Bubbles Posted August 18, 2004 Posted August 18, 2004 You will let go when you are ready to let go. Rome wasn't built in a day you know. Besides I think your nickname is a cute one and no-one else here has ANYTHING that even remotly resembles it either. Bubbles
Author littleflowerpot Posted August 18, 2004 Author Posted August 18, 2004 i think that's why i liked it. i'd never heard it before and it felt unique - like he'd made it up just for me. but who knows? maybe that's what his mom called his sisters growing up. i have to keep reminding myself that maybe we weren't as special as i used to feel we were.
brandx Posted August 18, 2004 Posted August 18, 2004 Sorry to barge in on your conversation here, but from everything I have read from you, littleflowerpot is perfect; it has deeper meaning. You cultivate, nurture, grow others. When you are past your ex, remember that meaning for a postive value to it. It is also a double edged sword. Don't let others who recognize this in you take advantage, as people will. Remember to nurture yourself first, others as you grow and feel stronger. Sorry, hope I didn't put my two cents somewhere not wanted. I know I can't sum you up after reading several posts. Just my observation. Take Care. BrandX
Author littleflowerpot Posted August 19, 2004 Author Posted August 19, 2004 Originally posted by brandx Sorry to barge in on your conversation here, but from everything I have read from you, littleflowerpot is perfect; it has deeper meaning. You cultivate, nurture, grow others. When you are past your ex, remember that meaning for a postive value to it. It is also a double edged sword. Don't let others who recognize this in you take advantage, as people will. Remember to nurture yourself first, others as you grow and feel stronger. Sorry, hope I didn't put my two cents somewhere not wanted. I know I can't sum you up after reading several posts. Just my observation. Take Care. BrandX damn, brandx. you are a very sweet guy.
brandx Posted August 19, 2004 Posted August 19, 2004 Originally posted by littleflowerpot damn, brandx. you are a very sweet guy. Thank you littleflowerpot, but I am sure lots of others thought the same thing; it seems pretty obvious from the outside. Don't want to take credit where it isn't necessarily due. Thank you again, though.
Author littleflowerpot Posted August 21, 2004 Author Posted August 21, 2004 okay, he told a mutual friend that i haven't responded to him and that he knows he can't force me. he said he thinks i probably miss him but i'm still very angry with him. it breaks my heart. i miss him so much.
sami Posted August 21, 2004 Posted August 21, 2004 I'm confused. Are you angry with him, or you are missing him. Cumun Littleflowerpot.
Author littleflowerpot Posted August 21, 2004 Author Posted August 21, 2004 Originally posted by sami I'm confused. Are you angry with him, or you are missing him. Cumun Littleflowerpot. he thinks i'm angry but i'm not so sure that i'm angry. maybe below the surface. certainly some days i feel anger but i'm not sure if it's at him or the situation or what. mostly what i feel is sad. yes, i miss him incredibly. i still am very deeply in love with him.
sami Posted August 21, 2004 Posted August 21, 2004 if you are "deeply in love", why then not thinking of working it out ?
Author littleflowerpot Posted August 21, 2004 Author Posted August 21, 2004 Originally posted by sami if you are "deeply in love", why then not thinking of working it out ? because it isn't reciprocated. he says he loves me but he has a gf. he's been with her for a long time. staying in a relationship with him will only come to a bad end for someone and maybe all of us.
sami Posted August 21, 2004 Posted August 21, 2004 Then take your time, relax and look around when you are ready. You deserve the best my friend.
Author littleflowerpot Posted August 21, 2004 Author Posted August 21, 2004 thank you. i'm taking the time to work on me right now.
XDOR Posted August 25, 2004 Posted August 25, 2004 Littleflowerpot, What would you do if he does break up with his girlfriend and he proves it to you? Will he get another chance? Just wondering.
Author littleflowerpot Posted August 25, 2004 Author Posted August 25, 2004 Originally posted by XDOR Littleflowerpot, What would you do if he does break up with his girlfriend and he proves it to you? Will he get another chance? Just wondering. i really don't know. i love him so that would be hard to make a decision on. on one hand, he cheated on her. i don't know why he did really but does it mean he might have some problems of his own that would just follow him in future relationships (even a renewed relationship with me?). but most importantly i don't believe that will ever happen. it just hurts me more to fantasize about it or hope for it. here's what i'm thinking a lot about right now: he's written me several times now and i don't know if it's okay to just never speak to him again without explaining why. would it be better for all of us if i never spoke to him again? or would my telling him why i've been avoiding him be more fair? i don't know what to do. i can't write him back until i get my mind cleared. maybe it would be best to just give myself more time to think and then perhaps somewhere down the road write him and tell him why?
brandx Posted August 25, 2004 Posted August 25, 2004 Originally posted by littleflowerpot i really don't know. i love him so that would be hard to make a decision on. on one hand, he cheated on her. i don't know why he did really but does it mean he might have some problems of his own that would just follow him in future relationships (even a renewed relationship with me?). but most importantly i don't believe that will ever happen. it just hurts me more to fantasize about it or hope for it. here's what i'm thinking a lot about right now: he's written me several times now and i don't know if it's okay to just never speak to him again without explaining why. would it be better for all of us if i never spoke to him again? or would my telling him why i've been avoiding him be more fair? i don't know what to do. i can't write him back until i get my mind cleared. maybe it would be best to just give myself more time to think and then perhaps somewhere down the road write him and tell him why? LTF, You, to me, are much more well grounded than I am, and have a great outlook on things, so take this for what it is worth. Yes, it is ok to not talk with him. Here's why: the last time we spoke on the phone about two months ago i told him i wanted us to say goodbye to each other. i felt i needed that for closure. then we didn't speak again. he emailed once or twice and i emailed back once saying i needed the closure of a goodbye. well, today he told me he didn't think he could say goodbye to me. in fact, today he said all the right things - things that touched my heart. unfortunately, they aren't the RIGHT things. he didn't say "i love you and i'm going to end things with my gf because i want to be with you." he didn't say "i love her too much and although i love you, i have to end things with you and do the right thing." the right things he said to me were just the things that keeps my heart yearning. Those were your words. You already told him this on the phone. He is trying to keep you tied into him; I understand your desire to feel that tie, but I think it would be best that you stick to your original decisions. He didn't call you for the right reasons; he called you to make himself feel better IMO (I don't mean to be hurtful with that statement; just an outside observation. Again, I don't "know" you, but I see your picture, I have read your posts and really tried to understand your perspective by what you have written, so let me be honest here -- I don't beat around the bush much. You are young. You are gorgeous. You are articulate. You have compassion. You are passionate. You know yourself. You know what you want. You understand commitment. I know that is not a complete summary of you, but it is part of my observations so far. My point is, that while I do not what to take away from the feelings you have for this guy, I cannot understand how someone with all of the characteristics I just described does not have a ton of guys beating a path to them. There are other guys out there; not the same as MM, but other great people who would likely bend over backwards at the opportunity to get a shot to be with someone like that. And they could be single and an even better fit for you. I know the heart is more complex than that, but I still think it is true. Not trying to kiss anyone's ass. And not saying that others on this board don't fit the above categories. I just happen to have seen more about what you have revealed about yourself than others; and it makes sense to say this given the thread. I hope I did not offend you in any way; I tend to be pretty up front these days. Be Well Brand X
Author littleflowerpot Posted August 25, 2004 Author Posted August 25, 2004 how could that have offended me? it was such a kind thing to say! thank you. i don't want to sound like i'm conceited and i don't even agree that i deserve it, but i do have more than enough men willing to take his place but the problem is that i don't feel that way about them. i'm in love with this one guy and until i'm over it, it's hard for me to even think of another guy. plus, i don't trust my radar right now for picking love partners. you are right. thank you for reminding me that i did tell him we needed to end things. i guess i just felt stupid for trying to get him for two months to talk about this and now that he wants to i ignore him. but you are right. he doesn't need me to explain things. he already knows how i feel.
sami Posted August 25, 2004 Posted August 25, 2004 Some people get offended for no good reasons I guess.
brandx Posted August 26, 2004 Posted August 26, 2004 Originally posted by littleflowerpot how could that have offended me? it was such a kind thing to say! thank you. I just want to make sure I don't overstep the bound of being polite when I interject into someone's life in a way they may not have requested. Some people are offended by the truth from time to time; just trying to be sensitive to that. I am glad you took it as you did. You are welcome. i don't want to sound like i'm conceited and i don't even agree that i deserve it, but i do have more than enough men willing to take his place but the problem is that i don't feel that way about them. i'm in love with this one guy and until i'm over it, it's hard for me to even think of another guy. plus, i don't trust my radar right now for picking love partners. I think you do deserve it, otherwise I would not have said it. It does not sound conceited. I understand how you feel though. Good call on the radar; takes time to straighten that out sometimes after we are hurt. you are right. thank you for reminding me that i did tell him we needed to end things. i guess i just felt stupid for trying to get him for two months to talk about this and now that he wants to i ignore him. but you are right. he doesn't need me to explain things. he already knows how i feel. Glad you recall this. Hold onto it. It will help you move on. I am watching one of my favorite movies of all time right now: "Shawshank Redemption". One of the best lines for anyone's life is in this movie (with all due sensitivity and respect for your personal/medical history LTF) "I guess it comes down to a simple decision: Get Busy Living or Get Busy Dying". I suggest we all do our best, as you have helped me see, to get busy living. Be strong. There is love around the corner for you; for all of us. Originally posted by sami Some people get offended for no good reasons I guess. I just never want to assume I know what is going to offend someone. Plus, LTF has been very polite, direct, consistent, and helpful to me with her posts. I may take extra steps to show my respect by trying to ensure I do not offend her or others I have interacted more often with on this board. Also probably a part of my overly non-confrontational nature. Be Well Brand X
Author littleflowerpot Posted August 26, 2004 Author Posted August 26, 2004 hey, i LOVE the shawshank redemption.
brandx Posted August 26, 2004 Posted August 26, 2004 me too. one of my all time favorites and so many good things you can take away from it if you choose to. Since they run it on cable about a million times a month, I have seen it or most of it literally 50 plus times over the years.
brandx Posted August 26, 2004 Posted August 26, 2004 Originally posted by sami What is this "shawshank redemption"?????? great movie with Tim Robbins and Morgan Freeman. About 7 years old I think. Rent it if you haven't seen it.
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