domple Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Ok this is driving me nuts to the point of going mad and seeing a phycologist. Basically there has been this girl ive been seeing for a couple of months and in the beginning I just thought Id like to get to know her but at the same time I was getting over my ex. Fast forward a few weeks and I was starting to freak out seeing her as when I was with her I saw marriage potential. Even though there was no spark as such I just kept thinking this about her. Anyway I kept thinking of my ex when i was was her and it was weird after spending a little time with this girl I am fine and think shes great BUT when I am away I DONT want to be with her but i cant stop thinking about her (please note I am now over my ex and she does not enter my mind anymore). Now shes overseas and we have had minimal contact as when she contacts me I seem to freak out which is oddly irrational the more time apart we are away from each other. Anyway there is a constant battle in my head of NOT wanting to be with her yelling in my head (normally if I don’t want to be with someone I just don’t want to be with them and move on). But this girls different in that I cant get her out of my mind and that even though the majority of my thoughts are NOT to be with her I get clear thoughts of how amazing she is. I too am travelling on Monday for a couple of weeks. Its like an internal struggle and I want to break it off completely but my mind keeps thinking about her non stop and its affecting me so much (I am 31 and this has never happened before). The phyc says that I saw real commitment I am auto-rejecting her which is strange as I am all for commitment. I feel like a nut job and the phyc suggested to remain in contact with her a she believes there is something substantial as when I found out my ex was dating a new person she was the FIRST person I called and wanting to speak to her was as clear as day. I have been on 3 dates with 3 different girls and every time I am with other girls I keep thinking of her and how awesome she is. I just want to like her and not feel this or end it and move on but she’s constantly in my mind.
todreaminblue Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Ok this is driving me nuts to the point of going mad and seeing a phycologist. Basically there has been this girl ive been seeing for a couple of months and in the beginning I just thought Id like to get to know her but at the same time I was getting over my ex. Fast forward a few weeks and I was starting to freak out seeing her as when I was with her I saw marriage potential. Even though there was no spark as such I just kept thinking this about her. Anyway I kept thinking of my ex when i was was her and it was weird after spending a little time with this girl I am fine and think shes great BUT when I am away I DONT want to be with her but i cant stop thinking about her (please note I am now over my ex and she does not enter my mind anymore). Now shes overseas and we have had minimal contact as when she contacts me I seem to freak out which is oddly irrational the more time apart we are away from each other. Anyway there is a constant battle in my head of NOT wanting to be with her yelling in my head (normally if I don’t want to be with someone I just don’t want to be with them and move on). But this girls different in that I cant get her out of my mind and that even though the majority of my thoughts are NOT to be with her I get clear thoughts of how amazing she is. I too am travelling on Monday for a couple of weeks. Its like an internal struggle and I want to break it off completely but my mind keeps thinking about her non stop and its affecting me so much (I am 31 and this has never happened before). The phyc says that I saw real commitment I am auto-rejecting her which is strange as I am all for commitment. I feel like a nut job and the phyc suggested to remain in contact with her a she believes there is something substantial as when I found out my ex was dating a new person she was the FIRST person I called and wanting to speak to her was as clear as day. I have been on 3 dates with 3 different girls and every time I am with other girls I keep thinking of her and how awesome she is. I just want to like her and not feel this or end it and move on but she’s constantly in my mind. I have been told multiple dating other guys will help me ...i find this hard to believe because it makes me feel a little sick........i am stuck on soemone similar to you.....i am not doing anything at th emoment but prayign for the feelings to go away and giving myself migraines...it makes me physically ill......its manifesting physically...my sister says my hair is starting to fall out i dont think it is.....i just need a hair cut its getting to heavy i hope...i am losign a lot of weight cant eat have insomnia....possible limerance....google that.......so i feel you......im going to end up really tiny...the thought of other guys make me sick and this guy doesn teven like m e...i am a train wreck........not so good..but i try to cope.....its all i ever do....i pray a lot..deb
Author domple Posted January 2, 2013 Author Posted January 2, 2013 Hi todreaminblue I hope your ok but the thing is that as I told this girl once... She's great overall but nothing is attracting me to her as in the overall package is great but not nothing is pulling me to her. That's what's weird with me as how can I not really care for someone but think about them non stop
todreaminblue Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 (edited) Hi todreaminblue I hope your ok but the thing is that as I told this girl once... She's great overall but nothing is attracting me to her as in the overall package is great but not nothing is pulling me to her. That's what's weird with me as how can I not really care for someone but think about them non stop that one is a bit different to me, I am ok, I am always ok, been through worse, i am used to sacrifice and that includes what i feel, it does take a toll on me though........unfortunately it manifests physically always has....i had grey hairs at ten....developed an elvira stripe with my ex....a section of my fringe turned dead white have been dying it ever since i was twenty five when that happened.....but i cope...... as far as not feeling or caring i dont have that exactly the opposite.....which is probably why i am so careful not making the person feel uncomfortable......i stand up for myself though no one else will so i do it...i dont like ignorance never have ......he was a little rude to me a few times and i notice because its a pet hate of mine.......i am not rude back but i did let him know ...if he sent me me a text i would reply as soon as i read it...i dotn play games and i am nto ignorant if i get a message i will reply if you are close to me ...i guess he doesnt feel close to me to care.........everyone has flaws though, me more than most, so i dont judge him on it i just note it...... i guess im realistic i haven't put him on a pedestal but i care for him and it goes further than friendship which is strange for me to admit....i dont feel it often......i dotn understand hwo you say you dont care....yet you think about her all the time.what do you think about.......i worry even though i am in no contact i pray he is ok....and i worry.....that he isnt, do you worry or is it resentment you feel..i have no resentment....sadness and worry and the sadness is because basically i just want to see him..also i cant really ask about him...because then others know how i feel..its frustrating...a couple of time si though abtou him beign with other girls and its painful i try not too.......do you feel that...?????....deb Edited January 2, 2013 by todreaminblue
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