine07 Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 He is doing it to get your attention with out directly contacting you. And now its bothering you. This is his way of 'poking' you so you cant forget about him and you start to question, like you are now, his motives. If your done with him block him, don't let him keep up his weird antics that have to thinking and asking questions about him. He's doing it to get your attention.. and its working.
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