Author Gingerxr2 Posted January 6, 2013 Author Posted January 6, 2013 Well that's another day done and another day closer , I actually feel ok considering the roller coaster of emotions of today , the anniversary of mums death , and honestly thought the ex would contact me to see if I'm ok ? But like someone said on my other thread , she proberly didn't even recognise the date as important , or our anniversary date 3 days ago . The pain seems to be gone for now and all this let down doesn't seem that important anymore , back to work tomorrow and signed up for a gym today lets hope there will be structure ? Night guys x
HeyJoes Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 (edited) I'm in the same boat, my friend. After 5 years of a healthy and fun relationship, engaged for 2 years, out of the blue she lies, cheats, and treats me like trash. I just can't understand her actions, but I've let it go and I'm moving on. Never trust anyone but yourself for 100%, lesson learned. Here's my thread posted on enotalone : Ex girlfriend in a long distance rebound... I guess. Edited January 7, 2013 by HeyJoes
Inviv_girl Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 women....y'all are some CRAZY creatures... Hey dont say that, Im a woman, and I would never hurt my partner like that. My ex- left me out of the blue, he said his feelings "changed"! the "I love you" he said to me every single day suddenly gone.. he told my family we will get marriage etc..etc... and bang now he left! my family and I left with mocks from everybody about the married joke! people make fun of us now and this is seriously NOT easy. My family and I live in the country side and our houses are here. I can go away and move somewhere but my family (big family) live in the country for a life time. Can you imagine how I feel? Im broken heart, hurts lie hell and I am still devastated and left with the questions "why me?" "how could he do this to me and my family?" 1
Author Gingerxr2 Posted January 7, 2013 Author Posted January 7, 2013 I'm in the same boat, my friend. After 5 years of a healthy and fun relationship, engaged for 2 years, out of the blue she lies, cheats, and treats me like trash. I just can't understand her actions, but I've let it go and I'm moving on. Never trust anyone but yourself for 100%, lesson learned. Here's my thread posted on enotalone : Ex girlfriend in a long distance rebound... I guess. It's the letting go part that I'm struggling with mate and I know why ! It's the damn right bitchy nature of it all , how someone I loved whole heartedly could change , but not nicely . I guess her way of ending a long relationship I her head was easier to just do it and not regret it , delete everything and that way force herself to move on ? But seriously how is that healthy ? Make up some bulks hit to stop her friends asking questions ? It's bull**** not only have I had a emotional break down I'm made to look a ******* to her parents and to her friends , and then when I flipped because I was upset and begging to get her back , played into her hands . I know I'm better off without ! Still hurts though !
Inviv_girl Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 The amount of times I have questioned how she cannot miss me and wonder if she's thinking about me it's easier to think that she is not , even if they are you will never know about it ! We are the hurt ones the ones that truly cared , it's hard and some days it's worse than others , it's 4 months for me and it's not hurting as bad but still hurts 4 months for me too and Im still crying everyday, I keep myself busy during the day but when Im laying in my bed I just couldnt sleep and the thought of him haunted me, also I will contanstly woken up during mysleep and have huge anxiety and thinking so much about him and wonder what his doing.
Author Gingerxr2 Posted January 7, 2013 Author Posted January 7, 2013 4 months for me too and Im still crying everyday, I keep myself busy during the day but when Im laying in my bed I just couldnt sleep and the thought of him haunted me, also I will contanstly woken up during mysleep and have huge anxiety and thinking so much about him and wonder what his doing. I went through that stage the why me stage , and the anxiety stage , and that does get easier in the end doesn't go away just gets easier , I live in the countryside to , it's quite hard isn't it , the long silent nights , I guess when you said that not all women are the same , you have to look at it as not all us blokes are the same , If it makes any easier for you your not alone through this x
HeyJoes Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 (edited) It's the letting go part that I'm struggling with mate and I know why ! It's the damn right bitchy nature of it all , how someone I loved whole heartedly could change , but not nicely . I guess her way of ending a long relationship I her head was easier to just do it and not regret it , delete everything and that way force herself to move on ? But seriously how is that healthy ? Make up some bulks hit to stop her friends asking questions ? It's bull**** not only have I had a emotional break down I'm made to look a ******* to her parents and to her friends , and then when I flipped because I was upset and begging to get her back , played into her hands . I know I'm better off without ! Still hurts though ! Well, my girl emotionally cheated on me and it started 3 months before she broke up and is still with that guy, 3 months later. She never told me anything, always denied it...i found out 2 months after the split. She WAS very sweet and caring, typical nice girl in nature. She did the same, erased me from her life and painted me black, treated me like ****. And I KNOW i was a good boyfriend, I have 3 ex girlfriends calling me asking for second chances after hearing I am single again. I think it has something to do with guilt, she has to justify her actions, she has to villainize me. Otherwise she cant handle the guilt and the shame of what she did. That and probably wanting to be left alone and enjoy her new guy, without having to face the hard facts - that shes a cheating ****. Edited January 8, 2013 by HeyJoes
Author Gingerxr2 Posted January 8, 2013 Author Posted January 8, 2013 In a way I'm glad she's blocked me out that way it forces me to move on and starting to make head way !
Author Gingerxr2 Posted January 9, 2013 Author Posted January 9, 2013 Hi guys , it's been a couple of days since my last posts and it's been quite good , I reopened my Facebook account , and after a sneaky look on my ex's page I realise that it didn't hurt ,she looked happy but honestly didn't bother me , so i shut it and friend requested all my old friends and carried on , then as I was driving to work I pasted her in the street she wouldn't have known it was me as I have a new car , but my god she looked miserable ! We're talking proper miserable !! And I'll be honest a big smile was on my face , thinking welcome to my world bitch !!
AliceInBlunderland Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 @CrashvactorMy boyfriend did the same thing he came to N. Africa (from I reland)wherer I was away for a month working and completely surprised me and popped the Q. I said yes 1 year on I'm thinking of calling it quits (I have my reasons) could you answer a few questions for me please? How did your break up come about? Were you completely blindsided?? Did you want the relationship to end? How did you cope? Did you ever forgive her? Do you hate her? Have you found someone new? Do you think it was the right decision? Did it take you long to move on? On a scale of 0-Adele how hurt were you??
Coping Vortex Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 @CrashvactorMy boyfriend did the same thing he came to N. Africa (from I reland)wherer I was away for a month working and completely surprised me and popped the Q. I said yes 1 year on I'm thinking of calling it quits (I have my reasons) could you answer a few questions for me please? How did your break up come about? Were you completely blindsided?? Did you want the relationship to end? How did you cope? Did you ever forgive her? Do you hate her? Have you found someone new? Do you think it was the right decision? Did it take you long to move on? On a scale of 0-Adele how hurt were you?? Alice I don't know if you will hear back from Crash as he got some devastating news form ex yesterday and he said he would be off LS for awhile. I guess she decided she was moving away from him and it crushed him. He has been taking his BU hard. I know the feeling. I hope he is doing OK.
AliceInBlunderland Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 Wow that sucks...I feel bad now should I delete post? Maybe I will..
Coping Vortex Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 Wow that sucks...I feel bad now should I delete post? Maybe I will.. Below is the first few lines from CrashVector's last post: "I will not be posting here for a while after this. the conversation was more than I can bear. She told me she is moving out of the state. She repeated that her reason for ending the relationship indeed was what I posted in the original thread I made...she felt that I needed more than she could give me. Plain and simple."
Author Gingerxr2 Posted January 14, 2013 Author Posted January 14, 2013 Below is the first few lines from CrashVector's last post: "I will not be posting here for a while after this. the conversation was more than I can bear. She told me she is moving out of the state. She repeated that her reason for ending the relationship indeed was what I posted in the original thread I made...she felt that I needed more than she could give me. Plain and simple." Not good
Author Gingerxr2 Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 Well 1 weeks to go and it will be her birthday , we'd be going on holiday today to Cornwall as we have done for the last five years , it's hard breaking the habit and not doing it ! What worse is that I know she has gone with her friends and had that planned before we even had split , it's heartbreaking as I really enjoyed going with her on her birthday !!! Every picture of Cornwall reminds me if her and the fun we had together Horrible horrible horrible
Author Gingerxr2 Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 Well tomorrow is the day I have been fearing !! I actually feel sick ! Although this whole week is making me feel emotionally drained I know she will be enjoying it with other people this year , and it's making me sad !!
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