LuisR Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 There's this woman at my gym who I'm very attractive to. She's Caucasian, probably Christian or Jewish. Physically, she has a wonder/hot body (her time at a gym is well spend). She's single. Looks like a loner. Has no man in her life. Spends 5 days of her life at a gym, including on a Friday night until 10PM. Every time I look at her straight in the eyes, she lowers her eyes. Why???? I did breakout a conversation with her once, and she was not very receptive.
Malia25 Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 There's this woman at my gym who I'm very attractive to. She's Caucasian, probably Christian or Jewish. Physically, she has a wonder/hot body (her time at a gym is well spend). She's single. Looks like a loner. Has no man in her life. Spends 5 days of her life at a gym, including on a Friday night until 10PM. Every time I look at her straight in the eyes, she lowers her eyes. Why???? I did breakout a conversation with her once, and she was not very receptive. What the heck? Being Jewish, Christian and Caucasian do not even correllate. I'm curious to know how you came to those assumptions. And how do you know you she is single with no man in her life? Just watching her at the gym does not prove this - nor does her appearance dictate her religion. So many assumptions!!!! Gah, assumption monger. >,< If she is not looking you in the eyes or being receptive, perhaps she is not interested (or might be creeped out). She might have a Jewish boyfriend waiting at home for her. You never know...
todreaminblue Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 There's this woman at my gym who I'm very attractive to. She's Caucasian, probably Christian or Jewish. Physically, she has a wonder/hot body (her time at a gym is well spend). She's single. Looks like a loner. Has no man in her life. Spends 5 days of her life at a gym, including on a Friday night until 10PM. Every time I look at her straight in the eyes, she lowers her eyes. Why???? I did breakout a conversation with her once, and she was not very receptive. its a sign of submissiveness can be a sign of attraction....are you imposing if you have an imposing build....it could be submission......if not it could be a mix of both attraction and submission....tread care***lly if she is at a gym working out a lot and lowering her eyes, loner, no man....this girl could be wary not wanting male attention or any attention.....i lower my eyes a lot when i walk at night......ill smile and then ill lower its a do not approach me im submissive im a nice person leave me alone please...except for oncoming cars who high beam me ill glare them out till i cant see anything properly...so rude....blinded by the light ...manfred mann... Blinded by the Light ~ Manfred Mann's Earth Band with lyrics - YouTube ....to a guy i like when i lower my eyes, its i dont want you to see what is in my eyes you scare the crap out of me because i like you, all of it has a little fear involved but with a guy i like ill attempt to be more approachable............tread lightly with this woman at the gym sounds fragile...........deb
mortensorchid Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Are you going to ask her out? Because if you want to, do so. I was in a similar situation a few years ago. I would see these two guys working out in the gym (one would spot the other when they were lifting), they would stop to chat for a bit (one was married the other single) when I was on the machines. They both vanished for a while, then the single one came back many months later and said hello. As we chatted, he said he was kind of disappointed in me because he thought we were going to be an item. I was rather taken aback by this, as he never asked me. I told him I figured he was just chatting with me, if he was serious about it he would have asked me. I wonder if he gets that today. Take the plunge and ask her for an actual get together soon rather than wondering what her eye contact / body language might be.
PogoStick Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 A look downward always means she's interested. Give her the right lines and don't screw it up. Wow, way over everyone's head! Makes it even more funny.
Author LuisR Posted January 2, 2013 Author Posted January 2, 2013 What the heck? Being Jewish, Christian and Caucasian do not even correllate. I'm curious to know how you came to those assumptions. And how do you know you she is single with no man in her life? Just watching her at the gym does not prove this - nor does her appearance dictate her religion. So many assumptions!!!! Gah, assumption monger. >,< If she is not looking you in the eyes or being receptive, perhaps she is not interested (or might be creeped out). She might have a Jewish boyfriend waiting at home for her. You never know...That's because in some cultures, in particular in some Asian ones, it is a deep offense for a woman to look at a man directly in the eyes you ignorant twit.
monicaelise Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 (edited) There's this woman at my gym who I'm very attractive to. She's Caucasian, probably Christian or Jewish. Physically, she has a wonder/hot body (her time at a gym is well spend). She's single. Looks like a loner. Has no man in her life. Spends 5 days of her life at a gym, including on a Friday night until 10PM. Every time I look at her straight in the eyes, she lowers her eyes. Why???? I did breakout a conversation with her once, and she was not very receptive. If she's there five days a week, and on Friday nights til 10 pm, it means she takes her gym time seriously. Leave her alone. She doesn't want to be bothered. Looking down when you look at her DOES NOT mean she's interested or receptive. Looking down is a polite way of basically telling you to bugger off. That signal is as clear a "do not approach" as you can get. If she's wearing headphones, multiply it by ten. Respect her space. Trust me on this one. In this environment, looking down NEVER means interest. You will likely get your head bitten off if you keep it up. It's not the time or the place. She's clearly there to get some work done, not get chatted up. Women who train alone, daily, and are at the gym at all kinds of "crazy" hours generally are there because they're dedicated, not because they want your attention. Also, unless she's told you, you don't know that she's single. Many of us don't wear our rings to the gym because they tear up your hands when you lift and we train alone because it's usually the most efficient way to get things done quickly. You have no idea what the rest of her life is like. I've trained solo for most of the past decade. During that time I've always had boyfriends and an active social life. Once in a blue moon, if I feel like screwing around or a friend asks, I may make a fun day out of it and train with someone but it's definitely not the norm. Don't assume you know this woman's life by her gym persona. Edited January 2, 2013 by monicaelise 5
grkBoy Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I dunno on this. I'm of the mind that the ONLY time a girl in the gym is interested is when you two are sharing smiles, saying hello, or even making small talk. If she seems happy to see you, interested in you, and not in some "leave me alone, I'm exercising" attitude, then you can make a move for dating. However, observation has shown me most women, especially hot women, in the gym seemingly more just want to exercise and leave. Had even some women I've known say they thought the guy was cute, but was turned off by him interrupting her workout, plus she felt unattractive as a sweaty mess...but if it was at a bar and she was all dressed nice, then she would be more receptive. Tread carefully. I personally would need more than "looking down". I'd even say that was a sign of disinterest. A smile would say "interested" to me. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 To be honest, all I am thinking of when someone tries to talk to me in the gym is how annoyed I am that my heart rate is going down and I will have to warm up again. Also, when someone keeps staring at you, you look down or away to indicate you are not interested. 5
truth_seeker Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Also, when someone keeps staring at you, you look down or away to indicate you are not interested. Not true. It could mean they are nervous or intimidated. It depends on the person. Best way to know is to chat them up.
Casablanca Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 To be honest, all I am thinking of when someone tries to talk to me in the gym is how annoyed I am that my heart rate is going down and I will have to warm up again. Also, when someone keeps staring at you, you look down or away to indicate you are not interested. That is how I read it, if she was interested she'd smile at you IMO Unless you catcher her looking at you and smiling when your eyes meet, I wouldn't expect much
GirlontheLam Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 As for the looking down thing....there is a tiny kernel of truth in that. If she was possibly interested, she would more likely make eye contact, hold it for a bit, lok down, and then re-engage with eye contact. That would be a sign of interest, in the case of looking down.
xilver Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 It's obvious she is there to work out and nothing more. You already chatted her and she was unreceptive. If she is as hot as you say she is then I bet many other guys in the gym have already tried and realized it is a waste of time with her so she is alone. I go to the gym often and you can tell the girls that are approachable. They smile, make eye contact, and chat with other people. Some even go as far as to wear cute or sexy outfits with make up and hair done.
christine07 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 You are making so many assumptions about a girl in the gym that you have only gained from staring at her and talking to her once. Maybe she is making eye contact with you and looking away cuz she know how often your staring at her and its making her uncomfortable. Shes a loner cuz she wants to be left alone... If I see someone at the gym I'm interested in I make eye contact and HOLD it. I'm not 14 and dont play coy games.
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