Maneater Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 This new guy that I just started hooking up with is ultra nervous around me and is always dropping hints to impress me (i.e. type of car etc). He also tends to drink a lot if we're at a bar to try to ease his nerves. Men have the tendency to make innuendos to see what I'll say instead of straight forwardly asking since they seem to get so nervous around me. I like to mildly bite or dig my nails into a guy while having sex, nothing harsh. After the first time we hooked up, he told me it was ok that I did that because no one would see it anyways. I didn't say anything. So was this guy trying to see if I'd say, 'Oh cool, I'm not hooking up with anyone else'. Then a couple days later, I post photos of myself at a restaurant on facebook. And he texted me the instant I posted them. This has happened 3 times in a row where he seems to get jealous if he 'thinks' I'm seeing someone else but he doesn't ask me if I am. I'm guessing bc its too early to bring up exclusivity??? At the same time, I'm usually the one asking to hang out. I also kind of think he's playing games with me. If I can't get to his text until 2 hours later, he'll wait 2 hours to text me back, this has also happened several times. What's up with this guy???
Author Maneater Posted January 2, 2013 Author Posted January 2, 2013 anyone?? Thoughts on this guy 'mirroring' my actions?
zebracolors Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 First off I kind of don't think he should be drinking so much to ease his nerves. but as long as the drink isn't affecting his interactions with you in a negative way then that by itself isn't a huge deal. As to what you told him about using your nails, if that was his response it sounded a bit confusing. No one would see what? Scratch marks, or you using your nails? So, i have no idea if that was him trying to bait you for a certain response. And with the FB incident, did he react very negatively to the photos you posted? Did he presume that it meant you were at that place with another guy? At any rate, it seems like he could have a little bit of jealousy issues. If thats the case, IMO its disrespectful to you for not trusting you. Gotta say if it were me, I would not even consider exclusivity with this guy if he's just going to be paranoid and jealous. also I hope I have not misunderstood anything you've said. if i have, I apologize.
Author Maneater Posted January 2, 2013 Author Posted January 2, 2013 (edited) First off I kind of don't think he should be drinking so much to ease his nerves. but as long as the drink isn't affecting his interactions with you in a negative way then that by itself isn't a huge deal. As to what you told him about using your nails, if that was his response it sounded a bit confusing. No one would see what? Scratch marks, or you using your nails? So, i have no idea if that was him trying to bait you for a certain response. And with the FB incident, did he react very negatively to the photos you posted? Did he presume that it meant you were at that place with another guy? At any rate, it seems like he could have a little bit of jealousy issues. If thats the case, IMO its disrespectful to you for not trusting you. Gotta say if it were me, I would not even consider exclusivity with this guy if he's just going to be paranoid and jealous. also I hope I have not misunderstood anything you've said. if i have, I apologize. Thanks for your reply. He was referring to the scratch marks. He said that it was ok if there were scratch marks because no one was going to see them anyways. He baited me one other time to see what I would say. The example is, he said that he's done with partying in his life. And I just said oh thats good. I did NOT say yes me too so then HE ASKED 'why didn't you say that you're done with that now also?' Then I did say that I assumed he'd know that that phase was done because I do not have many party pics on my Facebook. I do not normally analyze this way with every guy I date but this one in particular seems to do this a lot. Yes I do agree with the jealousy issue especially so early on to talking to him. He asked me what I did that night and then he assumed it was this certain guy friend (who is gay but doesn't reference that on Facebook) bc he always likes my photos but he's GAY. And then this current guy I'm dating makes fun of his occupation on his twitter. Very juvenile in my opinion. He doesn't seem the sort at all that would be violent but just paranoid (about gay men) hahah and jealous so early on. Edited January 2, 2013 by Maneater
Author Maneater Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 Anyone think this is odd behavior early on?
carhill Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 It's no wonder they get nervous. You're a ManEater TBH, he sounds wound up a bit tight. How long have you been 'hooking up'?
Author Maneater Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 It's no wonder they get nervous. You're a ManEater TBH, he sounds wound up a bit tight. How long have you been 'hooking up'? Only the past 2 weeks. talking to him the last month. I feel its just so odd. it's more the 'control' upper hand thing that annoys me. Like if I can only text him back 2 hours later or in one case 5 hours later then he'll wait the exact same amount of time to text me back! It's really annoying me. And its too early to like say something to him.
Ninjainpajamas Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 He's likely a bit nervous and feeling in competition mode...lacks some confidence and security in the fact in how interested you are in him. He seems to be trying to play it cool and not too eager, you're making it very easy for him doing all the initiating...once he feels he has you under his thumb though and you're into him I'm sure he'll feel more comfortable or drop you altogether. At this point I think he sees you are the "fun" type, so you may be going out frequently and dating other men...but If you get any sense that he is the wannabe player type then I'm sure he'll show his true colors. He's just trying to reel you in at this point likely.
Author Maneater Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 (edited) He's likely a bit nervous and feeling in competition mode...lacks some confidence and security in the fact in how interested you are in him. He seems to be trying to play it cool and not too eager, you're making it very easy for him doing all the initiating...once he feels he has you under his thumb though and you're into him I'm sure he'll feel more comfortable or drop you altogether. At this point I think he sees you are the "fun" type, so you may be going out frequently and dating other men...but If you get any sense that he is the wannabe player type then I'm sure he'll show his true colors. He's just trying to reel you in at this point likely. wow, I think you hit the nail on the head. the competition and insecurity thing I was getting from him but the quote where you said he'll either get comfortable that I'm finally into him also or drop me altogether once he knows 'I'm hooked'. Another point about him that made me initially hesitant about him was ALL his past ex's were NOT attractive. I know this sounds backwards but I've noticed when hot guys date WAY below them, they have no balls and are crazy. He's almost 40. of course I was hoping this guy would be an exception. blah Edited January 3, 2013 by Maneater
todreaminblue Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 This new guy that I just started hooking up with is ultra nervous around me and is always dropping hints to impress me (i.e. type of car etc). He also tends to drink a lot if we're at a bar to try to ease his nerves. Men have the tendency to make innuendos to see what I'll say instead of straight forwardly asking since they seem to get so nervous around me. I like to mildly bite or dig my nails into a guy while having sex, nothing harsh. After the first time we hooked up, he told me it was ok that I did that because no one would see it anyways. I didn't say anything. So was this guy trying to see if I'd say, 'Oh cool, I'm not hooking up with anyone else'. Then a couple days later, I post photos of myself at a restaurant on facebook. And he texted me the instant I posted them. This has happened 3 times in a row where he seems to get jealous if he 'thinks' I'm seeing someone else but he doesn't ask me if I am. I'm guessing bc its too early to bring up exclusivity??? At the same time, I'm usually the one asking to hang out. I also kind of think he's playing games with me. If I can't get to his text until 2 hours later, he'll wait 2 hours to text me back, this has also happened several times. What's up with this guy??? He is treading lightly with you, innuendos are what guys tend to give me, i really wish they wouldn't, i like it straight up, no confusion,because then i am straight up with a no or yes.....otherwise i have to dance their dance of cautious two step .....not fond of that...rather be lyrically passionate...smilin normally guys do this with flighty females not wanting to push their luck, scare them away and normally when they are looking for permanency from the flighty one.....are you flighty do you have fight or flight traits....you need to give the guy a bit of a break let him know ease his mind...you only have to do it once and it feels liek a kamikaze flight but do it....once is enough and then hope th eguy gives you the moves you need to progress.....dance girl dance...best wishes....deb
Author Maneater Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 He is treading lightly with you, innuendos are what guys tend to give me, i really wish they wouldn't, i like it straight up, no confusion,because then i am straight up with a no or yes.....otherwise i have to dance their dance of cautious two step .....not fond of that...rather be lyrically passionate...smilin normally guys do this with flighty females not wanting to push their luck, scare them away and normally when they are looking for permanency from the flighty one.....are you flighty do you have fight or flight traits....you need to give the guy a bit of a break let him know ease his mind...you only have to do it once and it feels liek a kamikaze flight but do it....once is enough and then hope th eguy gives you the moves you need to progress.....dance girl dance...best wishes....deb Thanks for your reply. What is your definitions of flighty and fight traits? I would describe myself as super independent, aloof, and confident.
todreaminblue Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Thanks for your reply. What is your definitions of flighty and fight traits? I would describe myself as super independent, aloof, and confident. cool can i play psyche......used to do this in hospital with some sick friends when we were bored one was a schizophrenic mathemetics professor he was good with probability...i am a fluke artist/poet often get it wrong more than right so here goes..... the three words that you used classic example...fight or flight response super independent......fight response you will protect your privacy(you will fight for it) you dont reach out normally and you will defend your independence, you probably have a select group of friends , you are quite happy going out or staying in and if you dont want to do some thing you just dont do it....you have probably doen a bit of struggling to get where you are you are proud of yoru achievements and you dotn mind taking responsibility in fact you expect it.....you have faced oppostion and you dont mind that either, you learn from it....all these characteristics are positive but men are often intimidated see you as a challenge and some men back away or dont make themselves clear on what they want in fear of being laughed at or rejected......they are intimidated you are challenging..so fight response.other guys get this vibe from you...lol....thats me trying to gauge you from posts.....i wont post the other two words unless i am somewhat near the mark......smilin....how did i do....did i fluke or flunk?....deb
Author Maneater Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 (edited) cool can i play psyche......used to do this in hospital with some sick friends when we were bored one was a schizophrenic mathemetics professor he was good with probability...i am a fluke artist/poet often get it wrong more than right so here goes..... the three words that you used classic example...fight or flight response super independent......fight response you will protect your privacy(you will fight for it) you dont reach out normally and you will defend your independence, you probably have a select group of friends , you are quite happy going out or staying in and if you dont want to do some thing you just dont do it....you have probably doen a bit of struggling to get where you are you are proud of yoru achievements and you dotn mind taking responsibility in fact you expect it.....you have faced oppostion and you dont mind that either, you learn from it....all these characteristics are positive but men are often intimidated see you as a challenge and some men back away or dont make themselves clear on what they want in fear of being laughed at or rejected......they are intimidated you are challenging..so fight response.other guys get this vibe from you...lol....thats me trying to gauge you from posts.....i wont post the other two words unless i am somewhat near the mark......smilin....how did i do....did i fluke or flunk?....deb That would be cool to do. People and human psyche highly interests me as well. that schizo prof must have been interesting! wow you are scarily right on!!! I don't mind being by myself and if it wasn't for the fact that women have time clock of having children, I'd happily work on my career for another 5 years before getting married. I'm trying really hard to be 'more available' and more 'needy' but I am still super busy w my career. UGHHH I really want to try to find someone but I can't help when there's moments where my 'old independent' seems to seep through... so even though I am trying extra hard to respond to men right away and 'act' more available, I think they can still 'SMELL' my independence. A+ So for this current guy, should I act more like a desperate woman? I really like him and hope it works out. At the same time his early behavior is probably warning signs. I think I'm going to be alone forever. Edited January 3, 2013 by Maneater
todreaminblue Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 (edited) That would be cool to do. People and human psyche highly interests me as well. that schizo prof must have been interesting! wow you are scarily right on!!! I don't mind being by myself and if it wasn't for the fact that women have time clock of having children, I'd happily work on my career for another 5 years before getting married. I'm trying really hard to be 'more available' and more 'needy' but I am still super busy w my career. UGHHH I really want to try to find someone but I can't help when there's moments where my 'old independent' seems to seep through... so even though I am trying extra hard to respond to men right away and 'act' more available, I think they can still 'SMELL' my independence. A+ So for this current guy, should I act more like a desperate woman? I really like him and hope it works out. At the same time his early behavior is probably warning signs. I think I'm going to be alone forever. It was fun and the professor was very interesting.....still remember his name...plus he gave me a stack of books...he was big on conspiracy theory books....it took him a long time to speak but when he did you listened, he was one i coudl talk too, didnt judge me let me spill what i was feeling and his voice was soft ....the inflection allowed me to feel comfortable......there were a few scary ones in there he wasnt one of them , and i think he knew how to talk to me because his voice changed talking to others.....more brusque and blunt....with me he wasnt.....he challenged me and i enjoyed it, he made me question my beliefs, my thoughts my feelings.... ...... The problem is with independence is it is ingrained normally values instilled from childhood is an average.....do you over achieve in your career,do you take on other people projects as well as your own o try to help out others when you are working..do you stress about deadlines.......you need to pull that back......and let it go....that would be a step..... i dont know about the acting needy thing because it isnt you....i have trouble with acting needy, i get embarrassed with showing tears let alone try to act needy, to me acting to get a guy is out....if a guy cant take me how i am he never will be able to......and if you act how long do you keep it going ...till you have him then scare the crap out of him when you turn back ...nah.....i dont suggest acting needy.....i think the right guy for you who will be one who can approach you, who accepts and even respects what you have to offer in a relationship , and if a guy is too scared to ask for a date how will he be able to stand up when he doesnt believe in something.....ask him straight out next time you have that innuendo thing happening let him feel at ease enough to open up to you and then you can open up back you need a guy with a backbone lol...maneater.......thats a bit ironic....ahem ......you need a guy who can stand up to you and whom you respect and who doesnt go along with everythign you say and is willing to take time with you when he needs it...a bit of forceful projection....smilin...i dont mean aggression but someone who has confidence enough to put you on the back foot make your jaw drop for a change...so open up to the guy you are seeing and see if he steps up to the plate....theres this quote that says....cant think of all of it ....but something about having a soft voice and carrying a big stick....i take that to mean ...you dotn have to be a blustering male chauvenistic aggressive pig but you can say things calmly with purpose and get the job done.......you can be beta man in an alpha world and you are the best man for any woman.......so go the betas......lol....these guys are rare you know so if you happen to be in the company of said male enjoy him as much as you can and if he wants you.....do the dougie when he isnt looking....;0) Edited January 3, 2013 by todreaminblue
Author Maneater Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 It was fun and the professor was very interesting.....still remember his name...plus he gave me a stack of books...he was big on conspiracy theory books....it took him a long time to speak but when he did you listened, he was one i coudl talk too, didnt judge me let me spill what i was feeling and his voice was soft ....the inflection allowed me to feel comfortable......there were a few scary ones in there he wasnt one of them , and i think he knew how to talk to me because his voice changed talking to others.....more brusque and blunt....with me he wasnt.....he challenged me and i enjoyed it, he made me question my beliefs, my thoughts my feelings.... ...... The problem is with independence is it is ingrained normally values instilled from childhood is an average.....do you over achieve in your career,do you take on other people projects as well as your own o try to help out others when you are working..do you stress about deadlines.......you need to pull that back......and let it go....that would be a step..... i dont know about the acting needy thing because it isnt you....i have trouble with acting needy, i get embarrassed with showing tears let alone try to act needy, to me acting to get a guy is out....if a guy cant take me how i am he never will be able to......and if you act how long do you keep it going ...till you have him then scare the crap out of him when you turn back ...nah.....i dont suggest acting needy.....i think the right guy for you who will be one who can approach you, who accepts and even respects what you have to offer in a relationship , and if a guy is too scared to ask for a date how will he be able to stand up when he doesnt believe in something.....ask him straight out next time you have that innuendo thing happening let him feel at ease enough to open up to you and then you can open up back you need a guy with a backbone lol...maneater.......thats a bit ironic....ahem ......you need a guy who can stand up to you and whom you respect and who doesnt go along with everythign you say and is willing to take time with you when he needs it...a bit of forceful projection....smilin...i dont mean aggression but someone who has confidence enough to put you on the back foot make your jaw drop for a change...so open up to the guy you are seeing and see if he steps up to the plate....theres this quote that says....cant think of all of it ....but something about having a soft voice and carrying a big stick....i take that to mean ...you dotn have to be a blustering male chauvenistic aggressive pig but you can say things calmly with purpose and get the job done.......you can be beta man in an alpha world and you are the best man for any woman.......so go the betas......lol....these guys are rare you know so if you happen to be in the company of said male enjoy him as much as you can and if he wants you.....do the dougie when he isnt looking....;0) Thanks for the long insightful response. It really got me thinking and re-evaluating myself and actions. That prof seemed really interesting. What books was he reading?? message me if you remember! my career: where my issue lies is I'm probably selfish. I do not stress out about deadlines, it kind of comes natural to me. People know I'm always on top of things though so they kind of expect me to double check their work though. so maybe that does play into the situations you gave examples for. and if a guy is too scared to ask for a date how will he be able to stand up when he doesnt believe in something.....ask him straight out next time you have that innuendo thing happening let him feel at ease enough to open up to you and then you can open up back this is my other issue, when people (men or women) give innuendos it takes me until the DAY AFTER to realize what they're saying. I'm slow when it comes to certain social situations and then when I try to tell people later that I didn't know what they were asking, they act all mad and offended and sometimes stop speaking to me altogether. as for the beta verse alpha male...are you suggesting going for a beta who is personality wise more of an alpha?? I do notice I tend to go towards more shy guys since I am the opposite of the that. So I'm trying to find more a man's man that has TRUE confidence.
todreaminblue Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Thanks for the long insightful response. It really got me thinking and re-evaluating myself and actions. That prof seemed really interesting. What books was he reading?? message me if you remember! my career: where my issue lies is I'm probably selfish. I do not stress out about deadlines, it kind of comes natural to me. People know I'm always on top of things though so they kind of expect me to double check their work though. so maybe that does play into the situations you gave examples for. and if a guy is too scared to ask for a date how will he be able to stand up when he doesnt believe in something.....ask him straight out next time you have that innuendo thing happening let him feel at ease enough to open up to you and then you can open up back this is my other issue, when people (men or women) give innuendos it takes me until the DAY AFTER to realize what they're saying. I'm slow when it comes to certain social situations and then when I try to tell people later that I didn't know what they were asking, they act all mad and offended and sometimes stop speaking to me altogether. as for the beta verse alpha male...are you suggesting going for a beta who is personality wise more of an alpha?? I do notice I tend to go towards more shy guys since I am the opposite of the that. So I'm trying to find more a man's man that has TRUE confidence. one of them was called the hellfire club.........ill look in my bookcase and message you some others and some are still at my mums ill message you some when i find them......they are extremely wordy......if you can get into them they are interesting....... ill give you an example of a guy i know......the fusion i mean...... he is shy, but he isnt afraid to stand up for what he believes in , highly passionate, his eyes actually sparkle when he is passionate about something , he doesnt say something for no reason, he thinks before he speaks, he doesnt have to wear designer labels or posture masculinity he is just masculine......he can rock a white shirt like you wouldnt believe...;0)...he has a ready smile and a laugh you know he means when he does laugh it isnt forced.......he is never mean in what he says but he doesnt stand for crap if he wants someone to shut up he will say so .......he is calm even though he doesnt feel it,he projects calm, he will stand up and public speak even though he isnt sure about it, he throws it all to faith and his belief it will be ok because he is ok with himself...he speaks well because.... he has the spirit in him to do exactly that......to succeed at anything he does, even when he thinks he cant he will succeed.He is loving and thoughtful but reserved, he isnt afraid to state truth.......even when it hurts someone else.....he does it with respect and compassion.......I truly believe if thsi guy really likes a woman he will let her know he wotn be able to help himself adn he is goign after a woman now....he made this cool shortbread house for her for xmas.....he aslo taught himself to pain tby youtubeing....grinning....luuuuv this guy now thats all i know this is what i guess from this alpha/beta male fusion.... when you get to know him he will open up, he has dreams he hasnt said or told anyone he is waiting for that person to come(i really hope he finds her), he has the capability of inspiring people with his passion,hugely,he will always respect his wife or partner, he will be faithful loyal protective loving but wont take crap, he would defend but without aggression in absolute necessity......and he will make a wonderful role model and father one day.... NIGHTSKY offended me on loveshack... saying i wouldnt be attracted to a faithful man i so thoroughly am...he offended me because in a slighted way, it sort of made out this guy i am attracted too cant be faitfhful...loyalty comes to play .... ...this male won my heart...and rejected it ...I dont want sympathy i am happy to have met him...... some times i dont get innuendos too because i try to stay near the base of what people say, and when i feel strongly abotu soemoen i am cloudy not clear, i can do a thousand things with innuendo, twist it change it and confuse the hell out of myself..... that is why i prefer straight up.......lol...so simple.....i think you are going to have to be straight up with what you want...and hope the guy is too....ill get back to you on the books.....ill message them privately..i know my post is long....you inspired my passionate side or my passion for someone special....smilin..deb
Author Maneater Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 one of them was called the hellfire club.........ill look in my bookcase and message you some others and some are still at my mums ill message you some when i find them......they are extremely wordy......if you can get into them they are interesting....... ill give you an example of a guy i know......the fusion i mean...... he is shy, but he isnt afraid to stand up for what he believes in , highly passionate, his eyes actually sparkle when he is passionate about something , he doesnt say something for no reason, he thinks before he speaks, he doesnt have to wear designer labels or posture masculinity he is just masculine......he can rock a white shirt like you wouldnt believe...;0)...he has a ready smile and a laugh you know he means when he does laugh it isnt forced.......he is never mean in what he says but he doesnt stand for crap if he wants someone to shut up he will say so .......he is calm even though he doesnt feel it,he projects calm, he will stand up and public speak even though he isnt sure about it, he throws it all to faith and his belief it will be ok because he is ok with himself...he speaks well because.... he has the spirit in him to do exactly that......to succeed at anything he does, even when he thinks he cant he will succeed.He is loving and thoughtful but reserved, he isnt afraid to state truth.......even when it hurts someone else.....he does it with respect and compassion.......I truly believe if thsi guy really likes a woman he will let her know he wotn be able to help himself adn he is goign after a woman now....he made this cool shortbread house for her for xmas.....he aslo taught himself to pain tby youtubeing....grinning....luuuuv this guy now thats all i know this is what i guess from this alpha/beta male fusion.... when you get to know him he will open up, he has dreams he hasnt said or told anyone he is waiting for that person to come(i really hope he finds her), he has the capability of inspiring people with his passion,hugely,he will always respect his wife or partner, he will be faithful loyal protective loving but wont take crap, he would defend but without aggression in absolute necessity......and he will make a wonderful role model and father one day.... NIGHTSKY offended me on loveshack... saying i wouldnt be attracted to a faithful man i so thoroughly am...he offended me because in a slighted way, it sort of made out this guy i am attracted too cant be faitfhful...loyalty comes to play .... ...this male won my heart...and rejected it ...I dont want sympathy i am happy to have met him...... some times i dont get innuendos too because i try to stay near the base of what people say, and when i feel strongly abotu soemoen i am cloudy not clear, i can do a thousand things with innuendo, twist it change it and confuse the hell out of myself..... that is why i prefer straight up.......lol...so simple.....i think you are going to have to be straight up with what you want...and hope the guy is too....ill get back to you on the books.....ill message them privately..i know my post is long....you inspired my passionate side or my passion for someone special....smilin..deb thanks for letting me know about the book title! I'm always adding new books to my list of reading. I'm seriously going to keep the descriptions of the fusion beta/alpha. thats exactly what I need. this guy seems to good to be true Thanks again for your advice! I should read up on your 'history' since I am intrigued by your story now. So basically people think you are a semi masochist who is only attracted to cheating liars??? Although I think a lot of men are cheaters by nature so it doesn't mean you are only attracted to that type. If that's so, I wonder what your past would be then. Sorry to hear it didn't work out...you sound like an intelligent, kind person so I have no idea what person wouldn't appreciate you.
Michal2012 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 I think this is natural and happen with every one got nervous first time. Not to worry. Everything will be all right. You have to give time for this relation.
todreaminblue Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 thanks for letting me know about the book title! I'm always adding new books to my list of reading. I'm seriously going to keep the descriptions of the fusion beta/alpha. thats exactly what I need. this guy seems to good to be true Thanks again for your advice! I should read up on your 'history' since I am intrigued by your story now. So basically people think you are a semi masochist who is only attracted to cheating liars??? Although I think a lot of men are cheaters by nature so it doesn't mean you are only attracted to that type. If that's so, I wonder what your past would be then. Sorry to hear it didn't work out...you sound like an intelligent, kind person so I have no idea what person wouldn't appreciate you. i dont know how much history you can actually glean from my posts......id use personal experience to try to help others and the posts i have posted on to peoples problems all that i have experienced are hard for some to believe......i had a lot of posts removed in a paranoid stage i went through a while ago ...the mod was understanding......lol....long story....anyway will pm you some more books if you want to know my history you can just ask....i only have really pmed a couple on here only one more than one message.....he isnt around any more miss him a bit.....he was a nice guy so ill pm you the books any way.....if you want to pm me you are welcome too....if you want to pm me and ask questions feel free if i annoy you tell me to rack off privately i would appreciate that..cheers to ya..deb
todreaminblue Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 these are some of the books he gave me michael chrichton .....prey he was a john milton fan........so paradise lost i got my own copy he wouldnt part with his david wolstencraft good news bad news david granger the november man peter straub fan aka steven king hellfireclub(written pseudo straub) and another one called black house ...simon felt king wrote better as straub when he wrote as king he was too commercial and under publishing constraints.....i actually dont agree len deighton....novel called hope ....second novel in a collection called faith hope and charity russell andrews aphrodite you arent able to get pm.....s lol maneater or you have blocked them so here are some of the books anyway ......cheers..deb..
Author Maneater Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 i dont know how much history you can actually glean from my posts......id use personal experience to try to help others and the posts i have posted on to peoples problems all that i have experienced are hard for some to believe......i had a lot of posts removed in a paranoid stage i went through a while ago ...the mod was understanding......lol....long story....anyway will pm you some more books if you want to know my history you can just ask....i only have really pmed a couple on here only one more than one message.....he isnt around any more miss him a bit.....he was a nice guy so ill pm you the books any way.....if you want to pm me you are welcome too....if you want to pm me and ask questions feel free if i annoy you tell me to rack off privately i would appreciate that..cheers to ya..deb ohh ok I guess I have to change my settings to accommodate PM's. No worries if you don't feel like rehashing your history, I was just curious Thanks so much for including the many lists of books! I appreciate it.
Author Maneater Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 I think this is natural and happen with every one got nervous first time. Not to worry. Everything will be all right. You have to give time for this relation. I suppose good things take time
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