Necromancer Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I was wondering about the player stuff and one thing really crossed my mind. Does sweet talking really work?. Examples: I have only been thinking about you, You are perfect, you are the only girl in my world. This kind of stuff, it seems desperate as fück. I think it might work if you are really good looking or above her in attractiveness. Average guy not so much. What's your though on this?.
Author Necromancer Posted January 2, 2013 Author Posted January 2, 2013 Only if she's already attracted to you. Looks theory at it's best. Good looking guys can act however they want, it will still work and be considered charming.
KungFuJoe Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Newsflash: good looking people have it easier 2
MrNate 2.0 Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I was wondering about the player stuff and one thing really crossed my mind. Does sweet talking really work?. Examples: I have only been thinking about you, You are perfect, you are the only girl in my world. This kind of stuff, it seems desperate as fück. I think it might work if you are really good looking or above her in attractiveness. Average guy not so much. What's your though on this?. If used the right way, it will certainly almost never hurt you. Whether the woman is attracted to you or not.
carhill Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Can you really make a girl fall for you with sweet talk If she's otherwise attracted to you, sure. Cart after horse. 'Otherwise attracted' means she is on the attraction side of neutral. If neutral or unattracted, IME fuggetaboutit.
todreaminblue Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I was wondering about the player stuff and one thing really crossed my mind. Does sweet talking really work?. Examples: I have only been thinking about you, You are perfect, you are the only girl in my world. This kind of stuff, it seems desperate as fück. I think it might work if you are really good looking or above her in attractiveness. Average guy not so much. What's your though on this?. If a woman is truly into a guy he can talk about the magnetic capability of a philips head screw driver and the woman will listen not only that but ask questions and be encouraging about topics of conversation and interests ...ok i would.....the same goes with sweet talk veto on the questions ont eh sweet talk but it wouldnt turn me off.... it is flattering......might make me blush if i liked him........lol.. but if i am not attracted to a guy i am cautious with sweet talk.......not won over....rather talk about a phillips head........its a bit embarrassing but flattering and thats honest.....i tend not to believe it and when i am attracted i would like to believe it thats the difference.........deb
Author Necromancer Posted January 2, 2013 Author Posted January 2, 2013 Newsflash: good looking people have it easier Not only in dating, but life itself. By acknowledging Looks Theory you do whatever you can to increase your Looks. Looks Theory = better life.
todreaminblue Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Not only in dating, but life itself. By acknowledging Looks Theory you do whatever you can to increase your Looks. Looks Theory = better life. cough....choke.....splutter...sigh
Author Necromancer Posted January 2, 2013 Author Posted January 2, 2013 If she's otherwise attracted to you, sure. Cart after horse. 'Otherwise attracted' means she is on the attraction side of neutral. If neutral or unattracted, IME fuggetaboutit. So it can kill attraction if she is only slightly interested?.
Fondue Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I can never talk like that. It just seems so... yuck. I dunno, if that **** ever came out of my mouth I'd have to puke right after. I don't know how men do it. You might as be wearing pink panties while talking trash like that. Princess men. 2
TouchedByViolet Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I worked with a guy who had the gift of gab as they say. He was incredibly smooth when talking to women and seemed to always know what to say. That is the perfect combination of funny, and sexy. So yes, sweet talk or more accurately knowing what to say and how to say makes a huge difference. However, this skill is has a high difficulty.
TheZebra Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I guess if you have a woman who's really unloved and deprived, as well as really innocent then that stuff might work. If I'm hearing that from a guy on the first date, much less in the first 5 minutes, my BS alert would be flashing. Hell, even if we're 5 dates in I can tell if he doesn't mean it... and most women with an ounce of experience and self respect do too. 3
carhill Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 So it can kill attraction if she is only slightly interested?. You make an important distinction and this bears emphasis. *Anything* can kill attraction and a man generally will never realize it until a billion seconds after the one second it happened. Perhaps a billion is an exaggeration The OP is talking about 'making a girl fall for you with sweet talk'. As an example, *If* a girl finds 'sweet talk' to be unattractive and doesn't believe in it or associates it with hurtful life experiences, even if she has an inkling of initial attraction, that sweet talk can kill her attraction deader than a doornail and the man, thinking/feeling he's being sweet, likely will be completely unaware until that fateful moment of social lubrication resulting in 'it's not you, it's me'. Many potentials. Hopefully a long life to experience some of them.
ThaWholigan Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Some guys can pull off the sweet talk because that's how they communicate with women naturally, its congruent with who they are in terms of how they attract. It doesn't necessarily mean they have to look good, it just means it has to sync with the way they are naturally - also it helps if he is smart enough to target women who will respond to that. They might not "fall for them", but it certainly can't hurt if there is a base level of attraction - which if these guys are smart, it usually is. Sweet talkers do the damn thing when it comes to girls, both ugly and good looking. I'm not a great "sweet talker", I'm very direct with my compliments, I'll tell a woman she's straight up sexy, and add in my own particular variety of adjectives - I can be sweet, but I'm wordy more than anything and I use that to convey my passion. My directness is my asset - I just use lots of words to sharpen my blunt approach . Some guys don't even have to talk, they use their body and make women fall for them. It doesn't even have to be a model type body, or the most handsome face, but an expression that is so natural that most women will find it endearing and sexy. 1
veggirl Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I can never talk like that. It just seems so... yuck. I dunno, if that **** ever came out of my mouth I'd have to puke right after. I don't know how men do it. You might as be wearing pink panties while talking trash like that. Princess men. ha ha ha. I am super turned off if hear that kinda stuff from a guy I am just getting to know / just starting to date. I do think it works on a lot of girls though, assuming they are already attracted to you. The girls that are planning your future on the 3rd date are the girls who would eat this s.hit up!
movingon12 Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Some girls would like it - if she's attracted to you already. But if she's not attracted to you, or you go too far, it would descend into creepy very rapidly. Everyone likes to be complimented - the important thing is knowing what to compliment her on and how much is too much. I doubt it's the kind of thing you can learn to do well - some guys are naturally good at this kind of thing, some aren't. Note I said 'if she's attracted to you' NOT 'if you're attractive'. What is/isn't attractive is far more subjective than most people here are willing to accept.
Mme. Chaucer Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 By acknowledging Looks Theory you do whatever you can to increase your Looks. Looks Theory = better life. "Looks Theory"? As stated, good looking people have it easier. So what. That hardly qualifies as a "theory." Try to look your best without spending a great deal of time, energy and money on it. Excessive vanity is an unattractive, boring trait. There are a lot of more worthwhile things to be exerting your life force upon.
Mme. Chaucer Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 So it can kill attraction if she is only slightly interested?. It can kill attraction if she gets it that you are trying to use lame lines on her, and most halfway smart girls would lose attraction even if they were VERY attracted before the lame lines emerged. If you are going to "sweet talk," you better come up with something within reason to say … not like "you're perfect."
veggirl Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 It can kill attraction if she gets it that you are trying to use lame lines on her, and most halfway smart girls would lose attraction even if they were VERY attracted before the lame lines emerged. If you are going to "sweet talk," you better come up with something within reason to say … not like "you're perfect." Well we see posts even here on LS where girls are confused because a guy has sweet talked her and told her she is the most beautiful girl and she is perfect etc and then he disappears. I think it does work more than possibly women would like to admit, even on some "smart" girls.
Joaquin Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 (edited) In a niteclub, bar or cold situation where the girl doesn't know u before I would say not. It's a serious battle to make the kinda connection if u don't have the physicals to back it up. I think that sort of attraction is over in 2 secs. They wanna do u, or not. However, I strongly believe that outside the cold situation ( where the girl recognises u) anny guy can get any girl by not being to much of a dickhead. Sweet talk becomes unnecessary, and can be replaced with being yr funny engaging self. Edited January 2, 2013 by Joaquin
movingon12 Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 At uni, I had a male friend who had great success with girls by either: a) Going up to any attractive girl he could see, standing in front of her and literally repeating every single cheesy chat up line he knew (do you believe in love at first sight or do I have to walk past you again etc etc etc). or b) Going in with: "Please let me have sex with you. Please. It won't take long. Honestly. You'll hardly even notice. You don't even need to be awake...". The guy was on the attractive side of average - definitely no super model - but it worked. Not because of what he was saying clearly, but because of the way he said it and the vibe he gave off.
Author Necromancer Posted January 2, 2013 Author Posted January 2, 2013 At uni, I had a male friend who had great success with girls by either: a) Going up to any attractive girl he could see, standing in front of her and literally repeating every single cheesy chat up line he knew (do you believe in love at first sight or do I have to walk past you again etc etc etc). or b) Going in with: "Please let me have sex with you. Please. It won't take long. Honestly. You'll hardly even notice. You don't even need to be awake...". The guy was on the attractive side of average - definitely no super model - but it worked. Not because of what he was saying clearly, but because of the way he said it and the vibe he gave off. The A part really is funny as shît, its so lame that it becomes funny. The B part on the other hand is sad.
Author Necromancer Posted January 2, 2013 Author Posted January 2, 2013 It can kill attraction if she gets it that you are trying to use lame lines on her, and most halfway smart girls would lose attraction even if they were VERY attracted before the lame lines emerged. If you are going to "sweet talk," you better come up with something within reason to say … not like "you're perfect." I have really never liked smart women, I want a woman who is more on the wild side but not to wild.
Treasa Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I was wondering about the player stuff and one thing really crossed my mind. Does sweet talking really work?. Examples: I have only been thinking about you, You are perfect, you are the only girl in my world. This kind of stuff, it seems desperate as fück. I think it might work if you are really good looking or above her in attractiveness. Average guy not so much. What's your though on this?. Once upon a time, sure. Now I roll my eyes at that crap and it almost triggers my gag reflex.
Imported Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Sweet talking works. It doesn't even have to be sweet. Challenging, genuine and honest seems to be better for me. Women either really like me on sight or they try to hate me it seems. Of the ones that want to dislike me, turning them can be as easy as walking up to them and smiling at them or it can take a lot more effort. I have had some women I know are talking **** about me and when I walk up to them and give them attention, they're falling over themselves, fumbling up their words when they talk to me. There have been very few girls that tried to dislike me, that I thought of as attractive and wanted her, that didn't eventually give me a tryout. Truthfully, I think they do want me, but either think I will just use them or that they don't have a shot. I have even had women that knew me, my history everything and actually had reason to not like me, but would change their mind with a little attention and some very well placed genuine complimenting to boost their ego. It's not that difficult.
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