bluenite Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Is it true that women prefer to date/marry/be with men who earn a lot of money? I see posts all the time (not just on this forum) from men who say that making a lot of money is an almost guaranteed way to get women. Why is this the case? Is it because guys with money can buy their girlfriends more things or is it related to something else - say an increase in one's level of confidence? I can understand a women desiring a man who makes a decent living, but wouldn't a good income be a bonus and not a sticking point? And I don't understand how money can make men more confident... I don't want to come across as arrogant, but I make a lot of money for someone in my age group (top 5% of earners). Consequently, my level of income makes me feel less confident, if anything. I truly enjoy my job and what I accomplish at work, but in no way, shape, or form do I want to converse about how much I make. I just can't relate to a lot of people and talking about salary/success makes me feel like I'm bragging (even though that isn't the intent). Is there something wrong with thinking this way? Should I be telling myself how great I am because I earn a lot? That just seems really hollow...
newmoon Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 (edited) i prefer that they make at least close to, or slightly above me. it's very hard for a woman to be with a guy who cannot treat her to simple things, like a dinner out, a movie, a weekend away every so often, etc. no one wants to worry over money and when you're with a guy who doesn't have it, you're counting pennies and (often) enjoying yourself less because you have to find free or low-cost (usually not as fun) activities to do in consideration of his bank account. it limits what you can do/see together. it also limits how far the relationship can progress: can this guy with less cash take care of me/kid/family long-term? if the guy at least makes some money the possibilities open up for a 'richer' experience. it's not so much about knowing the exact figure a guy makes as knowing he can take care of you and offer some nice things while dating/romancing/looking forward Edited January 2, 2013 by newmoon
IT Geek Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Status and money makes no difference if you don't have the looks to go with it. I have both but no looks and am undateable.
orionboxing Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I'm actually quite sad that a lot of woman feel this way about money - but I recognize it as truth. I would have to say that the relationship I most admire is that of my friend's. Neither one of them makes much money, but they truly love each other and that's all that matters. This woman chose to be with this guy because of what he offered as a person, not what he offered from a monetary standpoint. What makes this relationship even more admirable (and makes this woman more desirable), is that they work TOGETHER to make a better life for themselves. They are on a journey and they provide resources to EACH OTHER. When a woman dates a guy specifically for his income...I can't help but think she is missing out on that growth and teamwork aspect that a relationship needs to prosper.
musemaj11 Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 A man's money to a woman is of equal importance to a woman's beauty in the eyes of a man. 1
ChessPieceFace Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Life is all about the acquisition and procurement of resources. Oh it is? You should write a book about that and have it compete with the Bible and Quran and whatnot. Sounds like you have really found the ultimate key to life there. (sic)
movingon12 Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Do most women want to be with a man who is financially stable? Yes. But that's not the same as has 'loads of money'. I have 2 friends who married millionaires. Their relationships were (and I'm sure still are) just as complicated as women I know dating average and low income guys. The money itself causes A LOT of problems from 'should I put my name on the deeds of a house that he paid cash for?' to feeling constantly on guard in case other women try to steal him to the fact that the men were at work/away on business A LOT more than an average guy on an average salary to 'what do I buy him for christmas?? he has everything!'. Like I said most women want to know that they can rely on their man to be able to support them - particularly older women if they are expecting to be leaving/cutting back on work to raise children. Personally I earn a lot more than my husband and couldn't care less mainly because I have a well paid and stable job with good benefits. 1
Minka333 Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Honest answer: yes Bulls*t answer: no In love answer: doesn't matter
IT Geek Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Probably cause you are socially awkward? That is what is holding you back nothing else. I'm socially awkward because I know that no sane woman would find me physically attractive, so why face dealing with certain rejection?
Samilia Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 No, but he has to have a job. I'm not talking about Mac Do', a job that pays for his own place, bills, and a bit of fun. Men who earns a lot of money tends to scare me, I have a regular job, I couldn't "keep up" with their life style.
monicaelise Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 You're socially awkward cause you believe you know women when you don't. You have to give it a try to get to know someone before you can judge them. At your age, it's probably too late to find some nubile jailbait female that has it all tight but that doesn't mean there are no ugly women your age that wouldn't want to be with you. You just need to go for it more often. Also, women are not known for their reasoning skills. So if they come off as insane, its for a reason. And men are?? ROFLMAO Take a look at the worldwide statistics on violent crime (rape, murder, assault) and mental illness (schizophrenia, suicide). Then come back and have a chat with all of us which sex is "sane". The silly things you boys say... 2
monicaelise Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 (edited) It's cause men have to put up with women. Well that would mean that men are stupid and insane, since nobody really has to put up with anybody LOL! The men who feel this way should probably consider a very long stay on a Tibetan mountain top far, far away from women. Women certainly don't want or need them. Frankly, neither sex has an advantage in either department but there sure are a lot of angry young boys with very big chips on their shoulders. Edited January 2, 2013 by monicaelise 1
Samilia Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 In other words, yes. Because we know women can't accept men that work min wage jobs, so they have to be at least earning twice min wage to even be considered. That's 16.50 an hour here. A lot of people, men and women, want someone with a bit of thrive, and working a minimum paying job when you could be doing something else isn't exactly a turn on. Not sure who made you so angry, your mom, your ex gf, maybe too much rejection? However it doesn't matter, don't put words in people's mouth because you like to be disliked and you can finally say "I knew it, they hate me". 1
musemaj11 Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 The more beautiful the woman, the higher her financial expectation is. On the other hand, the wealthier the man, the higher his physical beauty expectation is. This fact of nature is what makes me think equal gender employment opportunity proves to be harmful for both men and women because it decreases good jobs for men which makes it harder for them to attract a mate while for women in turn it makes it harder for them to find a mate who meets their financial expectation. As a result, everybody loses.
carhill Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Coveting wealth isn't anything new. Women are merely less obvious about it. Men kill each other, literally and figuratively, every day to achieve it. It's part of the breed.
monicaelise Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Who are you calling a boy? Anyways, it doesn't matter what you say cause you're a woman. And there are a lot of angry women out there cause of their inability to be rational and logical animals. ROFLMAO! I didn't call anyone a boy. Sensitive much? Clearly, your reading comprehension skills are not on your oh-so-rational-and-logical Y-chromosome (ever notice how that chromosome is really just an X with a missing leg, basically a little crippled X?).
Axee Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 (edited) I am a 27 year old woman and a good person at heart and who doesnt play games. I think I am one of the right person to answer this question . ANSWER is NO. A man's worth is NOT evaluated by how much he makes to me.In fact I have found that rich guys and guys who earn a lot are very egoistic (not all but most) and lead complicated lives with complicated expectations. I would prefer a financially stable guy with a good heart and average looks. Yes, a bit taller than me because I am a broad shouldered and large framed girl. And yes, I am one of the top earners in my age group so I am secure in that aspect and dont depend on someone's money. I think girls who themselves dont make that much are the ones who care about a mans status and wealth. Edited January 2, 2013 by Axee 2
musemaj11 Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 No, but he has to have a job. I'm not talking about Mac Do', a job that pays for his own place, bills, and a bit of fun. Men who earns a lot of money tends to scare me, I have a regular job, I couldn't "keep up" with their life style. The whole point of snatching a wealthy guy is so that you could leech off him ...
ChessPieceFace Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 Yes' date=' that is what life is all about.[/quote'] You need resources to survive. Beyond that, it's up to any individual to decide "what life is about" for them. Coming on here and saying "the purpose of life is to accumulate wealth" is hilarious. You are no guru or authority on anything, and your pursuit of meaningless things demonstrates that.
rys Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 basic instinct - survival. survival would have different meanings for most of us. some women i know would prefer men with money (good provider), some would prefer buff guys (maybe he can protect her), others prefer men who are funny.
Aedra Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 I'd say generally, yes. Having a good income probably means a few things, including the fact you're probably pretty intelligent, motivated and have the resources and connections to provide for her potential offspring and protect them. Still, its not enough to just be rich. There are other aspects to weigh too like morality, kindness, humor, sharing common interests etc.
Michal2012 Posted January 5, 2013 Posted January 5, 2013 I think not only girls but also man also think that he should have the girl who earn lot money
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